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We inspire and enable people to improve their lives and the world around them.
To my family: Kristina, Hayden, and Eve.
Youre the most important thing in my life.
And to our parents, Mohan and Roopi, Virgo and Ljubov, for allowing us to forge our own beliefs and question the Brules, even as kids.
CONTENTS
CHAPTER 1 Transcend the Culturescape
Where We Learn to Question the Rules of the World We Live In
CHAPTER 2 Question the Brules
Where We Learn That Much of How the World Runs Is Based on Bulls**t Rules Passed Down from Generation to Generation
CHAPTER 3 Practice Consciousness Engineering
Where We Learn How to Accelerate Our Growth by Consciously Choosing What to Accept or Reject from the Culturescape
CHAPTER 4 Rewrite Your Models of Reality
Where We Learn to Choose and Upgrade Our Beliefs
Where We Discover How to Get Better at Life by Constantly Updating Our Daily Systems
CHAPTER 6 Bend Reality
Where We Identify the Ultimate State of Human Existence
CHAPTER 7 Live in Blissipline
Where We Learn about the Important Discipline of Maintaining Daily Bliss
CHAPTER 8 Create a Vision for Your Future
Where We Learn How to Make Sure That the Goals Were Chasing Will Really Lead to Long-Term Happiness
CHAPTER 9 Be Unfuckwithable
Where We Learn How to Be Fear-Proof
CHAPTER 10 Embrace Your Quest
Where We Learn How to Put It All Together and Live a Life of Meaning
BEFORE YOU BEGIN: KNOW THAT THIS IS NOT YOUR TYPICAL BOOK
I n fact, I would be hesitant to call this a personal growth book. Its more of a personal disruption book. This book forces you to rethink aspects of your life that may have been running on autopilot for years.
Which means that within months of reading this book, you may find yourself no longer accepting certain aspects of your current reality. Your relationships, your career, your goals, your spiritual beliefs may all be forced to change as you come to understand that many of your beliefs and past decisions were never taken on by choicebut were installed by default.
This book is designed to disrupt the way you see the world and to give you the tools to shift the world through cognitive changes in your mind. In short, it creates an awakening. Once you see the patterns this book unveils, you cannot unsee them.
Depending on your worldview, you will either love this book or hate this book. Thats by design. Its because we grow through discomfort or insight. But never through apathy.
In addition to the ideas it contains, this book is also unique in several ways:
NEW WORDS: This book contributes more than 20 new words to the English language. I had to create new words to describe (sometimes humorously) the new models for living that youll be introduced to. Words are powerful, as they influence how we see the world. Once you understand these words, your perspective of certain things will change.
THE ONLINE EXPERIENCE: This book comes with its own custom-designed app with hours of additional content, practices, training, and more. Do you especially like a particular idea from one of the thinkers I mention in the bookfor example, Peter Diamandis? You can use the app to dive in deeper and listen to my full interview with him. Do you really enjoy a particular technique I share? The app will let you play a video of me guiding you through the technique. Youll find gorgeous images, photos, ideas, and more, all on the Online Experience available for web, Android, and iOS. You can therefore read this book in a few hours, or you can choose to spend days exploring and deep-diving into the full content. Access it from www.mindvalley.com/extraordinary.
THE SOCIAL LEARNING PLATFORM: Since this book is about questioning life, as I wrote it, I began questioning the traditional ways books are made. One of my biggest annoyances with the idea of a book in todays world is that you cannot easily interact with fellow readers or with the author. For this book, I decided to fix this flaw. I had my team develop a social learning platform to allow authors and readers to interact and learn from each other. This is the first of its kind in the world. You can interact with other readers, share ideas, and even communicate with me directly from your mobile device or computer when you sign up for the online experience. This makes this book perhaps one of the most technologically hooked-up volumes in history. You can access the Social Learning Platform via the Online Experience on www.mindvalley.com/extraordinary.
LEARNING METHODOLOGY: This book is designed to help you learn through a learning model upgrade I call Consciousness Engineering. Once you understand this, every idea in the book starts to connect. Furthermore, youll learn HOW TO learn. After reading this book, every other book you read on personal growth will make more sense and youll absorb their ideas better.
WRITING STYLE: My best and most meaningful conversations tend to happen with friends over a few drinks in a social setting. Were vulnerable, were honest, were open, were transparent. When I have these conversations on life and business (often over a glass of wine), I love sketching on napkins to illustrate ideas. I bring this same style into this book. Youll find the napkin illustrations, the personal stories, the raw vulnerability. I wrote things down I never thought Id share publicly, but I share here because I feel others can learn from my errors.
COLLABORATION: This book involves more than 200 hours of interviews with many of the leading players on the world stage today. Arianna Huffington and Dean Kamen edited chapters. Richard Branson, Peter Diamandis, Michael Beckwith, and Ken Wilber gave me hours of one-on-one discussions and interviews. I even got to pose a question (via my wife) to the Dalai Lama. I integrate all of these ideas into the Code because I consider these men and women to be role models we can all learn from.
THIS IS FOUR BOOKS IN ONE: I consider my time (and yours) precious, and I dislike reading personal growth books that drag on and on for 70,000 words trying to teach a relatively simple concept. I have no wish to stretch out an ideathat just means wasted time for busy readers who understand concepts fast. So this book is really packed with knowledge. To offer you the best value possible, in each of the books four parts, Ive tried to provide a richly detailed yet cohesive set of ideas. Each part stands well alone, yet together, they form a philosophy for living. My aim was to deliver maximum wisdom, in a fun way, in minimal time.