Wolsak - Choose Again: Six Steps to Freedom

CHOOSEAGAIN
Six Steps to Freedom

by Diederik Wolsak

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T A B L E O F CO N T E N T S

by Gerald Jampolsky, MD

A Journey from Hellion to Healer

Who Do You Think You Are?

Who You Are In Truth

The Choose Again Six-Step Process To EmotionalFreedom

Step One: Recognize That I am Upset

Step Two: Me. Its about Me

Step Three: Feel the Feeling

Step Four: Remember My Ancient Feelings

Step Five: Establish My Judgment of Myself

Step Six: Embrace the Absolute Truth about Me

Family Dynamics and the Six-Step Process

Six-Step Mis-steps

Implications and Applications of the Six-StepProcess

: Feelings Sheet

:Other Tools of Transformation

: Testimonials

: Recommended Reading

I wish I could show you,

When you are lonely or in the darkness,

The Astonishing Light Of your own Being!

~ H afiz

Foreword

With my wife andprofessional partner, Diane Cirincione-Jampolsky, I first metDiederik Wolsak in 2001, and we bonded immediately with him. He hastaken the principles of Attitudinal Healing and A Course in Miracles around theworld. His Six-Step Process, lectures, and workshops have helpedmany people change their lives for the better. Diederik started theCenter for Attitudinal Healing, known as Choose Again, inVancouver, Canada, and later opened a retreat center, El Cielo, inCosta Rica. It was our honor to spend time at the retreat center in2012, where we found people from all over the world. We reallydidnt know what to expect before we arrived, but the work we wereexposed to went far beyond anything we might have envisioned. Infact, in the 52 countries that have Attitudinal Healing centers, wehave never seen such a clear and effective approach. We wereimpressed that the staff was able to help people with manydifferent kinds of challenges, including difficult addictions. Wefound El Cielo to be a remarkable around-the-clock healing center,with the Six-Step Process being the cornerstone of the therapeutictechnique.

We had travelled to Costa Rica with the fullunderstanding that we would participate in the centers activities,not merely be passive observers. And indeed, Diederik made it clearthat he did not want us to sit idly by or even just give a talk ortwo. Instead, he wanted us to become part of the mix part of thegroup healing process, the focus of which is learning to see thevalue of letting go of the self-imposed blocks to love that many ofus experience blocks such as guilt and judgment. Members of thegroup learn how to apply the Six-Step Process to discover and thencorrect those blocks. We learn to be responsible for our ownhappiness, rather than blaming others for our state of unhappiness.We also learn that it is only our own thoughts and attitudes thathurt us, and that forgiving others and ourselves completely is thetrue key to happiness. We come to understand, in a deep andprofound way, that the universe has given all of us the freedom tochoose what thoughts and attitudes we put into our minds.

Choose Again teaches that we dont have togo through life feeling like were a victim of circumstance.Rather, we have full control of how we experience our inner as wellas outer lives. We learn that there is a healer inside of us andthat we can decide to make a decision to be a love-finder ratherthan a faultfinder, a giver of love rather than a seeker of love,and to live in a consciousness of giving rather than ofgetting.

Centers and groups devoted to AttitudinalHealing study its twelve principles, the first of which is: Theessence of our being is love. Weve always thought that if wecould practice just this one principle consistently, we wouldntneed to use the other eleven because in this first principlesapplication we are also able to recognize that the essence ofeveryone elses being is love, too. Diederiks process reminds ushow powerfully healing this principle is.

Diederiks work helps us understand thatlife is about choices both conscious and unconscious and ifwere not happy with the choices weve made along the way, we canalways forgive ourselves and choose once again.

If there is something inyour life thats not working, if you sense an emptiness, a lack ofpurpose, if you continue to be anxious and fearful, if youre stillhurt about the past and fearful of the future, and if youvereached a point in your life where you say to yourself, There hasto be a better way, then this book was meant for you. It is withgreat enthusiasm that Diane and I recommend it to you; treat itwith utmost respect for it has the power and the potential totruly change your life. Gerald Jampolsky,m.d. , Founder of Attitudinal Healing,Co-Author of A Mini Course forLife ; Change YourMind, Change Your Life

Introduction

There is no other way outof misery, which you have created for yourself through blindacceptance without investigation. Suffering is a call for enquiry,all pain needs investigation. Dont be too lazy to think. ~ Nisargadatta

Do you pour yourself astiff drink or a glass of wine every night to unwind from astressful day at work?

Is your current marriagebeginning to look a lot like your last?

Do you find yourself stuckin the same rut over and over again?

Does anger seem to flashup within you, seemingly on its own?

Does real life seem tobe passing you by?

Are you numb from takingantidepressants?

Do you seem to haveeverything yet feel an emptiness, and a nagging sense thatsomethings missing?

If you answered yes to any of thesequestions, then this book is for you. Happiness is your birthright,and now is a good time to claim it.

If not now, when?

I have no reason to be happy and yet I am I am unreasonably happy. Scarred from a childhood most wouldconsider traumatic, most of my adult years were dedicated toself-loathing and self-destruction. The first three and a halfyears of my life I had been starved of the most basic needs:healthy food, clean drinking water, baths, medical checkups, safetyand security. That I survived at all is remarkable. How I managedto create a (relatively) normal, (reasonably) well-adjusted, andhappy life now is the subject of this book for I had to discoverhow to be happy in order to overcome the chronic rage thatcharacterized the first fifty years of my life. I developed theChoose Again Six-Step Process out of necessity, for my own healingand survival, and I have shared it with numerous grateful clientsover the years. It is now yours to use if you choose to do so.

This book shows you how to use thistransformational technique to attain inner joy and peace in yourown life whatever your circumstances, by first identifying and thenremoving barriers to love, joy, and lasting peace regardless ofthe stories, symptoms, and diagnoses that you now claim as yourown.

By reading this book and applying the ChooseAgain Six-Step process, you can expect to:

Embark on a journey ofself-discovery

Identify and releasethought patterns that no longer serve you

Banish shame &blame

Relinquish the victimposition once and for all

Free yourself of yourunconscious beliefs

Nurture inner peace andserenity

Enrich the quality of yourlife

Transform your life forgood

Experience the freedomthat comes from taking 100% ownership of your life

One of the foundational premises of thisprocess is that nothing outside of me can bring me anything Ineed, and nothing outside of me needs to change in order for me tobe happy. Once we realize this, we can get to work examining thebarriers to this awareness the barriers to love that we havecreated as self-defense. As a result of these barriers we may feeldepressed and withdrawn, or we may be addicted to various chemicalsubstances, or may be suffering from any of a number of maladies orconditions. The Choose Again Six-Step Process allows us to removethese barriers to love barriers that we ourselves haveconstructed and in so doing, find the deep inner peace, whichevery one of us, whether we realize it or not, are alwaysseeking.