P RAISE FOR
WIRED THAT WAY
Accepting how I was wired changed my life. It freed me from my
masks so that I could shine in the skin of my God-given personality.
This book goes beyond a quick look at our built-in styles. It spotlights the
bigger picture and teaches us the way to respond to others and revive our
relationships. Sound and sensible, filled with engaging personal stories,
Wired That Way is definitely a keeper. Prepare for dog-eared pages.
J AN C OLEMAN
S PEAKER AND A UTHOR , W OMAN B EHIND THE M ASK : T RADING Y OUR F ACADE FOR A UTHENTIC L IFE
What a relationship builder! Wired That Way equips readers to
understand that we are all wired differently, giving us a new understanding
for our mates, children and friends. Marita Littauer takes the guesswork
out of the thought process behind actions and encourages us to love
those around us just the way God made them.
L INDA G ILDEN
A UTHOR OF THE L OVE N OTES S ERIES :
L OVE N OTES IN L UNCHBOXES AND L OVE N OTES ON H IS P ILLOW
Marita Littauer has done it again! She has tuned in to what we really
need to know and understand about ourselves and others and has then
translated that information into a practical, reader-friendly format that
will educate, enlighten and encourage us to fulfill Gods purposes for our lives. Wired
That Way will free us to be all that God created us to be and to
graciously allow others to do the same. This book is a reminder that God has already
gifted us to fulfill what He has called us to do and that when we
operate accordingly, the Body of Christ will function in unity and power.
K ATHI M ACIAS
A UTHOR , THE M ATTHEWS AND M ATTHEWS D ETECTIVE N OVELS :
O BSESSION , T HE P RICE AND T HE R ANSOM
A great resource! Wired That Way will help you learn to connect with
people more effectively on personal, social and professional levels. You
might even learn something about yourself in the process!
C YNDY S ALZMANN
N ATIONAL S PEAKER
A UTHOR , D YING TO D ECORATE! AND B EYOND G ROUNDHOGS AND G OBBLERS
2006 Marita Littauer
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This book could not have been written without my mother
pouring everything she knows about the Personalities into me.
Together, we have studied the Personalities for nearly 40 years.
My mother has given me the freedom to take this topic into
entirely new realms. We now have Certified Personality Trainers
in many countriesincluding, of course, the United States
who are taking the message to the masses.
This book brings together both the basic teaching
on the Personalities that we have been sharing for years and
the newer developments that have come about through the
impact of our audiences questions and the insights of
our Certified Personality Trainersmany of whom
you will hear from throughout these pages.
Thanks Mom. I hope I do you proud.
Contents
Chapter 1
Foundation and Background
Chapter 2
Visible Clues
Chapter 3
Strengths and Weaknesses
Chapter 4
Personality Blends
Chapter 5
Emotional Needs
Chapter 6
Marriage
Chapter 7
Parenting
Chapter 8
Communication
Chapter 9
Workplace
Chapter 10
Spiritual Life
Thank you to my online reading group and
my Certified Personality Trainers, who eagerly
read each chapter in its roughest form, critiqued
and commented, and added their stories, thus
enriching the text and illustrating the points
I was making. I appreciate each of you!
FOUNDATION AND
BACKGROUN
Have you ever noticed that there are people out there who are different from you? Perhaps you live with them. Maybe you work with them. But chances are that you have noticed differences and you have wished that you could change those people. You may have even gone so far as to try to fix them by suggesting that their way of thinking, attitude and approach to life should be more like your own. But these attempts usually end in futility and frustration. Those peoples differences just seem to be hardwired into their Personality.
As you think about those people whom you may have tried to change (and as you reflect on your own personal growth), I want you to consider Romans 12:18: If it is possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with everyone. I love how this verse is presented in three parts. The first part says, if it is possible. It is as if God is giving us a disclaimeras if He is saying that this is a goal we should try to reach. The second part says, so far as it depends on you, making this our individual responsibility tothe last partbe at peace with everyone.