Andrea McLean - This Girl Is on Fire

I greatly admire how Andrea fearlessly shares her recovery journey in the pursuit of serving others. Let her story inspire you to transform and grow.

GABRIELLE BERNSTEIN, #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF THE UNIVERSE HAS YOUR BACK

Andrea is a glorious human being and an inspiring writer she is going to help so many people with this wonderful, healing book.

BRYONY GORDON, #1 BESTSELLING AUTHOR AND AWARD-WINNING MENTAL HEALTH CAMPAIGNER

I know this book will change the lives of so many people. The stories Andrea shares are honest, open and captivating to read, but at the same time full of incredible takeaways that are transformational. That combined with the practical steps she shares makes this book so impactful and one Ill read over and over again.

CARRIE GREEN, FOUNDER OF THE FEMALE ENTREPRENEUR ASSOCIATION AND AUTHOR OF SHE MEANS BUSINESS

An inspiring shot in the arm for any woman who wants to thrive and live her best life. Its like sitting down with an honest, kind friend who will champion you through good times and bad.

SUZY WALKER, EDITOR-IN-CHIEF, PSYCHOLOGIES

A fantastic self-help double dose of adrenaline and empathy from someone who has challenged herself to the limit and really understands other women.

VIV GROSKOP, AUTHOR OF HOW TO OWN THE ROOM

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Text Andrea McLean, 2020

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The information given in this book should not be treated as a substitute for professional medical advice; always consult a medical practitioner. Any use of information in this book is at the readers discretion and risk. Neither the author nor the publisher can be held responsible for any loss, claim or damage arising out of the use, or misuse, of the suggestions made, the failure to take medical advice or for any material on third-party websites.

A catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library.

Tradepaper ISBN: 978-1-78817-512-8

E-book ISBN: 978-1-78817-548-7

Audiobook ISBN: 978-1-78817-554-8

For my family
you are my world.

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Shit happens. Life doesnt always work out the way you planned it. Money stress, relationship troubles, parental worries (about both your kids and your parents) The list is long and varied, and thats just personal stuff. Job insecurity, poor pay, horrible bosses and terrible colleagues are the tip of the iceberg when it comes to work stress.

Life can be hard. Things happen to you that arent fair. So by all means have a good old rage about it. Cry, bitch to your friends, get it off your chest. And then decide what YOU are going to DO about it because doing nothing means that nothing changes.

There comes a point and I say this from experience and with love when you cant just blame everyone and everything else for the mess youre in. No ones saying you should forgive and forget and let anyone off the hook. If you want to use your fury, go for it even if youre doing it to prove the bastards wrong! Thats great, as long as you do something productive with it. If your rage lights a fire in your belly, use it as a PUSH to move yourself forwards.

However, I need to tell you now that doing something productive about the things that have gone wrong in your life will mean you cant sit around bitching about them anymore. Theyll become irrelevant that was then, this is now. But if you can put them behind you and look forwards not back, I promise you that AMAZING THINGS WILL HAPPEN. Youll be horrified that you spent so long wallowing, blaming and being a general sourpuss.

Even the friends you moaned to will likely be relieved at the change in conversation. And if they arent, theyre clearly not happy themselves misery loves company, and all that. So, give them a copy of this book and wish them well. We all have a friend who moans constantly but does nothing to change their situation. Have you ever thought that maybe that friend is you? I know how awful I felt when I realized that it was me

But what if you dont have anything in your life to get over or put aside? What if you dont have the fire of rage and injustice to push you forwards? I hear you. Feeling flat, numb, empty, nothingness. It may not have the drama or heat of all-encompassing fury, but it eats away at you all the same. Having no fire left is as soul-destroying as having one thats raging in all the wrong ways. Life can feel overwhelming sometimes: it can be too big, too much, too complicated, too hard. And sometimes you just dont feel strong enough to push.

And thats when you need a PULL. I completely understand this because Ive been there too. You need something to pull you towards the light, towards the spark thatll ignite you again. You think that youll never again feel the warmth of positivity but you will. You think youll never again feel the glow of satisfaction over something you have achieved, no matter how small but you will. You think you can never again feel the heat of passion for life your life but you can.

Fire is one of the most powerful elements on Earth. It can destroy everything if you let it rage; and if you allow your feelings of unfairness, impotence and injustice to burn, theyll ruin you. Your core will be black, charred and empty. But harness that fire, use its power, and itll thaw you, itll warm you from the inside, and itll fill you with the energy and strength you need to move forwards. Itll shine its warming orange glow on everything you see, everything you do.

You can do this; you can be the change you want to see in your world. Because, and this is what it boils down to, no one can do it but you. I know you can do it because if I can, anyone can. Im here to help you, and Ill share everything Ive learned on my journey to becoming a Girl On Fire so that you can become one too.

Lets do this together, and I promise you that youll feel better. Youll feel ON FIRE in all the right ways.

With so much love,

Andrea x

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What do you want? It cant be this because it isnt working for you. At. All. Youre running yourself ragged getting tied up in knots trying to do everything and be everything and for what? Youre making yourself ill, and Im worried about you. You need to stop: NOW!