Lois B. Mayette - You Are What You Believe

YOU ARE WHAT
YOU BELIEVE

BY

LOIS B. MAYETTE

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First published by AuthorHouse 10/21/2011

ISBN: 978-1-4567-9958-8 (sc)

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Contents

Reading is a very important part of my growth and development. I read not so much for new learning but for what I call confirmation or affirmation. On my journey I learn through my spirit guide and because I am a doubting Thomas I need to have proof that I am on the right path. So books have been given to me at the right time as needed. It has been an awesome experience for me. One female friend gave me books like clock work for over 10 years. She was also a reader and writer but how she knew what books to give me next was a mystery to us both.

Since I am a mental health therapist most of this knowledge was kept to myself. Colleagues were certainly not on my page and trying to share my experiences with them was not advisable. I did try to get them to think out of the box, but who was I.

I tell this not to be critical but to show how it is hard to move beyond culture and think for yourself. So here are some authors who kept me company.

First the most important reading is the Bible.

Dr. Bernie Siegel,

Father Powell

Dr.AM Krasner

Stanislov Grof

Wayne Dyer

Deepak Chopra

Betty Edie

Caroline Myss

Jeane Dixon

Nancy Wilson Ross

Stephen Lewis and Evan Slauson

Dan Brown

Sylvia Brown

Frank Tipler

Neale Donald Walsch

Since I read up to 50 books a year this is just a few remembered but they will lead you to the others.

I acknowledge my family most of all, both parents, siblings and my own children all who have taught me much.

I am what I believe as everyone is and we will believe it until it no longer serves us. My beliefs have changed greatly in the last several years. Namely the beliefs around my humanness. My body, mind and spirit approach to life has made for the changes. Who I am and what God is?

We are both spirit or energy. I am a human being which makes me different than God but only because I am heavier in this body and not as free as he/she is. I am a spiritual being having a human experience. I want to explore with you the real self and how to get in touch with the real you. The difference between the ego self and the real self. Some of which you have uncovered already no doubt but much that might be yet to be discovered. It is a journey that is exciting or it should be exciting. Culturally we have not been taught to enjoy the peeling away of the layers of the ego to finding the true self. When I speak of culture here I am referring to the United States in general as we are a young culture and have been very exclusive in our ego centered concepts. We are adolescence at our best and are in much need to grow to the next phase of our being. After adolescence is community, now we were founded on community as the Pilgrims left England because they did not feel free to Be, in that community. I am of Pilgrim decent and may have come full circle in this journey, a little ego maybe there but I can at least hope.

So what makes the individual grow or the culture grow? The direction that we are going in no longer serves us, change comes through outside forces or inside unrest. My take on what one I choose has been to go willingly for the most part to the waters rather than to be forced. If it comes from within it is willingly and if it comes from outside it is forced upon.

Each experience is a teacher and you need to be willing to grow or learn so not to have to repeat the experience over and over. We in the US are being forced to change as we placed our importance in the material which makes us adolescence. In order to move to a higher level of development we need now to see we are all one. What happens to one of us happens to all of us. We need to be a community again in the real sense. Many are already aware of this but the majority needs to understand how to get there from here.

THINKING THE
POWERHOUSE

Thinking is the powerhouse so if you change your thinking you change your feelings and your behavior. Everything goes back to thinking.

A female friend and I were talking to a male one day and he called us bitches. It caught me off guard and my friend saw my shock of being called a bitch. After he had left she turned to me and said, Do you know what you just did? What, I said. You reacted when he called us a bitch, do not you know what BITCH stands for? Then she told me, Babe in total control of herself. I laughed and laughed and wrote it down and never recoiled again. I went on to teach others the definition of bitch. No more sting or power over.

The most powerful of ills in our culture are the labels we give persons. The danger is that they become their label stopping them from becoming all they can become. This is very destructive.

I teach that you are not your disease or label, but I always feel that I am swimming up stream against the current. I try to teach that they are not their label and to use what else is there. Once they and others identify them as the label then it is hard to get them to see they are more than that label. I hear well meaning parents use the excuse for a child doing one thing or another as their label. The tragedy here is that self esteem is greatly eroded and we all are affected.

My son thinks he was dyslexic in his early years and I say, arent you glad you did not know? My point is that he did not limit himself and pulled out of himself everything possible. He went to college and is a very successful hydrogeologist. I have parents that introduce their child, this is my she/he is asperger or ADHD or some such thing. It should be what you have not what you dont have. Teachers and doctors should be taught this in school as well as parents. Institutions gain from labeling and now it is backfiring on us. If we loved each other more we would drop the labeling of anyone. We lose the potential of that person and it affects all of us.

I went to a one room school house and I remember the teacher standing at the blackboard, being sure that we got the difference between the b and d and the g and q and etc. Where have all the good teachers gone that knew it was hard to differentiate between these letters, and she never mentioned a label. I was so blessed to have had that kind of teacher and education. Most of us could skip the eight grade as we had heard it by then and knew it. We had 8th grade regents at that time. I must confess that I did not skip the 8th grade as going to the big high school for the tests took me out of my comfort zone and I could not concentrate. The teacher was shocked but was able to tell me what happened. Labeling can keep us in our comfort zone and not take healthy risks. Being conservative, is fear of the unknown and wanting to stay in the comfort zones. There is no progress in the comfort zones. Risks must be taken in order for growth to take place.