Joya L. Ways - Joy Always: Pocket Wisdom That Will Change Your Life

Almost everybody dreams of romantic love at first sightof the famous butterflies and the great fireworks. Great love seems to be a book with seven seals. How many films and books on the subject of love are out there? Why isnt there a recipe?

Oftentimes, the focus lies on what can be called explosive fire highly intense feelings which supposedly announce great love. But the name reveals what happens alreadythe fire explodes and it usually burns out shortly after. What remains is sound and smoke. As soon as the normal state is regained, you see the other person with different eyes. The praises diminish.

The solid fire , on the other hand, takes time. If the right conditions are provided, it can evolve. Once ignited and blazing, it burns solid and longprobably very long. The same holds true for solid love . But a foundation must be givena common denominator, a shared sense of well - being together, and affection. In this state, you dont feel displaced or crazy and consequently can remain yourself. You must give such a situation a chance and nurture the good feelings, trust, and affectionthey may be the signs of the beginning of love. Contrary to the message conveyed by many romantic films, a deep solid love can emerge much more often than one would expect. This solid love is just as beautiful as explosive love, but it contains less dynamite and will most certainly exist for a long timeif not permanently. In some cases, this development can take place with an explosive fire that turns solid with time. In any case, it takes a lot to extinguish solid fire. The key ingredients are patience (especially at the beginning) and constant care. But who wouldnt want to take care of a beautiful fire or a great love?

Everything has two sides: feelings, shapes, colors, characters, lusts, etc. These two parts bring harmony as a whole. We cannot look at only one side, because it is incomplete and not perfect. It is only when one looks at the whole, that one can find peace and harmony in it.

Nature can be called a dual system because it is based on so - called antagonists. These are complementary or contradictory opposites. The same principle applies to human body sides:

• Left side: controlled from the right brain (holistic perception), feelings, female, yin energy (intuition, emotion, creativity, self - development ), relation to the past
• Right side: controlled from the left brain (logical, rational, time - bound ), physical, male, yang energy (logic, control, fear, mind, material), relation to present and future

For left - handers it is the other way aroundthe left side stands for the present and the future and the right side for the past.

Every person needs balance, but often it is absent from todays meritocracy. Most activities are related to the yang energy. while the yin energy is often missing or underdeveloped. The neglect of yin is one of the main causes of suffering, disease, and disorders. Often, for example, no strength can be drawn from workit stands in the way of fulfillment and joy because that energy delivery and execution take place via the yang energy. Conversely, inspiration and inner perception are related to the yin energy. It is about receptivity which marks the beginning of every action. Thus, with increased openness, more energy can be absorbed.

Qualities fostering the yin and the yang energy:

How do you balance too much yang energy with yin energy? If someone has a lot of yang energy, he or she should exercise a maximum of thirty minutes and no more than twice a day.

Although you might feel strong (negative) emotions toward other persons, you should not immediately act upon your emotions. You can distance yourself and choose who you want to be with. Surround yourself with honest, goodhearted people. However, there is one thing to keep in mindaccording to yin and yang, there are always two sides in each person. Everybody has a light and a dark sideyou must acknowledge this in yourself and in others.

Have you ever heard somebody say, or caught yourself saying, This person has bad energy? There is no such thing as good or bad energytheres only energy. Every elementary or subatomic particle is ultimately nothing but energy. Every chemical, physical, and biological phenomenon is some manifestation of energy.

Its all a matter of perceptionwe choose whether to feel hurt or not by the presence of or interaction with another person. It is our own perception and response and, if we believe that others want bad things for us, we can walk away. If we believe we cant walk away, we can at least choose our response in terms of how much energy we want to spend and how we want to feel. We are in charge of our feelingsnot others.

There is no action without emotion. Every emotion gives you the energy to take action and it is important to realize how our emotions drive us. For example, anger and desire give you energy. Relationships are about emotions. We are all born with the same set of emotions but affected differently by them. It is not the type of emotion that differs from person to person, but our experience, an emotions intensity, and our response that varies. When we express our emotions, we start to connect to people. When our emotions resonate with one another, we relate to one anotheremotionally, we become one.