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Excerpt from Sexual Personae by Camille Paglia. 1990 by Yale University. Reprinted by permission of Yale University Press.
Preface
In 1989, I wrote my autobiography entitled The Wanderer. Afterward I received many comments from readers about how interesting my life was. Quite frankly, Ive always believed that everyone has a fascinating story to tell, they just need to answer the right questions, and the context in which to do it.
In writing my book, questions were used as a framework not only to enable proper sequencing of events, but to facilitate easier recollection of thoughts and memories associated with these events. How often do we ask ourselves: What are the important milestones in my life?, or What did this person really mean to me? Upon answering these questions, a certain clarity about priorities and order in my life emerged. I was able to see the big picture.
This book, Chapters, emerged from this knowledge, and when I met Andi, we decided to begin the task of compiling questions, some fact based, some open-ended, to create an autobiography for every individual, a legacy to be passed down through generations.
Chapters will help you to step outside of yourself and become more objective about your past. In many ways the questions will help you get unstuck in your life; youll be able to move forward and answer from long-held thoughts or dreams. At times it is important to know when to let go.
When you complete this book, it will contain who you are. If you choose to pass it on, you will have established an everlasting bond, that of sharing your thoughts, your hopes and dreams with those you love and who love you.
God Bless,
Dion DiMucci
Acknowledgments
We would like to thank the entire staff at Health Communications for their generous support and kind spirit. Special thanks go to Peter Vegso, Gary Seidler, Christine Belleris, Allison Janse, Kim Weiss, Ronni OBrien and Randee Goldsmith.
Andi gratefully acknowledges: Molly Litt; A. Nicholas Masi, Ph.D.; Wendy Masi, Ph.D.; Pamela Jordan; Janice Bing; Cathy Henretta; Nomie Moss; and Marc, Sari and Leslie Wiener.
She dedicates this book to the memory of her father, Max E. Litt.
Dion gratefully acknowledges: Susan DiMucci; Ben Troxell; Bill Tuohy; Phillys Moffet; Ed Cayia; Sandy Scott; Davin Seay; Tane; Lark; August; and Andi (a big thanks).
Introduction
What busy lives we lead. Our days are filled with work and chores, then we go home to additional responsibilities. Even our recreational time is spent viewing other peoples lives via television, movies and computer screens. When did you last think about life; the ups and downs, the memories and experiences that shaped the individual you are today?
A major void in our lives today is a lack of communication, not only with others, but with ourselves. There is a desperate need to get in touch with feelings, memories and thoughts, and in writing these thoughts comes realization, self-discovery and, most important, validation.
Everyone can write their own autobiography. Well, this is your chance. With pen in hand, take this journey that will thrill, surprise, inspire and reveal the genuinely unique person that you are.
Chapters has been subdivided into age categories, beginning with your earliest memories, and ending with your most recent. The questions are relevant to those specific time periods, and aid in providing continuity and cohesiveness to your answers, hopefully connecting the dots in your life. There are no right or wrong answers, no judgment or bias involved and, most important, no deadline. The only requirement is to be honest and uninhibited in your answersfor this is your story.
CHAPTER 1
The Nurturing YearsBirth to Six
Infancy conforms to nobody;
all conform to it.
EMERSON, SELF-RELIANCE
This chapter will be the most challenging in terms of memory recall. It may be helpful to look at early pictures, or talk to parents or other family members to get more accurate information regarding historical facts, appearance, personality, etc.
Relax. Close your eyes and think back to a simpler time when a big decision was what toy to play with, or what stuffed animal to sleep with. Maybe you can remember playing in the sandbox at nursery school, or climbing a jungle gym; perhaps losing a tooth, and waking up to find money under your pillow, or crying and being comforted by Mom.
You will see how easily these memories flow from your mind when prompted. We all need to get in touch with the child within us.
1. What is your first memory?
2. Where were you born?
3. Who was president and what was happening politically at the time of your birth?
4. If adopted, describe how you were told and at what age. Did you feel special?
5. Did you live in the city, or in the country? In a house, or in an apartment? Describe your surroundings.
6. Describe what you looked like.
7. How do parents or other family members describe you as a child?
8. Describe your relationship with your mother.
9. Describe your relationship with your father.
10. Describe your relationship with your siblings.
11. What was your position in the sibling line? How did you feel about it?
12. Were you closer to your mother or father? Why?
13. Do you remember feeling loved as a child?
14. Do you remember a favorite adult (other than parents) whom you admired?
15. What were your favorite nursery rhymes?
16. What were your favorite radio and television shows, movies and performers?
17. What foods did you enjoy eating? Describe dinnertime at your house.
18. Did you have a favorite scentfor example, your moms perfume or dads cologneor smell that you liked? Describe it.
19. Remember the games you played outside with friends and write about them.
20. What was your favorite game, and why?
21. Describe your favorite toy.
22. If you had a pet during this time, describe it. What other animals did you like?
23. Describe your first day of school.
24. What did you like about school?
25. What do you remember about your teachers?
26. Who was your favorite teacher, and why?
27. Describe what made you happy.
28. What made you sad?
29. What type of trouble did you get into?
30. What punishment do you remember receiving?
31. Write about an embarrassing event.
32. What did you want to be when you grew up?
33. What recreational activities did you like, (i.e., swimming, crafts, etc.), and why?
34. Describe classes you may have begun at this age, such as dance, karate or gymnastics.
35. What was bedtime like? Can you remember any stories read to you?
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