The Staff of Entrepreneur Media - Entrepreneur Voices on Emotional Intelligence

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

The Staff of Entrepreneur Media, Inc.

Entrepreneur Press

Entrepreneur Press, Publisher

Cover Design: Andrew Welyczko

Production and Composition: Eliot House Productions

2018 by Entrepreneur Media, Inc.

All rights reserved.

Reproduction or translation of any part of this work beyond that permitted by Section 107 or 108 of the 1976 United States Copyright Act without permission of the copyright owner is unlawful. Requests for permission or further information should be addressed Entrepreneur Media Inc. Attn: Legal Department, 18061 Fitch, Irvine, CA 92614.

This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering legal, accounting or other professional services. If legal advice or other expert assistance is required, the services of a competent professional person should be sought.

Entrepreneur Press is a registered trademark of Entrepreneur Media, Inc.

ebook ISBN: 978-1-61308-394-9

CONTENTS

BY LEWIS HOWES

by Gerard Adams, serial entrepreneur, angel investor, and philanthropist

by Travis Bradberry, cofounder of TalentSmart

by Mariah DeLeon, professional coach and human resources consultant

by Jonathan Long, entrepreneur, brand builder, and founder of Market Domination Media

by Jayson DeMers, founder and CEO of AudienceBloom

by Mary Deelsnyder, founder of Dee Design Company

by Jayson DeMers, founder and CEO of AudienceBloom

by Ray Hennessey, chief innovation officer at JConnelly

by Anis Qizilbash, founder of Mindful Sales Training, motivational speaker, and author

by Jim Joseph, CEO of Citizen Relations and author of The Experience Effect

by Travis Bradberry, cofounder of TalentSmart

by Travis Bradberry, cofounder of TalentSmart

by Jason Wesbecher, executive vice president of sales and marketing at Corel Corporation

by Tracy Maylett, CEO of DecisionWise, executive advisor, and author

by Ivan Misner, Ph.D., founder of BNI and author of Networking Like a Pro

by Nathan Chan, CEO and publisher of Foundr Magazine

by Kevin Xu, member of the Forbes Nonprofit Council

by David Osborn, entrepreneur, speaker, and author

by Dan Steiner, cofounder and CEO of Elite Legal Marketing and author

by Jayson DeMers, founder and CEO of AudienceBloom

by Ray Hennessey, chief innovation officer at JConnelly

by Ray Hennessey, chief innovation officer at JConnelly

by Lena Requist, president of ONTRAPORT, entrepreneur, speaker, and educator

by Graham Young, performance consultant, coach, and keynote speaker

by Sherrie Campbell, licensed counselor, psychologist, and marriage and family therapist

by Adam Toren, cofounder of Kidpreneurs.org, award-winning author, and entrepreneur

by Barrett Wissman, philanthropist, financier, and principal and co-chairman of IMG Artists

by Sherrie Campbell, licensed counselor, psychologist, and marriage and family therapist

by Deep Patel, serial entrepreneur, marketer, and bestelling author

by Sherrie Campbell, licensed counselor, psychologist, and marriage and family therapist

by Julian Hayes II, founder of The Art of Fitness & Life, fitness consultant, and author

by Zeynep Ilgaz, founder, president, and CEO of Confirm Biosciences

FOREWORD BY LEWIS HOWES

New York Times Bestselling Author,
Top 100 Podcast, www.lewishowes.com

B eing a leader in todays world is very similar and very different from being a leader in times past. In some ways, timeless leadership principles still apply. In other ways, leaders today are expected to be masters of far more skills than ever before. Emotional intelligence is one of those skills that is required but often overlooked, misunderstood, or just ignored. While it is a skill that has always been present in the great leaders of history, today it is something we can openly discuss and study. That is why this book was writtento support the modern-day leaders of business in understanding and living up to their full potential as leaders of human beings. It starts with self-awareness and moves into awareness of others in a powerful and enlightening way.

I was already successful in business, influence, and athletics before I was ever introduced to the idea of emotional intelligence. On the outside, it looked like I had my life and relationships figured out. But in fact, I came to study this skill as a result of some of my worst choices in my relationships. Not only did I realize that I was helpless when I was triggered emotionally, I knew that I had to learn how to understand what was happening inside of me if I wanted to reach my full potential. Through workshops, coaching, mentors, and a lot of practice, emotional intelligence has become one of my most prized skills. I still work on it every day, but the more I learn and apply my findings, the more at peace I become as a person, the more effective I become as a leader, and the better all of my relationships, both business and personal, become.

In fact, studying and applying the principles of emotional intelligence led me to write a book on the masks men wear to avoid showing their emotions. If you had told me six years ago that I would be writing a mainstream book on that topic, I would have been terrified. Only through doing the work of emotional intelligence myself did I find the courage to speak up about how lost I had been when it came to my emotions before.

Im guessing you picked up this book because you too are a seeker. Youre someone who is interested in becoming the very best version of yourself, and you know you have work to do to get there. You may be curious about what other entrepreneurs have to say on this subject. Or you might realize that a mirror to your own inner self can be found by reading the experiences of others. You are right. Investing in learning about how your emotions are triggered, how you respond, and how others are affected by your response is a life-changing decision. Take it from someone whose entire life changed as a result of studying this topic.

Whatever made you pick up this book, I am convinced that if you honestly take in the wisdom offered by these entrepreneurial voices, your relationship with yourself, your team, your business, and your future will transform dramatically. These thought leaders (many of whom I know personally and have learned from myself) are walking the talk when it comes to their self-awareness, relationships, and leadership. Youll have to work hard to find a better collection of wisdom on this topic, especially coming from business owners who have walked the path towards emotional intelligence themselves.

I invite you to open your mind (and heart) wide as you read these stories, insights, and lessons. Let yourself see the reflection of your own strengths and weaknesses as you read their words. Be willing to get uncomfortable, honest, and curious about yourself. What is available to you on the other side is more than a new kind of intelligenceits freedom to be the best version of yourself.

PREFACE

THE ONE TALENT YOU DIDNT KNOW YOU NEEDED

I n his landmark 1990 bestseller, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, journalist Daniel Goleman popularized a revolutionary theory that had been bouncing around academic circles for years: Having a high IQ is not the be all end all. There is another kind of intelligence, emotional intelligence or EQ, that is even more instrumental in helping you succeed in business and in life.