Praise for
The Science of Stuck
In this lively, well-written book, Britt Frank adds her compelling voice to the movement toward listening to rather than avoiding or fighting with what is making you stuck. To use one of her great metaphors, what if anxiety isnt an annoying feeling to ignore or medicate and instead is a warning light on your minds dashboard, indicating that something inside you needs attention? Franks has been quite a journey and Im so glad shes courageous enough to share it, and the wisdom it brought her, with us.
Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, creator of the evidence-based Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapeutic model and faculty member at Harvard Medical School
In The Science of Stuck Britt Frank provides insights that enable individuals to move from the rigidity and predictiveness of being stuck to flexibility, curiosity, and social accessibility. Through relatable examples, we can develop skills to feel safe enough to venture into relationships and novel experiences and learn that being stuck is not a lifelong destiny.
Dr. Stephen W. Porges, PhD, originator of the Polyvagal Theory, professor of psychiatry at the University of North Carolina, and a cofounder of the Polyvagal Institute
This book is relevant for our modern, complicated lives and necessary for when we need to get our lives back on track. This book will give you the information you need to spark your curiosity with enough room to engage the necessary inward journey of self-reflection. You might just replace that stack of self-help books on your bedside table with this one essential guide.
Arielle Schwartz, PhD, author of The Complex PTSD Workbook
With down-to-earth language, enlivening inner-exercises, vivid humanness and humor, Britt Frank invites you to explore the gap between your own inertia and momentum. The Science of Stuck provides the precise compass you need to navigate your way to freedom.
Nancy Levin, author of Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free
The Science of Stuck will give readers a new perspective, a deep understanding of anxiety, and a way out of anxiety. A book that is much needed in our post-pandemic world.
Milagros Phillips, author of Cracking the Healers Code
Britt Frank gives us an exceptionally wholehearted explanation for why its so important to reframe anxiety. With researched clarity, she invites us to reconsider the anxiety disorder paradigm and invite anxiety to the table. Britts kind direction asks us to pull up a chair beside our fears and become friends.
Kelly McDaniel, LPC, NCC, author of Ready to Heal and Mother Hunger
If you feel stuck in your life, you cant afford not to read this book. In her powerfully engaging and relatable style, Britt takes you on a practical journey through understanding the practical neuroscience of stuck and what its going to take for you to get your life moving on your own terms. Highly recommended.
Alex Howard, founder and chairman of The Optimum Health Clinic, creator of Therapeutic Coaching, and author of Decode Your Fatigue
Britt has done a tremendous job pulling together a book which forces one to reflect on their life, relationships, weaknesses, and strengths. She drives home the points that we all have the opportunity to take control, we all have the right to succeed, and that it is ok to not be perfect, but bottom linewe must take accountability for our results. Reading this book will make you uncomfortable, but it will give you the tools and the confidence to get unstuck.
Dennis Huber, President of MJH Consulting and former Executive Vice President at CenturyLink
Britt Frank expertly, concisely, and humorously clarifies what stuck really is, and how we can all wrench ourselves freeto step into who we are meant to be.
Meredith Atwood, author of The Year of No Nonsense
Staying stuck is one of the greatest obstacles to growth. Britt Frank explodes through the barriers of confusion and resistance to help us use the power of anxiety to get unstuck. Once we do, well see more clearly, think with an open mind, feel more positively, and act with clarity and conviction.
Bob Rosen, PhD, founder of The Healthy Leader and author of eight books on leadership
There is nothing wrong with us. Thats just one of the many takeaways I have from The Science of Stuck. As someone whos struggled with an anxiety disorder most of my life, Britts relatable writing coupled with science is exactly what all of us need when were feeling stuck, lost, and even broken.
Andrea Owen, author of Make Some Noise and host of the Make Some Noise podcast
Using research, theory, and her own experience as a therapist, Britt Frank compassionately reminds us that our painful experiences have roots and meaning, and that even when we feel broken, there is always a way through. As a therapist I appreciated her research and examples of resilience, and as a human being I felt soothed by her reminders that I could trust and honor all parts of myself.
Cathy Cassani Adams, author of Zen Parenting and host of Zen Parenting Radio
The Science of Stuck is a must-read for anyone looking to identify and overcome the barriers that keep them from moving forward in life, feeling happy and fulfilled, and enjoying meaningful relationships.
Dr. Jennifer Sweeton, PsyD, forensic psychologist and author of The Trauma Treatment Toolbox
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CONTENTS
AUTHORS NOTE
This book is a guide containing evidence-based and anecdotal practices, academic research, professional stories, and personal experiences. I see the world through the lens of a privileged white cisgender woman living in a Western culture. There are as many reasons for getting stuck as there are humans. The information in this book refers to those for whom choice, relative safety, and access to resources is readily available. The information in this book does not apply to situations of abuse, oppression, enslavement, severe and persistent mental illness, power differentials, or systemic racism. Any practices that encourage you to examine your self-talk or to change your mind to change your mood have the potential to be toxic and victim-blaming. As a general rule, managing your thoughts works