Eva Spencer - Codependency Breaking the Patterns: the Codependent Recovery Guide to Cure Your Soul Against Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, and Sociopaths. Improve Communication Skills, Confidence, and

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C odependency is defined as a relationship in which one or both partners are currently suffering from, or have previously suffered from, substance abuse, mental illness, or family trauma. Developing a codependent relationship as a means of coping with the pressures of ones life is an acquired response to traumatic life experiences.

In order to ensure anothers happiness, a codependent personalso known as an enablerwill go to considerable measures, even at the expense of their own health and well-being. Many enablers are willing to put their own convictions and conscience aside to meet the needs of the person they are enabling. When the person being enabled allows or even encourages this behavior, it will continue. The commitment and concern that a codependent person has for the enabled persons happiness are manifested in their actions and attitudes towards their enabler. If you find yourself exhibiting any of these behaviors or experiencing these feelings, especially if you can determine you may have had traumatic life situations, it is very possible you are engaged in a codependent relationship.

Ultimately, codependency refers to an addiction to another person rather than a substance such as alcohol or drugs. Because of substance abuse and addiction, even the most intimate interpersonal connections can become strained or broken. Because it is difficult for someone suffering from an addiction to maintain good relationships, codependency and addiction are frequently observed in tandem.

Those who have grown up in a codependent household are more likely than others to acquire codependency due to their upbringing and experiences in the home. The term codependency was first used in the context of families in which one or more members were struggling with alcoholism or drug addiction, respectively.

As a result, the word has come to describe the dynamics of a family in which one or more members is battling alcoholism or drug addiction. Numerous dysfunctional family systems can result in the development of codependent relationships, and in many dysfunctional family systems, those codependent relationships are maintained.

People who are battling addiction or mental illness are more likely to fall into various codependency roles, which might be beneficial in some situations. Others will become caretakers, which assists the addict with his or her addiction. If a person experiences enough enjoyment and fulfillment as a result of having to care for their partner, codependency can progress to addiction for them as well.

Because they all feed into one anothers existence cycle, it might be difficult to determine which condition arose first. People who have a better awareness of the underlying reasons for addiction and codependency are better able to recognize when it is time to seek treatment for their problems.

For many people, the concept of codependency is a tough one to fathom. Some people may interpret it as a state of being clingy or needy but codependency is a potentially harmful mental and behavioral tendency that can be passed down from generation to generation.

In some circles, the term relationship dependence or relationship addiction has been used to describe this phenomenon.

When it is someones first time encountering codependency, it can be an incredibly difficult condition to break. However, the ability for the other person in the relationship to change their behavior and establish a healthy relationship is attainable if they are provided with the appropriate resources and direction.

The first step in beginning recovery is determining where things went wrong in the first place.

You may not even be aware that youre in a codependent relationship. Here are some conditions, behaviors, or beliefs that will help you to determine if you are:

Your interests are few or non-existent outside of their relationship; they have no hobbies or ideas of their own. If you do, you dont actively pursue them. Instead, a significant deal of your satisfaction and self-esteem is gained from your participation in the relationship.

Expression or contemplation of ones own desires and aspirations can sometimes result in feelings of guilt, particularly when done in public. It is possible for those who have them to have feelings that are suppressed or difficult to comprehend.

Despite the cruelty and violence of an abusive other, most people who are in an abusive relationship will choose to remain in it. When someone is always concerned about the well-being of someone else but is powerless to do anything to make that person feel better or right, or to create the perfect environment for the enable persons happiness no matter what actions are taken, they are said to be walking on eggshells.

Codependency impairs your ability to form and sustain healthy interpersonal relationships in a variety of ways. People must recognize that they need to break free from codependent tendencies in order to completely support their own desires, aspirations, and physical and mental health.

Codependents are referred to as reactionary in the literature. This is because a pattern of responding or reacting to the difficulties of others, as well as their own difficulties will develop. Due to the stressful nature of alcoholism and other addictive behaviors, these reactions are employed as coping methods to deal with frequently unpredictable situations.

Stress is something that all people have to deal with on a daily basis, and it is an unavoidable aspect of our lives. We all have different preferences for how we respond and act in specific situations.

When it comes to dealing with lifes difficulties, many individuals are utterly at a loss as to where to begin the process. Maintaining your composure in the face of adversity can have a huge positive impact on your overall health and wellbeing.

However, the label of codependency is not a medical diagnosis, though it can lead to sickness and interfere with your development. Codependency can exhaust a person and may affect how they interact with others.

Some of those who are close to you may get sick as a result of your actions, making it difficult for them to take responsibility for their own health.

If you have codependency, it is possible that youve come to believe that your reactions are normal and that this is the only way things could possibly be. It is natural for a person to feel safer as they become more and more familiar with a scenario. However, the desire to be required and the necessity of being required are two different emotions. As soon as you are separated from the person with whom you have formed an emotional attachment, you begin to feel physically uncomfortable.

Often a persons sense of self begins to dissolve the instant they are no longer a part of the addicted/abusers lives, and as a result, they feel abandoned.

The journey is hard and taxing but trust the process. The results are worth every step. Being free of the codependent mindset is immensely liberating in ways you cant even imagine at first.