Megan Coulter - Codependent No More: Life Can Be Better When You Overcome Codependency

Life Can Be Better When You Overcome Codependency

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Have you ever come across or continuouslyheard the word codependency? Well, if you have heard someone tellyou or another person you are codependent then this eBook ismeant for you. You should not only read more about codependency,you should also get to understand many aspects of it that affectsus both negatively and positively. Although, most people do notactually or truly understand the word codependency, it has beenbranded to be a bad word. So, people who are told or referred towith this word do not have a good feeling about it.

This term has steadily developed quite anegative connotation that literally means someone who is clingy,needy and sick. Not all three literary meanings are words peoplewill like to be referred to as. This is why reading this book willmake you understand the word more and give you a whole new way ofviewing it and also how to treat people whom you have realized havecodependency issues.

You do not need to be told you arecodependent in most instances especially those who are able torealize their misdoings earlier on. However, some people needreality checks in order to be able to know for real what is goingon with them. Mostly, codependency is linked to or related tointimate relationships more. However, they have some small effectson the lives of people outside their intimate relationships.

Understanding the word codependence is thebest tool to help you say to yourself Codependent No More.It is easy to say you are really ending this codependent lifestyle;however for so many people going through with this prevention isalways the problem. So can codependency be considered as apathological condition or just society or the world diagnosing somepeople wrongly and making them seem abnormalin a certain way?

Well, to be codependent is to be so highly dependent on something that you feel that thing is theonly source of your happiness, living, wealth, affluence, peace,health, etc. So, if someone is considered or seen as codependent,it means that he or she is not capable of taking importantdecisions on their own or making the best out of their liveswithout the help of another person which is an ideal thing.

One of the greatest and deadly diseases inour world today is loneliness. Some people feel that they can gainanything they want or need when they become independent and get tothe top. So, they let go of all ideas of codependence in theirsystem chasing independence, and this leadsthem to a life of sadness.

Codependence is not a bad thing; it is mostly how people havestigmatized it and also how other people go about theircodependency that causes problems.

In our world today, the only people who arespared and understood to be codependent are children and growingadolescents or teenagers. Even with that, they are supposed to becodependent to their parents and not to anyone else. This shouldshow you how weird our world is gradually becoming.

Some years ago, people loved to depend on and loved to help more than to be helped.However, it is not the same today. This is why for your very owngood, there will be the need to help control your life or have somecontrol over your life to prevent you having to be co-dependent on someone for happiness, money, peace, etc.Although being too dependent isnt good all the time, it is betterthan being overly co-dependent .

Understanding the world of codependence andseeing how codependent people are painted black or made to looklike they are worthless should be motivation enough for you to tryyour best to stay out of that circle. In the society in which wefind ourselves in, the main values we move and live around areindependence, achievement, and strength. This is why codependentpeople are not given a welcoming space at all.

Today, most men admire women who areindependent, strong and self-sufficient. Yes, most men love to havewomen who do not need anyone to be complete, or so everyonethinks.

Although this is fair, a lot of independentpeople have also been codependent before. Yes, some people becauseof the realization of their codependent behavior or attitude movedto become independent or dependent.

All you need is to understand that the worlddoesnt want people who are needy and codependent. This is why itis a must for you to build your inner strength as well as make themost out of your life to be able to stand alone and not always needsomeone or anyone to give you happiness or to complete you.

In moving to the top, you do not need to be codependent, and this is completely true.Being codependent at work is one thing that can make you loserespect before all your colleagues even when you are given apromotion. Being independent and making sure, you do not alwaysneed people to make specific decisions for you at your workplaceshows a lot of maturities . It is this type ofmaturity that makes you stand out and gain respect.

The problem, however, is that a lot of people confuse independence tothe level of selfish self-absorption or even worse as thedeterminant of a relationships well-being .This is however, what has led to the high rates of loneliness inthe world today with so many divorces, which have also increasedthe number of depression and suicidal cases all over the world.

Moving to the top is amazing and beingindependent is even better. However, try to have some little tracesof codependency in your system because a little of it doesnt hurtand that is the truth.

In your aim to reduce codependency in yourlife or to be codependent no more, you need to be very cautious.Some people feel that some of the good character traits they hadwhen they were called or referred to as codependent must go awayfor them to be independent.

Well, this is a lie. So, if you were used torespecting and paying due honor to anyone or everyone around you donot need to change from that because you want to become independentor are reducing your level of codependency.

When you become independent and tend not torespect others around you, it affects you. This is because no onewill like to be close to an independent person who doesnt respectothers. Respect is one of the main bases the world moves on.

So, you will end up being a lonelyindependent man or woman because no one will be interested ingetting closer to you. Loneliness is one of the main diseases thatare killing us in todays age, and egoisticindependence is one of the reasons for this.