Mary Joye LMHC - Codependent Discovery and Recovery 2.0: A Holistic Approach to Healing and Freeing Yourself

Codependent Discovery and Recovery 2.0

A Holistic Approach to Healing and Freeing Yourself

Mary Joye, LMHC

Mary Joye has written courses for DailyOM that have helped many people in their quest for a body/mind/spirit connection to recovery. Her work in this book continues to help those with codependency in a holistic and engaging way.

Madisyn Taylor, co-founder and editor-in-chief of DailyOM

Mary Joye has been an instrumental influence in my own journey to becoming a mental health counselor, and she has remained a source of inspiration and consultation, both as a colleague and a friend. I am honored to be able to count Mary as one of my connections, and I am excited that she is sharing her wealth of knowledge and expertise with the entire literary world.

In her book, Mary approaches codependency from a holistic, well-rounded perspective that enables people to intentionally choose a path of empowerment and enlightenment. I have no doubt that through this book, Mary will continue to inspire and guide colleagues in the mental health field, as well as individuals struggling with codependency and any and all readers who choose this book for their next read.

Jesse Williams, MS, LPC/MHSP, NCC, CCH

Using neuroscience, psychology, and spirituality, Mary Joye shares how to conquer old habits of feeling the need to rescue loved ones and friends. In this compelling book you can free yourself and learn that living well and giving well can occur naturally.

Dr. Laurie Nadel, author of The Five Gifts: Discover Hope, Healing, and Strength When Disaster Strikes

If you are feeling stuck in unhealthy codependent patterns, this book offers support and guidance on how to tear up the old outline of your life and write a new one, using insights, meditations, affirmations, and other exercises that can begin to rewire the patterning of the brain and the nervous system.

Dr. Jodie Skillicorn, holistic psychiatrist, author of Healing Depression without Medication: A Psychiatrists Guide to Balancing Mind, Body, and Soul

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2021 Mary Joye

ISBN 13: 978-0-7573-2409-3 (Paperback)

ISBN 10: 0-7573-2409-6 (Paperback)

ISBN 13: 978-0-7573-2410-9 (ePub)

ISBN 10: 0-7573-2410-X (ePub)

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DEDICATION

This book is dedicated in memory of

Shirley Ann Cunnen, whose years of loving friendship

and gift of therapy are why Im a therapist today,

and to Beverly Bear Powell for her loving

kindness and mentorship.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

I am grateful to those mentioned here who have acted as alchemists in my life. All are golden threads woven together who made this book possible.

Thank you to Ruth Boggs, who I met in the backstage parking lot of a Willie Nelson concert when we were bringing food for the tour bus. She helped me through a horrible divorce with her wonderful friendship. Ruth later invited me to go to Wyoming to a writers retreat, where I met authors and instructors Tina Welling and Janet Hubbard. They assisted me in writing about parts of my life I was hesitant to share. My gratitude for their mentorship is as immense as the ranch where we gathered. I appreciate Janets encouragement and for introducing me to literary agent Lisa Hagan, with whom I am sympatico. I appreciate Lisas tenacity and integrity and for leading me to HCI Books. I am grateful to Christine Belleris of HCI for believing in this work and giving it harbor. Camilla Michael of HCI has been a wonderful editor and navigator. You have this book because of these very strong links in this chain of professional encouragers.

To Leslie Dougherty Reed and her husband Billy Reed, I give thanks for being the best of friends for decades. Leslie taught me the gift of making memories and I have immense gratitude for all the Doughertys for making me part of their loving family. I cant imagine how my life would be without them all and their unswerving support and loving kindness.

To Michael Powell, a friend and brother in spirit of over forty years, thank you for making my life more beautiful with your friendship and paintings. His mother Beverly Bear Powell is one of two to whom this book is dedicated. To Danny DeCastro, who, with Michael, has made me ohana. Thank you for including me in your global adventures. No matter where we go, it always feels like home because you are there.

Thanks to Alexander Gimon, PhD for being my supervisor while I became a counselor and for mentoring me to keep writing.

I thank Madisyn Taylor, co-founder of DailyOM, for being one of the first to believe in me as an e-course author and for publishing my works on trauma, relationships, and codependency.

And last, but not least, sincere gratitude to Tommy Laymon, my partner in life, who gave me wings to travel and encouraged me to enjoy life, to self-care, and who taught me how to invest in myself on many levels. He drove me to Sedona, Arizona where we stayed in a beautiful home for forty days so I could recover from a family death which forced me to examine my codependency. This book began as a journal on that journey. To Ace and Jet, our two little rescue dogs, who have been patient companions at my side for every word written here. They and I hope you are rescued from your codependency with this book.

FOREWORD

W hen you write songs with someone over a long period of time, you get to know them pretty well through all the discussions that take place in songwriting sessions. Those discussions usually include life, love, family, past hurts, losses, funny stories, politics, religion, sad stories, and so forth, and its no wonder that songwriting is almost like a therapy session set to music. And, as I said, you get to know your cowriters pretty well, but in looking back, I realize also how much we all hide from those around us. Its amazing how much we dont see about the other personeven though the clues are all right in front of our faces.