A. I. Abana - How to Be a Grownup

HOW TO BE

A

GROWNUP

BY

A. I. ABANA

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To the good at heart

Contents

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re you a grownup ? Depends. The word grownup spells more than it says and can come across as meaning many things to many people depending on what social circle the question is asked. Many a person thinks they are an adult or a grownup, they expect to be seen and regarded as such only to encounter certain people or social groups who just wont buy it.

That you are regarded as an adult in the United States for example is no guarantee that you are going to be seen in that light in a different country. Many who are aware of this nuance try to blend in as perfect a way as they can to the code of conduct of persons seen and regarded as grownups or mature, this method however is not always successful, and as you would find out through the pages of this book, there actually are certain traits and factors that are common across regions and borders to individuals that are regarded as grownups.

The most common generally accepted trait of a grownup is their age, but as you may well know its not easy to point accurately to a strangers exact age unless you saw or knew something about their birth date. People look to certain definite traits on the appearance of an individual to mentally deduce their age bracket; such traits that give definite clues about age also give clues on a lot of other things about a person. Identifying traits that point to maturity and leveraging those traits in a way that is of advantage to you the reader is the concern and subject matter of this book.

Regardless of your age, it is my unreserved intent in this book to reveal to you the reader just how to go about exuding maturity in your everyday life. Make no mistake a lot of benefits in life can unlock to you for no other reason than the fact that you have been perceived to be a grownup; social respect, peace of mind, the speed with which you get response in some things, the general quality of attention and service you get from people and so on and so forth. The benefits of being perceived as a grownup are varied and numerous.

Are you ready to be seen and regarded as a mature, grownup person? Are you ready to clinch the benefits that only unlock to people who are regarded as responsible or bonafide grownups? Then strap your seat belt and range through the pages of this book.

The Appearance of a Grownup

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et me say from the start that a lot of the issues you will have with people thinking you a minor are going to be with those who dont really know much about you, your birth or family pedigree. Time and again I see that the yardstick these people use is your appearance. In a way you cant blame them, because not many things about an individual are as telling as their appearance.

Appearance is such a chunk of detail that an astute observer can deduce more than is obvious about an individual with alarming accuracy. As an example, men who are out looking for a lady to marry typically rely on this one aspect of an individual - appearance, much more than other not so visible aspects to inwardly decide whether or not they should engage such a lady in conversation.

Not only can a good observer deduce a ladys age bracket, but also her economic class, her cultural inclinations, the level of her chastity or morality, her profession, whether or not she would make a good mother, whether or not she is going to be a problem to relate with, her spirituality, her level of wisdom and more, these things are there in a ladys (persons) appearance and someone who is adept at visual analysis can deduce them in less than five seconds!

So in our study of appearance we are going to concentrate on two broad areas which I believe give the strongest indication whether or not you are to be considered a grownup.

This should be obvious but we would start with the head. A grownup person has unique facial features you would typically not find in minors. The eyes are the most prominent facial features that will give your age away. Someone once told me a kid is known in the eyes, I believe this is true; grownups have certain lines or skin folds around their eyes. These folds indicate that an individual has had many years of using and exposing their eyes/face to the elements. These lines tend to concentrate as a person ages, they are more noticeable by the side as you move from the eye outwards toward the ear.

When you interact with people they tend to subconsciously look at your eyes to see if they can detect any of these fine lines or roughened skin around your eyes that denote your level of maturity.

It is in an effort to look young that a lot of ladies use facial creams around their face and eyes to blur or mask these same lines we are talking about. Now, some grownups also have gray hairs dotted about the hair on their head, although it is possible for gray hairs to appear in the head of some minors, you should not expect it. People take note of whether or not you have bits of grays in your hair.

Some male grownups have a bald head, or a receding hairline, generally though you should expect grownups to have bold facial features. Expect a grownup male to have a beard, a mustache and or side boards, some male grownups have the Adams apple feature in their neck. So if you are a male and have been shaving off your beard, no matter how small it is endeavor to keep it, if your aim is to exude maturity, however little they are do not shave off your beard, mustache or sideboards completely.

As a lady if you want to project maturity, wear a bold hairstyle and let the glory of your hair stand out such that when someone views you from the back they would not be able to tell your age bracket or whether or not you are a minor.

Many grownup males have a broad hairy chest; strong hairy limbs are also common. So if you want to help your appearance to that of a grownup, whatever bodily hairs you have besides those in your pubic regions (armpits and the privates) dont shave them off completely. Its okay if you have no hairs at all as there are a lot of other things you could leverage; you would see those later on in this book.

If you are a lady, dont try to obscure whatever breasts you have systematically by suppressing them with tight inner clothing or loose outer clothing. If you want to exude maturity you dont have to obscure your breasts completely because a mature woman has obvious breasts (decently presented not uncovered or exposed), and the larger they are the more you come across as grownup. Grownup women have features that suggest they are ready for child birth or have nurtured a child, ditto grownup men, they usually have a deeper voice than minors.

In essence what we are saying is that if you are a guy and you want to exude more maturity, be economical with how you shave your visible hairs, let whatever little beard or mustache you have to grow out and be obvious, same goes for your legs, chest and arm hairs, these hairs present you as mature whether or not you resent their presence. If you are a lady dont mask eye wrinkles with facial creams, this presents you as younger than you actually are, present a well-kept and styled hair that is rich and bold, how many female presidential candidates or presidents do you know wear pony tails? I just hope you get my point.