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Praise for Goal-Free Living
Stephen Shapiro has written a smart, practical, and inspiring guide to leading a life of purpose and meaning. If you have only one goal this year, let it be this: read Goal-Free Living!
Daniel H. Pink, Author of A Whole New Mind and Free Agent Nation
Stephen Shapiros Goal-Free Living isnt a call for laziness, passivity, or risk mongering. Instead, his approach will help readers achieve the best kind of happenstance; taking a stance to make things happen.
Heath Row, Contributing Editor and Community Director, Fast Company Magazine
Stephen Shapiro shows how individuals can find more joy in life while still making important contributions to society and the people around them. The insights in Goal-Free Living will be valuable to anyone who feels consumed or constrained by their own goals. I have a sense reading this book may turn out to be one of the most important things Ive done in a long time.
Doug Busch, Vice President and Chief Technology Officer, Digital Health Group, Intel Corporation
In this insightful, charming book Stephen Shapiro guides you to reframe the way you think about goals. This is an engaging, creative approach to discovering inner wisdom and personal fulfillment.
Michael J. Gelb, Author of How to Think Like Leonardo Da Vinci and Discover Your Genius
Reading Goal-Free Living is like jettisoning a hundred-pound pack. Suddenly, youre racing much faster and enjoying the breeze.
Alan Weiss, Ph.D., Author of Million Dollar Consulting
Steve is brilliantly insightful. He knows (and this book proves) that it is the pursuit of what you love, not the achievement of your goals, that will give you a joyful and passionate life.
Marcia Wieder, Americas Dream Coach, Author of Making Your Dreams Come True
Stephen Shapiro powerfully shows that true success is not determined by the goals we achieve, but rather by the life we live. Goal-Free Living is YOUR guide for having the life you want NOW!
Marshall Goldsmith, Author (or co-editor) of 19 books, including The Leader of the Future (recognized in the Wall Street Journal as one of the top 10 executive educators)
Despite the paradoxical title, the books thesis and purpose are straightforward. Although creativity cannot be forced, one must be prepared for it. Shapiro shows how being goal-free can be a catalyst for personal growth, achievement, and satisfaction.
Al Gini, Professor of Philosophy at Loyola University Chicago, Author of The Importance of Being Lazy and My Job My Self
If youve ever imagined living a completely different life, this book will inspire you to take a step toward a more exciting future. Trying just one of the eight secrets will result in a dramatic and positive shift in your perspective.
Alan Price, Author of Ready to Lead
DID YOU KNOW THAT...
41 percent of Americans say that achieving their goals has not made them happier and has only left them disillusioned? That is over 100 million people.
33 percent of Americans have lost sleep over their goals? Thats one out of every three Americans.
Nearly one out of five Americans (18 percent) have wrecked a friendship, marriage, or relationship because of a goal they were trying to achieve? These people are three times as likely to be unhappy as people who were not such extreme goalaholics.
27 percent of Americansone in foursay that achieving their financial goals has not made them happier? Even some of the wealthiest individuals say this.
29 percent of Americans say they think they might have chosen the wrong goals in life?
One out of seven, 13 percent of this country, has been so obsessed with achieving a goal that at one point in their lives they broke the law or did something unethical? And those are only the ones who admit it.
36 percent of Americans say that the more goals they set for themselves, the more stressed out they become, while 52 percent say that one of their goals is to reduce the amount of stress in their lives? This is incredibly ironic.
Only 8 percent of Americans always achieve their New Years resolutions? 92 percent fail!
31 percent of Americans say that they are currently goal-free? Do they know something that you dont?
Our achievement-oriented society has hijacked our happiness. Fight back. Now is the time to take control and free yourself from the stranglehold of goals that grips so many people.
Based on a random telephone survey conducted by Goalfree.com, with the assistance of Opinion Research Corporation of Princeton, New Jersey. The survey of 1,012 individuals has a margin of error of 3 percent and was conducted during the period August 5 to August 8, 2005.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
A book about extraordinary living could not exist without the contributions of a large number of extraordinary people. I am honored to have met and worked with so many such individuals over the past few years on this effort.
Goal-Free Living was born out of my travels during the summer of 2003 when I met and interviewed 150 passionate individuals. The chronicles of their lives provide the richness and texture of this book. Thank you for sharing your most personal stories with a complete stranger.
Given that I applied a goal-free approach to my writing, it is not surprising that the earliest versions of the manuscript were a bit disorganized. It is for that reason that I am truly indebted to the hard work of Ela Aktay Booty, who worked tirelessly to fine-tune the manuscript with the precision of a surgeon. Special thanks also to Michael Johnson, who was involved from a strategic perspective from the very beginning.
I am grateful for the many reviewers who provided inspiration, content, and brutally honest feedbackRon Anderson, Susan Baird, Jason Bates, Jennifer Buchholz, Michael Herman, Brad Kolar, David Macintosh, Don Mitchell, Georgiana Philips, Lisa Rosenthal, Margarita Rozenfeld, Steve Stanton, Doug Stevenson, Don Ulibarri, and Shannon Vargo.
Many thanks to all of the great people at John Wiley & Sons, Inc., in particular Matt Holt. Without Matts support of this countercultural concept, this book might never have seen the light of day.
It has been an honor to be working with one of the best literary agents, Ned Levitt. His balance of steadfast support with probing challenge helped nurture this books development.
I am blessed to have an incredible and loving family. My sister, Deborah, has been a source of inspiration. Our almost daily phone conversations and e-mail exchanges provided an endless supply of content, were an invaluable sounding board, and kept me sane. Gary, thank you for lending her to me.
Finally, words cannot express my gratitude for the contribution my parents have made. Thank you for providing the foundation that enabled my incredible and miraculous life.
PROLOGUE:
CONFESSIONS OF A GOALAHOLIC
My story starts June 1986 in Ithaca, New York. It was a time of possibility and new beginnings. I had graduated from Cornell University with a degree in Industrial Engineering and started a career with one of the top consulting firms in the world. At that time I was also dating a great woman, Beth Anne. On August 31st of the same year we were married at a small bed-and-breakfast in Massachusetts. Passion ignited my marriage; goals would kill it.