Praise for Lifes Greatest Lessons
In this book a master teacher shares with us the great depth of his wisdoma comprehensive philosophy of life for all ages.
Sanford N. McDonnell, chairman emeritus,
McDonnell Douglas Corporation
One of the most touching and inspirational books I have read in a long time.
Katie Struckel Brogan, editor, Writers Digest
Life is complicated. Having a cornerstone to build our lives onand give to our kidsis a must. This book is that cornerstone.
John McCormack, founder and CEO, Visible
Changes, and author, Self-Made in America
I just wanted to let you know what a profound impact your book is having on my associates and everyone that I have given the book. I have given out thirty-six copies of the book with raves from everyone about how it has effectively assisted them.
Tom Roth, Bio Lab Industries
What a great book!As a seventh grade teacher, I found so many things in this book that I would love to share with my students.
Amanda McColaugh
Your book was most helpful to me. I gave it to my husband, and together we used it (and still do) to stay motivated, to appreciate all that we have, and to keep on trying. I believe it offers value in the most fundamental waysspiritually, physically, and mentally. Thanks for writing such a wonderful book.
Kim Dailey
This is a great book for kids, teachers, parents, lawyers, grocery store clerks, grandmas, cousins, friends, and anyone else with a pulse. I thank you, Dr. Urban, for sharing your wisdom, guidance, and moral courage. I, for one, am much better for it!
Kristin A. Loughlin, graduate student
I just wanted say right on! to your book. Thanksfor such a wonderful book that Im sure Ill incorporate in my ministry here in the inner city for many days to come.
Reverend Edward Hearn, Baptist minister, Chicago
Thank you for your inspiring words. I have read your bookand it was absolutely brilliant. Today I use your book on a consistent basis with my students.
Eric Stambaugh, high school music teacher
Thank you for your wonderful book. It has given real depth and substance to our character education program.
Ruth Kistler, sixth grade teacher
I will always treasure this book as a reference on how to live a complete life. It has opened my eyes to the important values and attributes to have for a happy and successful life. I hope that others have found the joy that I have from this book. I am grateful for your apparent love for teaching others.
Rachel Lundrigan, high school senior
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Lifes greatest lessons: 20 things that matter/Hal Urban.4th ed.,
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Rev. ed. of: 20 things I want my kids to know.
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1. Conduct of life. I. Urban, Hal, 1940 . 20 things I want my kids to know.
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For Dan, Mark, and Mike,
When you were much younger, we had to live apart for two years. I wrote you a letter each week and told you about how much I loved you and wanted the best for you. I also wrote about things I wanted you to know. Then you came home, and I didnt need to write any more letters.
Now that youre older and were living apart again, Ive written another letterthis book. I wrote it because youre still young and youre still my kids. I still love you and want the best for you. And the things I want you to know are still the same.
Love,
Dad
Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
All great truths are simple in final analysis, and easily understood; if they are not, they are not great truths.
Napoleon Hill
Contents
Preface
A Brief History of
Lifes Greatest Lessons
First Edition
This book was originally published in 1992 under the title 20 Things I Want My Kids to Know. As a father and a teacher, I was aiming my message at the young people who constantly surrounded memy three sons, who were then in their twenties and in the early career stage of life, the young adults I was teaching in a university, and my high-school students. I looked upon all of them as my kids and wanted to put into writing what Id been trying to teach them for many years.
The book did surprisingly well for one written by a first-time, no-name author. It sold out of its first printing and developed quite a following through that phenomenon known as word of mouth. I was pleased that my message was reaching so many people and growing in popularity. Then the publisher let it go out of print.
Second Edition
Within a few months I began receiving letters and phone calls from people all over the country urging me to put the book back into print. I was particularly pleased that so many of them were leaders in the business community. They suggested that I remove kids from the title because they saw the book as a timeless message for people of all ages. So inspired, I republished the book on my own in 1997. I changed the title to Lifes Greatest Lessons, rewrote the introduction, and made small changes throughout the text. I was surprised at what happened. More people than I could have ever imagined bought the book, read it, and then passed it on to their friends, family members, and colleagues. Many of them came back several times for additional copies. Then schools and other organizations began buying it in bulk, and special orders from bookstores started coming in. The word was out, and I was delighted to share my message with an increasing number of readers.
Third Edition
I updated the text and cover again in 2000. The growth in popularity of my little self-published book once again continued to surprise and gratify me. Letters, phone calls, and e-mails from students (fifth grade through college) and adults of all ages came in steadily. My simple, old-fashioned message about human goodness seemed to be touching people. At about the same time, the Character Education movement, which had begun in the early 1990s, was growing significantly, and I began receiving invitations to speak not only to teachers, parents, and students but also to businesses, service organizations, and churches. Good characterand the bookwere making strong comebacks. As a result, my life began changing dramatically. It had become a daily challenge to balance my teaching, speaking, and book-selling obligations. At this time, all of the books were still being shipped out of our home. The garage served as a warehouse, and my office was the packing room.
The New Edition
In August of 2000, Lifes Greatest Lessons won a national award for self-published books from Writers Digest magazine. It was selected as Inspirational Book of the Year. That brought offers from book distributors, literary agents, wholesalers, and publishers. At the same time, an increasing number of my readers were urging me to give the book more exposure and wider distribution. Something had to change, but I wasnt sure which direction to move in. What I needed most was expert advice.