Reynolds - Confidence Training: Practical Step-by-Step Guide for Gaining Confidence in Work and Life

INTRODUCTION

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Humanbeings come into this life dressed in the same cover of skin. Some peoplechoose different paths, and others lurk in the shadows of their ancestors. Eachand every one grows up with certain motives which form the idea of futureprospects. Some develop their motives early in childhood, and some others donot; or even forsake their past dreams of the lost future. The flame that burnsin every human being, which makes him able to pursue the end of the lines hedrew for himself, at times seem to wither. The reason behind such obstaclemight be lack of interest over time, fear of failure or the root of it all:self-confidence.

Well,self-confidence might not be the sole reason behind such inexplicable regress;rather the lack of it. As human beings, we all have the ability to acquireself-confidence through various ways. However, we are also capable of drainingour storage of it. The way most people perceive self-confidence is somewhatblurred. People tend to define it as merely a human trait; a gift for whom maybe blessed. Yet, that idea could not be more wrong. The repercussions of suchmisconception can simply be defined as fatal. When one regards self-confidenceas a gift, it gets associated with luck or legacy; as if it cannot be acquired.And when the latter option is not present in one's thinking, it could lead to ableak perspective on personality and on life in general. If self-confidence wasmerely a trait that passes down through genes, then just few families wouldhave been running the whole world. One needs to regard self-confidence as amental muscle. The human being needs to physically let the muscles tire throughexercises in order to develop and grow. This is the exact process that themuscle of self-confidence needs for it to be acquired and everlastinglyattained. People think that self-confidence comes once in a lifetime and shouldimprove it hitherto. However, what most people seem to miss is that confidenceis a loose quality; it comes and it definitely goes. It all depends on theperson in charge and the functionality of their psychological code.

Thequality of self-confidence needs to be petted and looked after. Like theprocess of planting a tree. At first, you throw the seed deep down in the soil.It may not seem very beneficial or a necessary creation; yet, with dailywatering and care, it would sprout its way out of the dirt and embrace thescorching sunrays of the day. For the tree to develop its thick roots, itsrustling leaves and its blooming fruits, one must attend to its needs first. Inthis book, we're going to discuss the meaning of true self-confidence, andthrough which way should the reader acquire it. But first of all, the readermust understand that such psychological processes cannot be made easier with anexternal source of help; it may be smoothened, but hard effort is still anessential part of the whole system. We are going to inspect the cases in whichhuman beings seem to yield for desperation, and lose their sense of achievementand self-confidence. Some people face dreading insecurities posed upon them bysociety and the media; others fall for denial or inner doubts and fear offailure.

Allthese various aspects can be associated with the lack of self-confidence. Thelack in one of the earlier traits can lead to regression in the self-inventoryof confidence, and vice versa. The reader must acknowledge his crucial part inthis learning process. The information cannot be simply passed down from theauthor to the audience, and in any way expect magical results. Our words shouldbe pondered upon and coherently contemplated through deep thinking and constantself-evaluation. The trait of self-confidence is a common trait in all human beings;although it might not be apparent at first, but it can be drawn to unveilitself to the world. The real problem is that one might be too indulged in self-doubtto the point that he doubts his capability of finding self-confidence withinhimself.