Kunst - Wisdom from the couch : knowing and growing yourself from the inside out

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WISDOM FROM THE COUCH

When Freuds ideas were first introduced, they seemed obscure and arcane, and they never became readeror patientfriendly. In Wisdom from the Couch, Jennifer Kunst builds a much-needed bridge by enabling the sophisticated field of psychoanalytic theory and practice to make common sense without compromising its complexity. One of the many virtues of Dr. Kunsts presentation is the way in which she uses the work of Melanie Klein and makes it accessible to a wide audience. Her chapter on proper dependence, ripening to obedience, and inspired independence () alone is worth the price of this book. She has written a superb work, one that is as masterful as it is timely. She artfully presents a number of theoretical ideas, some complex and others simpler, all with such seamless clarity that the work speaks meaningfully to seasoned psychoanalysts, beginning mental health workers, high school and college students, parents, and others.

James S. Grotstein, MD, Professor of Psychiatry, UCLA School of Medicine, Training and Supervising Analyst at the Los Angeles Psychoanalytic Institute and the Psychoanalytic Center of California; Author of... BUT AT THE SAME TIME AND ON ANOTHER LEVEL... : PSYCHOANALYTIC THEORY AND TECHNIQUE IN THE KLEINIAN/BIONIAN MODE

Dr. Kunst has written a remarkably readable book about what is often a difficult quest for the meaningful life. Her ability to take the complex psychoanalytic theories of Melanie Klein and synthesize them with her spiritual beliefs in a way that is easy to follow is a refreshing and welcome addition to the integration of psychology and spirituality. Despite all our complicated theories and scientific efforts to identify the secrets of a life well lived, I agree with her that it all essentially comes down to one thing: love. Those who read this book will be more equipped to be better lovers of others, themselves, and God.

Mark W. Baker, PhD, Executive Director of La Vie Counseling Centers; Author of JESUS, THE GREATEST THERAPIST WHO EVER LIVED

In this marvelous book, Jennifer Kunst gives us a highly readable primer on the fascinating therapeutic approach of Melanie Klein, making her case with references to the likes of Shaq ONeal, The Velveteen Rabbit, and St. Benedict. But even more, her wisdom from the couch is offered in terms of a candid and inspiring account of her own spiritual journey.

Richard J. Mouw, PhD, President Emeritus and Professor of Faith and Public Life, Fuller Theological Seminary; Author of UNCOMMON DECENCY: CHRISTIAN CIVILITY IN AN UNCIVIL WORLD

One of the most urgent needs for psychoanalysts, for psychotherapists, indeed for the wider world, is to reach down into the depths to discover what is sanity and to differentiate it from madness. Jennifer Kunst clearly knows this, and in this work is doing two jobs: She (1) dismisses defining madness according to a surface symptomology, and (2) opens a gateway to a new way of thinking about this urgent problem. All those who have been scratching their heads and wondering how to find their way to a more sane and meaningful life willif they are open to Jennifers guidancebegin to find an answer. This book beckons us to open its pages and read with care and attention.

Neville Symington, Training and Supervising Analyst, Australian Psychoanalytical Society; Author of THE PSYCHOLOGY OF THE PERSON and BECOMING A PERSON THROUGH PSYCHOANALYSIS

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Quotations from Bhante Gunaratana, Mindfulness in Plain English (Somerville, MA: Wisdom Publications, 2011), reprinted with permission from the publisher, www.wisdompubs.org.

Quotations from Bronnie Ware, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying (Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc., 2011), reprinted with permission from the publisher, www.hayhouse.com.

Quotations from Ruth Harms Calkin, Tell Me Again, Lord, I Forget (Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House, 1986), reprinted with permission.

Quotations from Letters to a Young Poet by Rainier Maria Rilke, translated by M.D. Herter Norton. Copyright 1934, 1954 by W. W. Norton & Company, Inc., renewed 1962, 1982 by M. D. Herter Norton. Used by permission of W. W. Norton & Company, Inc.

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In memory of my mother, from whom all blessings flow. In Helen Kellers words, All the best of me belongs to her. There is not a talent or an aspiration or a joy in me that has not been awakened by her loving touch.

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IN THIS IMPRESSIVE BOOK FOR the general reader, Jennifer Kunst finds wisdom not only from her training and practice as a psychoanalyst, but also from her experience of everyday life, from films and childrens books, and from her religious training and experience.

Dr. Kunst spreads her net widely, but her aim is traditional. She sets great store by truth, and by growth and development, and her heart is set on finding peace. As she expresses it, Peace in the world, peace with your enemies, peace in your families, and peace within yourself. Peace is perhaps the most valuable thing in all of life.

Having this goal does not mean that Dr. Kunst ignores the problems that arise along the way, nor does she ignore the horror and violence that we see around us when we read the news or watch TV accounts of wars, terrorist attacks, and counterattacks.