Carol Queen PhD and Shar Rednour - The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone

THE Sex & Pleasure Book
Copyright 2015 by Dr. Carol Queen & Shar Rednour. All rights reserved.
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ISBN: 978-0-9861504-2-5

The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone by Carol Queen with Shar Rednour. Published by BARNABY LTD, LLC
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Book Cover Design by Stewart A. Williams
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Vintage Vibrator Illustrations provided by The Antique Vibrator Museum
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Used by permission from Elizabeth Stephens and Annie Sprinkle Vows for Marrying the Earth and 25 Ways to Make Love With the Earth
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The Sex & Pleasure Book will change lives, if you let it. Whether youre new to sex and looking to learn, seasoned in sex and looking to make things a little sexier, or a parent navigating how to talk to your child or teenager, this book is for you. Good Vibrations has been a leader in making sex better for people of all ages, genders, orientations, and bodies since its doors first opened and it continues to blaze trails with this excellent book. Highly recommended!

Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., Associate Professor at Indiana University and author of The Coregasm Workout and Sex Made Easy

It is absolutely no surprise that Good Vibrations would publish the ultimate how-to, why-to, what-to book about sex. For decades, people have relied on them for products and advice that was dependable, progressive, and above all, human. I plan to recommend this book to many, many patientsthe shy ones, the bold ones, and the curious ones. Theres something in here for absolutely everyone.

Dr. Marty Klein, Sex Therapist and author of Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want From Sex, and How to Get It

Good Vibrations has created an important resource guide for womens empowerment. Yes, empowerment means having agency in all aspects of our lives from the boardroom to the bedroom. Healthy sexuality is key to our personal power. When I was a young woman, my mom didnt have the courage to talk to me about sexuality. Luckily, she did have Our Bodies, Ourselves on the bookshelf. The Sex & Pleasure Book will be that guide for women of all ages to embrace our bodies and our passion. Pleasure is our birthright. Thank the goddess for Carol Queen and Good Vibrations!

Abiola Abrams, Self-Empowerment Coach, author of The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love

People have trusted Good Vibrations to bring them quality sex ed and orgasms for decades, and this book is a reminder why: its sex-positive, comprehensive, inclusive, and dedicated to demystifying all the amazing diversity of sex and sexuality. Carol Queen and Shar Rednour are the brilliant, bad ass aunts we all need to teach and advise us. Every one should own a copy of this book!

Tristan Taormino, Author, sex educator and director of The Expert Guide to Female Orgasms

Good Vibrations has always been a safe and pleasure-filled space for everyone. Men feel as comfortable as women, cisgendered and transgendered alike, are included, addressed and celebrated in The Sex & Pleasure Book. Dr. Carol Queen and Shar Rednour provide smart, compassionate, thoughtful, and, importantly, practical advice to the whole person in a multitude of possible human experiences across the spectrum of passion, sexuality, relationships and even love.

Dr. Hernando Chaves, Doctor of Human Sexuality, Licensed CA Marriage & Family Therapist

This is the one! An inclusive, compassionate, funny, and comprehensive guide to being a human with both a brain and genitals. If everyone, everywhere read this book, wed probably have world peace.

Emily Nagoski Ph.D. in Health Behavior, Author of Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

1. Cunnilingus: Going Down
2. Fellatio: Giving Head series
3. Missionary Positions
4. Woman Astride
5. T Position
6. Rear Entry
7. Couple Astride: Yab Yum

To You

O ur stores have always been a safe, welcoming space for everyone to explore and feel empowered about their authentic sexual selves. This book is our love letter to you as we invite you to soak up the information on its pages and give yourself permission to know yourself, to love yourself, and to lead a more pleasurable life.

Jackie Rednour-Bruckman, Executive Vice President
Good Vibrations

This mantra has guided us since Good Vibrations came into being in San Francisco in 1977, at a time when sex education and community were a vital part of the citys legendary alternative culture. Believing that we all deserve pleasure and permission to explore self-love and self-pleasure are still radicaland importantideas and acts.

Good Vibrations was Americas first sex-positive, women-friendly store. We became a beloved institution to millions of people because the Good Vibrations difference is embedded in its history. Our founder, Joani Blank, had a masters degree in public health; shed worked with San Francisco Sex Information and at the pre-orgasmic womens program at the University of California-San Francisco Medical School. From this experience she knew that selling sex toys to women required an aesthetically pleasing and comfortable environment, but it would not truly be a successful endeavor unless she could also provide information to customers about the toys themselves and using them safely, as well as about arousal and their own and their partners erotic anatomy. She wanted to provide all this in a setting where customers would feel safe. Thus, from the beginning, Good Vibrations specialized in providing knowledge as well as high-quality products. What she may not have foreseen was that Good Vibrations customers would also give us plenty of information along the way.

Almost forty years later, this book is based not only on our history of providing knowledge to our customersthough that is part of its heritagebut our perspective has also been vastly informed by decades of being told what our customers want and need. Just as we have designed toys, made movies, and written books inspired by these customer exchanges, weve also learned from them what we didnt already know. Customers tell us about new ways to use the toys we sell, gaps in their sex lives, their ideas for products, their identities and communities, and their responses to the erotic books and movies we carry. They have plenty of questions for us, too, and problems they want solved. Oftentimes we have answers and solutions; when we dont, we research the issues thoroughly. In turn, this information makes its way into our Sex Educator Sales Associates training. SESA is the phrase we use to describe our customer service staff; they get more informational training about sex than many medical doctors do. This perspective also influences our outreach to community experts who teach in-store classes, people in charge of further product development, and those who decide the content of our online blog. Its our goal to be able to talk to any adult about their sex life, and we honor the trust of our customers, who tell us about their lives, desires, and sexual dilemmas. Were grateful to all those whove shared information and questions. Were inspired by the communities of erotic affiliation that surround us. Especially during the pre-Internet era of our history, our Call Center SESAs took calls from people all over the USA and the world, so we know that people