Greg Adenauer - Become An Alpha Male - In 21 Steps: Develop Compelling Charisma and Confidence, Appealing Charm, Archive Great Success and Become a Leader

Become An Alpha Male

Develop Compelling Charisma and Confidence, Appealing Charm, Archive Great Success and Become a Leader

Copyright 2014 by Greg Adenauer

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The author has attempted to be as accurate as possible in the creation of this book. While all attempts have been made to verify the information provided, the views expressed should not be taken as expert instructions. The reader is responsible for his own actions.

Table Of Contents

Introduction

Society has defined alpha males as the highly sought after males who women are madly attracted to, and who all men want to emulate. They have charisma, strength, character, poise, confidence and stability. It almost seems like they are like magnets and that they easily attract everything that they want in life the great careers, the women, the circumstances, and everything else that they want.

According to Wikipedia, the alpha male is the individual in the community with the highest rank. So, by definition, there can only be one alpha male . But what does it really mean to be an alpha male? Has the definition of it changed with time? Shouldn't the definition of alpha male change as mankind progresses socially, culturally, economically, politically emotionally, physically, and otherwise into the future?

In the cave-man days, alpha males were more prominent because life was much more of a physical experience than a mental and emotional one. In those days, the larger and stronger a man was, the better. In order to survive, nearly every man had to be an alpha man. But now, the alpha male is different and must possess a number of traits that the cave man didn't have to have. It was simpler for men in the past he was the provider for his family, and all he had to do to be the man was go slay the dragon and bring it home to cook and eat with his family. But now, the traits of an alpha male are more refined and rounded and yet, more complicated.

If we go back even just one generation or two, you will find that the concept of an alpha male was more barbaric and unrefined than it is today. Back then, little boys were told to be tough. So, in our modern world, do we really want our fathers to raise their children with sayings that their dads told them such as, Don't cry! Suck it up! Be a man? More damage has already been done to men than most people realize because of old alpha male men who tried to raise their children from a cave-man mentality.

The lunacy continues even to today. Some books and writers on the topic of how to be an alpha man recommend going out and getting into a fight! That's just plain ignorant. Now, although there is a time and a place to fight, that type of advice is the kind of old school, asinine nonsense that you should watch out for that may have been good advice a couple generations ago, but not for a modern alpha man.

The problem is that society wants to put the alpha male up on a pedestal and get all men to aspire to being an alpha male, but no one really agrees on what an alpha male is. Is he dominant or in control? Is he aggressive or assertive? What's more important being smart, or having superior social skills? Is he fearless, or strategic? Is he physically superior, or not? Is he good or bad? Most people would describe a bad boy type of guy as an alpha male. But do we really want our children to grow up thinking that being a bad boy is better than being a good person who possesses the potential to be a strong, compassionate leader a real, modern day alpha male?

The problem with other books and PUAs (Pick Up Artists) is that they teach you what to do and not to do only, instead of who to be. The problem with learning what to do and not to do is that you will come off as inauthentic and awkward far from being a confident, modern alpha male.

You cannot not communicate. What this means is that people, especially women, can pretty much get a vibe from you whether you want them to or not. When you are talking and communicating, more of what you are communicating is coming from your body language, the tone of your voice and the pitch of your voice than the words you say.

If you are in front of a beautiful woman and you get nervous, typically, your voice will get higher and your speech will speed up both indicators to the woman that just her presence is making you nervous. The message that she gets if you get nervous is that you are insecure and do not feel worthy enough to even be in her presence. If she sees you that way, she will lose attraction.

This book is going to take a more intellectual approach to being an alpha male and yet, not rule out the importance of keeping your body in tip-top shape through diet and exercise. As the collective consciousness of man elevates, so to do we have to elevate our descriptions of what it means to be an alpha male.

The good news about being an alpha male today is that any guy can learn how to be more alpha like. According to the typical description of an alpha male, there is no way that everyone can be one. If an alpha male is a leader, then by definition, all other guys are beta males and are followers. The days of black and white descriptions of what it means to be an alpha male are over.

So, can anyone be an alpha male? Maybe not in the old definition, but certainly every male in today's world can learn to have the traits of an alpha male. And when you attain the characteristics of an alpha male, you set yourself up to be more of a leader: a leader in your own world.

When you read a lot of other books or listen to pick up artists (PUAs) on how to become an alpha male, there is a lot of male macho misinformation out there that taps more into the cave-man mentality that won't work in today's society. Some will basically tell you that men are superior to women, and that the alpha male puts the female in her place. They say that women cannot lead, are not born leaders, and that it's not natural. Although that may have been true in the past, more and more women are attaining high-ranking positions in both the corporate and the political world. Many women run successful businesses.

If you don't accept that women can be alphas too and you run into a situation where you are offered an amazing job, with a salary twice what you make right now, how are you going to feel if your boss is a female?

What would you do?

The point is that men and women are equal but different, and each has their own strengths and weaknesses. Men, in general, are able to focus better than women. Women, on the other hand, are able to handle multiple tasks at one time better. To be completely politically incorrect, men are thinkers, and women are feelers. Men are more black and white, and women are much more complicated, typically. But honestly, women really struggle with their emotions and with holding their emotions in under pressure, and that is where the alpha male, the true alpha male excels. In the eyes of a woman, the alpha male's ability to control his emotions under pressure is very attractive.

Of course there are all kinds of exceptions to this, just as there are always exceptions to every rule.

So, it is easy to see why pick up artist gurus would consider a man to be superior to a woman and that the man should be the leader and the women should not. The debate will not be settled here, and it doesn't need to be. You just need to understand that you are living in a day and age where women are changing and are demanding equal rights. And whether you think that men are superior or not doesn't matter. What does matter is that you become the best man that you can become so that you can be who you really are and stand up for yourself in front of anyone and in any given situation. That is what a true alpha male is.