Dillow Linda - Intimate issues: conversations woman to woman: 21 questions women ask about sex

A preacher was invited to give a talk at a womens health symposium. His wife inquired about his topic, and he was too embarrassed to admit he had been asked to speak about sex. Thinking quickly, he replied, Im talking about sailing.

The next day at the grocery store a young woman who had attended the lecture recognized the ministers wife. That was certainly an excellent talk your husband gave yesterday, she said. He really has a unique perspective on the subject. Somewhat chagrined, the ministers wife replied, Funny you should think so. I mean, hes only done it twice. The first time he threw up, and the second time, his hat blew off.

Many people are embarrassed to talk about sex while others blare SEX! from the rooftops. Making public what God intended to be private seems to have become a national pastime. Recently, we saw a television newsmagazine that featured a couple explicitly describing how Viagra had catapulted them into wild ecstasy. We flicked the off button in disgust. Then, a week later, we read a newspaper article about the captain of a South African Airways jumbo jet who had to leave the cockpit to scold two passengers who were openly engaging in sex in the planes business section.

Everywhere we turn, people are talking about sex. Yet, Christian wives have few places to turn for biblical, frank information from a womans viewpoint on this sensitive topic. We wrote Intimate Issues to provide this much needed perspective.

Before we go any further, let us tell you about ourselves. We are not sex therapists, psychologists, or sociologists. We are students of the Scripture, women who seek God and want to know Him and reveal Him in every aspect of our lives, including our sexual relationships with our husbands. We are both authors and speakers who teach on marriage and the sexual relationship, but also on spiritual-life issues.

In preparation for this book, we asked one thousand women, If you could have two questions answered about the sexual relationship between a husband and wife, what would they be? The most frequently asked questions became the chapter titles of this book. Wed like to thank the many women who not only asked the questions, but gave us permission to tell their stories so you might receive wisdom and encouragement. We appreciate their candor, and weve protected them by changing their names.

As part of our research, we read through the Bible from Genesis to Revelation, noting every reference to sexuality. We are concerned that Christian women grow in their sexuality from Gods perspective. We wish we could sit down over a cup of coffee or tea and talk about your questions and pray with you over your concerns. Because this is not possible, we have asked God to meet with you as you read this book. And, weve asked Him to help you feel you are not only meeting with Him, but also with two friends who care for you.

We have spent hours in prayer over this book. We wanted to be specific enough to be helpful, but sensitive enough not to offend. God has declared that His gift of sex in marriage is to bring abandoned pleasure and intimate oneness. May this book reveal His heart and may you be motivated and encouraged to grow to become both a godly and sensuous wife.