Juli Slattery - 25 Questions Youre Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and Intimacy

Theres a lot more to the birds and the bees than understanding human physiology. Our sexuality is intricately connected with our identity, our desires, our sense of self-worth, and even our spiritual health! In this gutsy book, Dr. Juli Slattery is like a trusted friend, experienced counselor, and spiritual mentor to her readers, empowering us to better understand and fully embrace our God-given sexuality.

KELLI B. TRUJILLO

Editor, Todays Christian Woman

Most of us have questions about sex we never ask. After all, sex is highly personal and can be quite an embarrassing topic! Thats what makes this book such a valuable and needed guide. Dr. Juli Slattery isnt afraid to answer tough questions about sexand she does so with tact, sensitivity, and wisdom.

ARLENE PELLICANE

Author, 31 Days to a Happy Husband and coauthor, Growing Up Social

In a generation that is quickly turning its back from God and His standards of morality, there are many questions and areas of confusion for people in regard to sexuality. Dr. Juli Slattery bravely joins the discussion by answering twenty-five of the most asked questions about sex and intimacy. This book could not have come at a better time, and I hope that people find freedom and healing in their sexuality as they go through each chapter.

JENNIFER SMITH

Author, The Unveiled Wife: Embracing Intimacy with God and Your Husband

2015 by
JULI SLATTERY

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Portions of chapters 6 and 16 were adapted from Juli Slattery, No More Headaches: Enjoying Sex and Intimacy in Marriage (Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale, 2009).

Portions of chapters 8, 9, and 16 were adapted from Linda Dillow and Juli Slattery, Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? (Chicago: Moody, 2013).

Portions of chapter 17 were adapted from Dannah Gresh and Juli Slattery, Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Womans Heart (Chicago: Moody, 2014).

Edited by Elizabeth Cody Newenhuyse
Interior design: Erik M. Peterson
Author photo: Cathy Walters Photography
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Slattery, Juli
25 questions youre afraid to ask about love, sex, and intimacy / Dr. Juli Slattery.
pages cm
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-0-8024-1342-0
1. Christian womenReligious life. 2. SexReligious aspectsChristianityMiscellanea. I. Title. II. Title: Twenty-five questions youre afraid to ask about love, sex, and intimacy.
BV4527.S49 2015
241.664082dc23

2015020685

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TO MIKE:

Swoo, only because of your love and support can I write and speak on such sensitive topics. I am so grateful for the journey of marriage and intimacy God is taking us through! I love living life with you and I love you!

QUESTION 1:
Whats the big deal about sex?

QUESTION 2:
Who are you to judge my sexual choices?

QUESTION 3:
Can I be single and sexual?

QUESTION 4:
Is it wrong to like sex?

QUESTION 5:
And I waited for this?

QUESTION 6:
Why do guys care so much about sex?

QUESTION 7:
What if I want sex more than my husband does?

QUESTION 8:
How adventurous can we be in bed?

QUESTION 9:
Is okay in the bedroom? (You fill in the blank!)

QUESTION 10:
What do my temptations say about me?

QUESTION 11:
How do I get past my shame?

QUESTION 12:
How do I know he is the one?

QUESTION 13:
How far is too far?

QUESTION 14:
Is living together a good test run for marriage?

QUESTION 15:
What if Im attracted to someone else?

QUESTION 16:
How can I compete with porn?

QUESTION 17:
Whats wrong with mommy porn?

QUESTION 18:
Is masturbation a sin?

QUESTION 19:
Can I be godly and gay?

QUESTION 20:
How do I rebuild trust after a betrayal?

QUESTION 21:
Does forgiveness mean Ill be hurt again?

QUESTION 22:
What if I dont like sex?

QUESTION 23:
How do I make time to make love?

QUESTION 24:
How do we fight without hurting each other?

QUESTION 25:
Why wouldnt God want me to be happy?

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