Praise for
Rethinking Sexuality
Never before have I read such a clear, theologically sound, compassionate, and insightful work on sexuality. Juli addresses all the sexual issues most Christians are afraid to talk about and provides deeper answers than most of us have ever considered. She offers not only practical wisdom to navigate the sexual confusion of our day but also a paradigm-changing game plan to sexually disciple those God has placed in our care.
C HIP I NGRAM , president and teaching pastor of Living on the Edge and author of Culture Shock
It is high time we begin to understand the narrative and meaning of one of Gods great gifts to humanity and what it means to grow not only in sexual purity but also in maturity. I deeply respect Juli Slattery. Her thinking is foundationally biblical and wise while also being well informed and thoughtful. I consider this a seminal work to aid the church in growing in a conversation that goes beyond Just say no.
D AN B . A LLENDER, P H D , author of The Wounded Heart and God Loves Sex, professor of counseling psychology and founding president of the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology
Tragically, secular values about sexuality have become integrated into every possible aspect of life. It is frightening, and as moms and leaders, we dont know how to undo the damage done to hearts, minds, and lives. Dr. Juli Slattery arrives with hope!
L INDA D ILLOW , speaker and author of Passion Pursuit and Intimate Issues
Dr. Slattery is, in my opinion, one of the most articulate, thought-provoking, clear-thinking writers and speakers on genuine intimacy on the planet. Forget the toaster as a wedding gift. Give this book to newly married couples who have grown up in our sexual wasteland of a world.
J OHN T RENT, P H D , author and president of StrongFamilies.com
Dr. Juli Slattery is the expert I trust to balance grace and truth in explaining Gods plan for human sexuality. Like no other expert on this topic, Dr. Slattery combines education, compassion, professional qualification, and biblical conviction to chart a practical path forward.
J OHN S . D ICKERSON , author of Hope of Nations and lead pastor of Connection Pointe Christian Church
My friend Juli Slattery has dedicated her life to helping men and especially women navigate the often intimidating landscape of human sexuality. She does this with grace, empathy, wisdom, and a deep understanding of Gods divine design for sex as outlined in Scripture.
D R. G REG S MALLEY , vice president of marriage and family formation at Focus on the Family
Dr. Juli Slattery has once again reminded us why she is our generations leading expert on human sexuality and questions of intimacy. Rethinking Sexuality is a must-read for every pastor in America who desires to marry sound theology with compassion and wise action!
C HRIS B ROOKS, MA , campus dean of Moody Theological Seminary, Michigan
We are pounded with the worlds teaching on sexuality from every quarter, every day. Yet the body of Christ remains befuddled and appears powerless before the onslaught. Juli is calling us to know and live and teach the positive case for true sexuality. As she says: Its time to reclaim sexuality as a holy expression of Gods goodness and love.
D R. D EL T ACKETT , author and teacher, The Truth Project and Is Genesis History?
Our view of God, Scripture, and all relationships flow through the grid of our sexuality. Without a biblical view of sexuality, we wont get anything right. I heartily recommend Julis seminal work. This is one of those must-reads for the church. Read it, live it, and disciple others in it.
J OSH M C D OWELL , speaker, best-selling author, and founder of Josh McDowell Ministry
R ETHINKING S EXUALITY
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Copyright 2018 by Juli Slattery
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Slattery, Julianna, 1969- author.
Title: Rethinking sexuality : Gods design and why it matters / Dr. Juli Slattery.
Description: First Edition. | Colorado Springs : Multnomah, 2018. | Includes bibliographical references.
Identifiers: LCCN 2017051234| ISBN 9780735291478 (pbk.) | ISBN 9780735291485 (electronic)
Subjects: LCSH: Sex--Religious aspects--Christianity.
Classification: LCC BT708 .S544 2018 | DDC 233/.5dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2017051234
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To Mom and Dad.
I cant thank you enough for the many ways you have taught me to love God and His Word. Our Father plants small seeds and uses them to bear much fruit. To raise a heritage that will reflect Gods glory on earth.
All my love,
Juli
Contents
P ART 1
A N EW P ARADIGM S EXUAL D ISCIPLESHIP
P ART 2
L OOKING U PWARD K NOWING W HAT W E B ELIEVE
The Premise
What You Think About Sex Begins with What You Believe About God
The Purpose
The Gospel Is Written Within Your Sexuality
The Problem
Someone Wants to Destroy Holy Sexuality
The Pandemic
We Are All Sexually Broken
The Promise
Jesus Came to Redeem Broken Sexuality
P ART 3
L OOKING I NWARD L IVING W HAT W E B ELIEVE
P ART 4
L OOKING O UTWARD P ASSING O N W HAT W E B ELIEVE
Foreword
One day it dawned on me. We have been sexually discipled by the world.
As a pastor in the nations fourth largest city, and as one who has worked with numerous premarital couples, I couldnt agree more with Dr. Juli Slatterys comments. Indeed, any honest observer must realize that there seems to be a concerted effort in most forms of entertainment and the media to promote an image and purpose of sexuality that is radically at odds with biblical teaching and historic Christian practice.