Kat Harris - Sexless in the City: A Sometimes Sassy, Sometimes Painful, Always Honest Look at Dating, Desire, and Sex

Kat doesnt just write words, she speaks truth. Ive known Kat for a decade and seen her live out every chapter of this book. With truth and real-life experience, her words will give you tools and equip you to dive into your own story and seek the heart of God when it comes to relationships.

BIANCA JUAREZ OLTHOFF, speaker, pastor,
and bestselling author of How to Have
Your Life Not Suck

In our sex-saturated culture, Christians constantly seek how to respond in both a compelling and compassionate way. Kat has done just that. Sexless in the City does a fantastic job of weaving together personal narrative with biblical truth and doesnt shrink away from the hard questions people really want answered. You may not agree with everything in here, but you will be better for examining faith and sex through a holistic and biblical lens.

JON TYSON, lead pastor of Church of the City New York,
author of Beautiful Resistance

I know what its like to hide and crush my sexuality in the name of purity culture. I know what its like to see my self-image, my body, be warped and hindered by old ways of thinking. Harris invites us into an expansive, generous, biblical view of intimacy that is so needed. I wish Id had this book when I was younger. But Im glad we have it now.

JEDIDIAH JENKINS,New York Times bestselling
author of To Shake the Sleeping Self
and Like Streams to the Ocean

Kat is sincere in her deep love for Christ and her desire to biblically wrestle with her questions around sex, sexuality, desire, singleness, femininity, relationships, and the way of Jesus. This book is vulnerable, biblically sound, and fastened tightly to the promises of God. Its a book where sexual brokenness doesnt get to have the final say. Instead, as you journey through its pages, you may just find freedom, healing, and restoration with our amazing God.

ANDI ANDREW, author, speaker, and church planter

Kat Harris has written an incredibly insightful, bold, and challenging body of work in Sexless in the City. It is a genuine road map we can all follow to help lead us in discovering some of the answers to questions, concerns, and thoughts most people are afraid to talk about.

TIM TIMBERLAKE, lead pastor of Celebration Church,
author of The Power of 1440 and Abandon

This is such an important discussion, and I am so thankful for the deep dive this book takes us on to educate us with truth on Gods intent for sexuality, roles, boundaries, purity, and the simultaneous struggle and joy it all can bring. This is a must-read!

LAUREN SCRUGGS KENNEDY,New York Times
bestselling author of Your Beautiful Heart and
Still LoLo, lifestyle and wellness entrepreneur

Christians are notoriously bad at talking about sex. Sexless in the City is a layered and nuanced conversation around singleness and sex, dating and desire that people of faith need far more than they realize. Kat Harris shares her own journey with remarkable vulnerabilitysparing no detail and granting no respect to cultural taboosto invite readers to confront their own hidden struggles and fears. Remarkably, this book normalizes healthy discussion about sexuality without abandoning faith as irrelevant or dismissing the sacred Scriptures as antiquated. I recommend this book, but only for brave believers who are ready to be transformed by the renewing of their minds.

JONATHAN MERRITT, contributing writer for The Atlantic,
author of Learning to Speak God from Scratch

Raised in the stifling narratives of both purity and hook-up cultures, Kat Harris reminds us we neednt pick a side: pure or impure, virgin or whore. With honest retellings of Bible stories, Kat presents an ever-loving God who desires his women embodied, aligned, and genuinely free. Away with the churchs vague pleasantries and unhappily-ever-afters; Sexless in the City offers a sacred sexual ethic that will actually work.

BRENDA MARIE DAVIES, author of On Her Knees:
Memoir of a Prayerful Jezebel

Throughout these words, Kat invites us on her personal journey of trusting Gods design for sex in her life. Shes honest, vulnerable, and relatable in the ways she has grown and been stretched in believing what Gods Word says about sex for the single girl.

JAMIE IVEY, bestselling author, podcast host

Shout-out to Kat for tackling one of the most hidden and lied about topics in the church and beyond. From biblical truth to wild and fun stories, theres no better read on moving from a life of secrecy to fully coming into our godly sexuality. Buy this book, read it intently, and get out of the dark about how God intentionally created us all.

TONI COLLIER, founder of Broken Crayons,
colead pastor of Hillsong Atlanta

Kat uncovers deep insight on topics more commonly swept under the rug or discussed only in whispers or shouts. This is what it looks like to be a woman who follows God, but does so shame-free. Let the light shine with clarity on the truth we all have missed along the way so that we can celebrate being whole, as we are, in the way God made us.

JENNA KUTCHER, host of the
Goal Digger podcast

Kat is the voice of Christ-following women who believe there is more out there to who we are than what weve been taught. Kat has the courage to ask tough questions that so many feel too afraid or embarrassed to ask. Kats vulnerability and openness about her own journey help sweep away the pervasive shame about our bodies, sex, and pleasure and replace it with insight and empowerment about who God created us to be as human beings. Her words, wisdom, and biblical knowledge help set women free.

DR. THERESE MASCARDO, licensed clinical
psychologist, founder of Exploring Therapy

Kat Harris honestly, and sometimes humorously, addresses issues that were wholly neglected by faith mentors and, dare I say, our own mothers. As Harris questions the shameful narrative many learned in their youth, she paints a new picture, one laced with grace and restoration. This book will prove to be an invaluable road map for women as they navigate their sexuality in this day and age.

TIFFANY BLUHM, author of Prey Tell,
cohost of the Why Tho podcast

At last! This is the book I wish I had when I was a young woman weighed down by shame about my sexual desire. These are the words I needed when I thought Id be condemned forevermore. Kat gracefully undoes harmful purity culture narratives and replaces them with rooted biblical truth about the beauty of our sexual design. This is a beautiful, brave must-read!

KAIT WARMAN, author, dating coach,
and founder of Heart of Dating

Women are hungry for truth. We need a space where we are free to ask the hard questions about romance, sexuality and the Bible, where the longing in our soul and the questions in our hearts can be heard, and answered. Whether you are married or single, Christian or not, this book packs a punch in practical takeaways and applicable wisdom.

ASHLEY ABERCROMBIE, author of Rise of the
Truth Teller and Love Is the Resistance

Kat Harris is the vulnerable and bold voice you want to hear when it comes to unpacking single sexuality. She validates the confusing parts of finding a sexual ethic and then gives you a road map for finding your own. An excellent read!

CELESTE HOLBROOK, PhD, sex educator

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