Mirdad - An Introduction to Tantra and Sacred Sexuality

M y prayer of thanksgiving goes out to all of my friends and supporters. Thanks to Lynne Matous for her editing, as well as Dennis Littleton, N.D., for his expertise. I also want to thank Robin, Gregg, Jackie and Ron and everyone else who took the time to assist with editing and proofreading the manuscript. Thanks to the many authors and teachers of sacred sexuality including Valerie Brooks, Mantak Chia, David A. Ramsdale, and Osho. I extend my deepest appreciation to all of the students who have attended my sacred sexuality workshops and everyone who added to this book by adding to my life.

I dedicate this book to our Divine Creator and to the Love that permeates all things.

Cover and interior design by
Robert Lanphear

Illustrations by
Richard Bulman
www.BulmanFineArt.com

I magine how it feels physically, emotionally, energetically and spiritually to have the love essence of every molecule, atom, and sub-atomic particle in the universe dancing with delight to re-join similar love essences within your being. The energetic response is ecstatic! Practicing sacred sexuality and channeling loving energy are highly effective ways to raise our vibrations to the level of embodied gods and goddesses.

Science teaches that our physical bodies are not as dense as they appear and that there is more space within our bodies than there is density. Sacred sexuality is about sharing and exploring an intimate relationship with this inner spaciousness beyond the dense, material body. Its a state of living in the vibration of the soul. Its about accessing our soulsthe parts of us that remember bliss beyond measure. Afterwards, everything we do becomes an experience of union with All That Is.

Orgasm is a state where your body is no longer felt as matter; it vibrates like energy, electricity. It vibrates so deeply, from the very foundation, that you completely forget that it is a material thing. In orgasm, you come to this deepest layer of your body where matter no longer exists, just energy waves; you become a dancing energy, vibrating.

Osho

Technically, all sex is sacred, as are all souls, but not everyone treats it that way. Nevertheless, irresponsible use of sexuality does not remove the sacredness but merely veils our ability to see and experience it. The term sacred sexuality has many closely related meanings. But since the word sacred refers to the spirit and sexuality refers to the body, the two words combined describe a merging of the worlds of spirit and matter, or the soul with the body.

Sacred sexuality is about experiencing levels of ecstatic bliss and unconditional love (usually only attainable through prolonged practice of advanced meditation techniques) and, most importantly, bringing these experiences into our daily lives. Its ultimately about living bliss, not just feeling it. In practicing sacred sexuality, we learn to live within the material world while integrating an experience and vibration beyond this worldone that feels ecstatic and almost uncontainable. This vibration translates into consistently feeling unconditional love for all people and things, which is why it is called the path of living bliss.

In sacred sexuality, all aspects (physical, energetic, emotional, mental, and spiritual) of our beings are utilized to arouse the fullest sexual experience possible. In other words, these various aspects of consciousness are brought to full awakening and enhanced by the sexual experience: the physical body with its senses and sensations, the energetic body with its energy systems and kundalini, the emotional body with its romance and desires, the mental body with its fantasies and focus, and the spiritual body with its love and divine awareness. All are utilized to increase arousal. Afterwards, each aspect of consciousness, in turn, is brought to another level of awareness.

During a truly sacred sexual experience, our attention moves beyond the sexual anatomy and into the eyes and hearts of our partners. With this higher focus, we become keenly aware that our partners are more than bodies. As our relationships deepen, it becomes easier to open our hearts and allow our partners into the sacred spaces of our souls. With the increased depth and sacredness of the sexual experience, passion and spontaneity are not lost. On the contrary, they are enhanced. This deepening trust creates an openness to, and desire for, the experiences of passion and spontaneity. Then, sexual ecstasy occurs at the point when our bodies are merging with spirit, as we disappear as individuals and become one with everything. Contrary to most beliefs, the true practitioners of sacred sexuality are not obsessing on nor expecting sexual intercourse. Instead, they are using the act of sensual expression as a means to unveil themselveson their own or with (one or more) othersand are doing so with the most vulnerable aspect of their beings, their sexual selves.

In general, there are four potential stages to a sacred sexual experience. Anyone who chooses to explore a sacred sexual experience might do so by selecting any one of these stages or by applying all of them. Whichever the case, there are a few general stages to any sexual encounter. Although the first few stages are crucial, it is common to neglect the fourth step, postplay (the afterglow), which is as important as any of the others. Although any single part is enough by itself, the most complete experience goes through the following four stages:

1. Foreplay: building connection and enjoying arousal

2. Intercourse: practicing some form of sexual pleasuring

3. Orgasm: experiencing some level of release

4. Postplay: enjoying the afterglow

U ltimately, love is both the goal of, and the result from healthy, intimate sharing. Indeed, one of the most profound expressions of love is intimacy (meaning in-to-me-see). Intimacy, therefore, results from the mutual desire to love, the yearning to share, and the willingness to be vulnerable. Where two or more are gathered with one common goal of love, there is the Presence of God. Sacred sexuality is an ideal meeting place for discovering the greater depths of intimacy. Therefore, how, when, where, and with whom we share sexual expression is worth much consideration.

Since true sexual union is based on harmony, it is important to understand that complete cooperation, communication, and agreement are a must. If the two are truly one, then there will be a great deal of sensitivity for the likes and dislikes of each partner. So, in effect, sexual union can enhance sensitivity and compassion for self and others.

There are three active forces within the human consciousness that assist us in expressing and experiencing profound and intimate relationships with others. These forces are LOVE (with our hearts), DESIRE (with our feelings), and PASSION or sexuality (with our bodies). During intimate relationships with others, most people experience only one or two of these forces at any given time. Yet, the ideal scenario for the deepest experience of soul-sharing between partners is to have all three of these forces in harmonious balance.

Love is what we really are at the level of the soul. To share the heart and soul, we must be evolved enough to hold the presence of love within our own hearts, first and foremost. To share heart and soul with another, we must be courageous enough to accept vulnerability at its deepest level, or to love even at the risk of being hurt.