St. Claire - 227 Ways to Unleash the Sex Goddess Within

Also by Olivia St. Claire

203 WAYS TO DRIVE
A MAN WILD IN BED

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To the sensual goddesses of history and heavenespecially
Aphrodite, Cleopatra, the Cloud Damsels, the Cosmic Yoni, the
Djanggawo sisters, Hathor, Inanna, Lilith, Mother Earth,
Nofretari, Oshun, Pele, Sekhmet, Shakti, the Snake Priestess,
White Buffalo Woman, Wild Woman, Xochiquetzal, the
Yoginisand to the Sex Goddess in every woman

My deepest gratitude to all the women and men who so graciously shared their most intimate thoughts and feelings with mewe have all learned so much from you. Heartfelt thanks as well to the extraordinary women who so lavishly gave me their support, advice, assistance, and love during the writing of this bookChristine, Claudia, Deborah, Jane, Karen Marie, Marianne, Pamela, Paula, Sandy, and Toviand to those who have so expertly guided me in birthing it into the worldShaye, Paula, Shima, and Miko.

A woman learns to be a good lover from her own heart and from the heart of her being. She does not need to learn it from a man. She learns it from her inner goddess.

Elaine Kittredge, Masterpiece Sex

e very woman has an Inner Sex Goddess. She lives in your heart, your body, and your senses. She is the part of you that feels aroused by reading erotic literature or watching sexy movies. She is the part of you that skips a heartbeat when an attractive man in tight jeans walks by. She is the part of you that feels coy and flirtatious when you put on a clingy dress; after all, it was her idea to wear the dress in the first place. Your Inner Sex Goddess is the one who bought this book and who tingles with anticipation at the thought of becoming, at last, her most gloriously seductive self.

Whether you experience her as a feeling (like a buttery inner warmth), as one of the many roles you play in life (such as career woman, mother, friend, wife, party organizer), or as a distinct personality (like your inner child, inner critic, or inner male and female), your Inner Sex Goddess is a strong, important, and natural part of who you really are. And getting to know her is really getting to know your deepest selfyour beliefs and values, your fears and dreams, and the very personal poetry of your body. The truly wonderful thing about your Inner Sex Goddess is that, without instruction from any person, book, workshop, or man, she already knows how to be fabulously sexy and alluring. In her bones, she knows how to feel sexy, even when youre tired and cranky, bored, or simply at a loss for inspiration. She knows exactly what to do with her hands when you are making love; she doesnt wonder if its better to stroke his back or tickle his ear because, with unerring instinct, she automatically does the very thing that will most stimulate herself and her lover.

In fact, your Inner Sex Goddess is a boundless source of sexual energy, know-how, and charisma. Unashamed, self-confident, and regally proud of her sexuality, she understands that feeling and being sexy is a natural and beautiful way for a woman to nourish her spirit and learn to love the ecstasies of her sensation-rich body. Revealing herself to you with every swish of your hair or sway of your hip, your Inner Sex Goddess revels in the textures of life and the world of the sensesand the more you revel in those textures and senses, the better you will get to know her; the freer she will be to enjoy pleasuring herself and her lover; and the more lovely, bold, and exciting she will become.

It is she who lives in the vivid sensitivities of your body. She is there when you appreciate the look of candlelight on the curve of your breast, the smell of a gardenia in your hair, the taste of wine on your lips and tongue, the feel of sun or silk on your skin, the sound of sultry jazz or samba music, the luxury of a hot bubble bath or a full-body massage, the delicious flushes and tingles of self-pleasuring or lovemaking. These physical sensations are doorways to your rich inner world of lush romance and hot libido.

In fact, we women have a natural gift for combining romance, love, and sex into one magical art form. Even our enticingly soft and curvy bodies seem to be specially designed for exquisite pleasure. Did you know, for instance, that we females are unique in having a highly sensitive organ whose only purpose is sexual delight?

But even though we have all these natural erotic gifts, no one has schooled us in the art of being in tune with and expressing our inherent sexuality. So we have felt awkward, confused, and even cut off from one of the most precious and vital parts of ourselves. This is not the case in many indigenous culturesfor instance, Native American, tribal African, Tantric Indian, and some ancient Far Eastern societies, to name a few. Placing a high priority on developing sexual joy and proficiency in a sacred, loving way, these traditions often use specially trained sexual mentors to instruct and advise young people on how to appreciate the beauty and majesty of their bodies, as well as how to bring the highest sensual pleasure to their future partnersand to themselves. Naturally in touch with their Inner Sex Gods and Goddesses, people in these cultures believe sexuality is a divine gift and learn to treat their bodies with the utmost respect and reverence. We would be wise to learn from them.

Ancient indigenous cultures who were living closer to the earth and practicing rituals tied to the cycles of nature were more in tune with the senses and textures of life than our modern civilized society. Their uncomplicated existence and natural belief in the divine nature of plants, animals, elements, and life itself allowed them to be more intimately acquainted with the sensuality that dwelt within themand left them with practically no inhibitions. To them, sexuality was a natural part of creation, and their sex organs were a chalice of the sacred energy of life. For example, one Stone Age cave painting shows a male figure holding a bow, his penis connected by an unbroken power line to the genitals of a female figure, suggesting that the female ritually empowered the man to go out for the huntarchetypal roles that these early peoples acted out in daily life. In ancient India, men and women transformed themselves into gods and goddessesmeditating, anointing themselves, drinking sacred potions, muttering mantras over their bodies, and having ritualized sexfor the purpose of achieving enlightenment. Other prepatriarchal religions honored fertility, creation, and sexuality in their ceremonies as different aspects of the same divine force. The pagan rites of Beltane, for example, involved ritual or wildly abandoned sexual activity as the symbolic cause of the earths fertility in spring, and the solstice celebrations of planting and reaping the crops as a gift from the sensual, abundant body of the earth as goddess.