Olivia St. Claire - 203 Ways to Drive a Man Wild in Bed

The lines from i like my body when it is with your are reprinted from COMPLETE POEMS, 19041962, by E. E. Cummings, edited by George J. Firmage, by permission of Liveright Publishing Corporation. Copyright 1923, 1925, 1926, 1931, 1935, 1938, 1939, 1940, 1944, 1945, 1946, 1947, 1948, 1949, 1950, 1951, 1952, 1953, 1954, 1955, 1956, 1957, 1958, 1959, 1960, 1961, 1962 by E. E. Cummings. Copyright 1961, 1963, 1966, 1967, 1968 by Marion Morehouse Cummings. Copyright 1972, 1973, 1974, 1975, 1976, 1977, 1978, 1979, 1980, 1981, 1982, 1983, 1984, 1985, 1986, 1987, 1988, 1989, 1990, 1991 by the Trustees for the E. E. Cummings Trust.

Copyright 1993 by Olivia St. Claire

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

St. Claire, Olivia.
203 ways to drive a man wild in bed / by Olivia St. Claire
1. Sex instruction for women. 2. Men-Sexual behavior.
I. Title. II. Title: 203 ways to drive a man wild in bed.
HQ46.S8 1993
613.96024042 dc20 93-14791

eISBN: 978-0-307-83319-8

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T O THE L USTY L OVE G ODDESS
THAT LIVES INSIDE
EVERY WOMAN

My warmest thanks to all the men who shared with me their hearts and souls, their bodies and beds, and their fantasies and desires. Without them, this book wouldnt exist.

I am eternally grateful to Paula, whose brilliance, savvy, and enthusiasm turned my book fantasies into reality; to Shaye Areheart, for believing in the book so strongly and then making it even better; to the irrepressible Joanna; to Henry D., for his loving support and his poppity-pop-pop ideas; and to Deborah C. for being a great friend, valued advisor, and inspiring Wild Woman.

Only the united beat of

sex and heart together can

create ecstasy.

Anas Nin

1. You can read this book straight through from cover to cover, or dip in here and there for a tasty sexual hint whenever the mood strikes you. But whatever you do, be sure to read the first chapter completely. Without these five Secrets of Great Sex, all the other tips will be much less powerful.

2. Its probably best not to show this book to your man. Youll want all these sexy surprises to unfold in your own time, naturally and spontaneouslynot because he expects them of you.

3. Abandon yourself to your own inventive nature. Use these techniques and ideas as a starting point and then feel free to concoct your own special love treats.

4. Let go of any questions or concerns you may have about why were figuring out ways to make men happy, instead of the other way around. As a sensitive, caring lover, you already know that truly great sex is more about giving than receivingespecially when you stop to consider that not only are you enjoying these delectable treats yourself, but youre also inspiring your man to do delicious things to you. Sometimes men just dont realize what great lovers they can be until a sexy, loving woman shows them.

5. Know that loving your manand yourselfis enough. You dont have to perform new and exotic sex tricks every night to be a luscious love goddess. You already are one!

The potion drunk by lovers

is prepared by no one but themselves.

The potion is the sum

of ones whole existence.

Anas Nin

I ts unfortunate but true that the days of completely carefree sex have come to an end. Though we can be cured of certain sexually transmitted diseases by treatment with penicillin and other antibiotics, these drugs provide no cure for genital herpes or AIDS. So in todays world, part of being a great lover means taking responsibility for protecting yourself and your partner from these very serious diseases.

While total abstinence is one way to protect yourself, it is certainly not an enjoyable solution and is not even necessary. If you and your man have had sex only with each other for at least the past ten years, and neither of you uses drugs intravenously or has had a contaminated blood transfusion, you can safely and happily enjoy any and all of the 203 ways to drive him wild in bed. This will be the case for the vast majority of married couples.

If you and your lover are relatively new to each other, there are still plenty of ways to share some very hot safer sex. Take the time to get to know each other first and establish that you are both concerned about your own and your partners health and well-being. Dont be shy about saying something like, With all the talk about herpes and AIDS these days, I really feel concerned about having sex with someone I havent known well for a very long time, and Im sure you do, too. I want both of us to feel completely at ease, so why dont we talk a little bit about this. Then you should share with each other your concerns, your current state of health, the extent of your sexual and intravenous drug activity, and what youd like to do to protect each other. At the very least, always use a condom. Make them a part of your lovemaking ritual each and every time. Or perhaps youll want to wait until youve both been tested for the HIV antibody. (For the test to be effective, you must wait to take it for a period up to six months from your last possible exposure to the HIV virus.)

This may seem awfully clinical and potentially embarrassing, but youre much better off safe than sorry. Neither herpes nor AIDS is curable, and AIDS is a fatal disease. Its easy enough to recognize whether your partner has active herpes lesions; they start out as a small reddened area and then develop into clusters of small white blisters. But it is impossible to determine if your partner carries the HIV virus without proper tests. He may not know it himself. But if he has been sexually active or uses intravenous drugs, the risk is much greater.

There are many excellent books in print that will give you the basic facts about sexually transmitted diseases and how to protect yourself, and I recommend that you buy at least one and educate yourself. In addition, there is an appendix at the back of this book that offers some basic guidelines for safer sex. Read it. Armed with the facts, youll be able to make informed, intelligent decisions about your sexual activities and determine what precautions you should take. Make this one of the ways you and your lover get to know and care about each other. Be smart. Be firm. Be sure. Then go ahead and enjoy yourself. Having sex with a man you feel comfortable and safe with is the greatest aphrodisiac of all.

The first and foremost erogenous zone is in the mind.

Richard Alan Miller,
The Magical & Ritual