The Trial
Transform Your Dating Life In Eight Weeks
By Avery Hayden
Contents:
Introduction: Zen and the Art of Pickup
Section 1: Prepare for Success
Chapter 1: Missed Opportunities
Chapter 2: Self-Help Vs. Reality
Chapter 3: Cupids Arrow
Chapter 4: Dont Believe the Hype
Chapter 5: The Evolution of Desire
Chapter 6: The Path to Mastery
Chapter 7: You Will Make Excuses
Chapter 8: What You See Is All There Is
Chapter 9: Eight Weeks
Chapter 10: Field Reports Catalyze Change
Chapter 11: Do Whatever It Takes
Section 2: Trial by Fire
Chapter 12: Challenge One: Get Your Feet Wet
Chapter 13: Do This if Youre Having Trouble
Chapter 14: Challenge 2: Open
Chapter 15: The Devils Nectar
Chapter 16: Challenge 3: Just Two Minutes (1 st challenge for intermediates)
Chapter 17: Social Momentum Manifesto
Chapter 18: Date Field Reports
Chapter 19: Challenge 4: Digits
Chapter 20: Navigating Group Dynamics
Chapter 21: Challenge 5: Laser Eyes
Chapter 22: Challenge 6: Getting Physical
Chapter 23: Challenge 7: Swapping Saliva (1 st challenge for advanced)
Chapter 24: Challenge 8: Sexual Healing
Appendix A
Finding Wings
Bonus Challenges
Bonus Challenge 1: Setting a Frame
Bonus Challenge 2: Teasing
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Introduction:
Zen and the Art of Pickup
Its very easy to make dating advice look stupid. Its most famous figure seems like more of a cartoon than a master of seduction; he introduces himself as Mystery, wears Harry-potter quidditch goggles, a Lincoln top-hat, and asks women what they think of his painted nails (before making them jump through his compliance loops and negging the to lower their relative value).
But Mystery isnt the pickup industrys only oddball. Ross Jeffries created Speed Seduction which teaches you how to hypnotize women to become sexually attracted to you (this could make for a great how I met your mother story, Well kids, I used a hypnotic pattern to make her feel submissive towards me) More recently, the Real Social Dynamics instructor Jeff Allen (known on Okcupid as Captain Derp) got into a minor media scandal for pulling his (apparently small) dick out in his painted rape van.
Not to be outdone, his coworker, Julien Blanc earned the title most hated man in the world and was banned from multiple countries including England and Australia. Why? He gave a speech in which he said picking up girls in Japan is easy, and that you can get away with anything, he suggested that you could grab women by the throat or even better, pull their heads towards your crotch while yelling, Pikachu! And he recorded footage of himself doing just that (in his defense, this was all a desperate plea for attention in the form of shock humor, not genuine advice).
The pickup artistrys list of colorful characters is long, Dapper Laughs aired a television show that ironically made fun of misogyny, but was caught up in a scandal with the U.K. after a rape joke of his was poorly received.
Respect the Cock, Tame the Cunt?
From the outside looking in, the pickup community looks like a breeding ground for misogyny, douchebaggery, and a dose of asshattedness. To anyone whos never heard of pickup, men involved in the community look like immature adults who never grew up and developed real values or any respect for the fairer sex. It would be easy to think that they were probably hurt by some hottie high school, and have become obsessed with accruing one-night-stands to prove to themselves as worthy. It would seem that Julien Blanc, Mystery, and Dapper Laughs are teaching men how to manipulate and take advantage of innocent women for their own petty desires.
The Surprising Truth
From the inside, its a very different picture. There are some sharks in the pickup community, guys with a classic case of Don Juanism (a compulsive desire to collect notches on their belt). But a recent trend towards self-improvement reveals what pickup is really about at its core. Its a path towards self-acceptance, personal growth, and psychological freedom. The most popular pickup instructors today are teaching pickup as a pathway towards self-empowerment.
It may seem odd that pursuing a goal that is ultimately just pumping some white, viscous fluid into a womans body might be representative of psychological growth, but thats what the community is focused on at this point.
And although its odd that modern pickup instructors give speeches about meditation, eastern philosophy, and the law of attraction, there is something valuable to take from this new era of dating advice.
As exciting as the idea of notches on your belt may be, and as fun as it may be to brag to your friends that you just banged an hb9, its valuable to ask yourself what your deepest motivation is to go on this (easily-parodied) journey towards selfimprovement.
Ultimately, the purpose for pursuing pickup is the same as any selfimprovement journey whether it be sought through the means of money, fitness, or fame.
Fuck Bitches, Acquire Deep Inner-Fulfillment
We pursue these paths to feel better. Specifically, to feel better about ourselves. And although busting a nut into a hot girl will make you feel better about yourself for a few hours, its facing your fears and overcoming your insecurities that provides you with the true reward.
Men who are intrigued by the dating advice industry (almost) always have insecurities towards the opposite sex, its the reason the community is so appealing. If you were totally secure and confident in your interactions with women, it would be unlikely that the dating advice community would interest you, because men who are confident with the opposite sex have no trouble hooking up with women.
These insecurities are the source for some of our deepest emotional pain. Being unable to connect with women not only feels disempowering, but emasculating. Feeling sexually unviable (whether you think its due to your physical
attractiveness or your lack of confidence) is incredibly painful. Its a feeling that we are willing to do anything to overcome.
Sure, pickup is about having sex with women and forming relationships, but beneath that, its about freeing yourself from a type of mental imprisonment, freeing yourself from feeling helpless because youre too afraid to ask your crush on a date or to lean in for a kiss. Freeing yourself from a fear of rejection that seems like it is controlling your life, and sabotaging your actions. Pickup is about letting go of a tremendous source of pain that has been building up from years of internal struggle.