Betty Dodson - Learn to Orgasm in 4 Acts

Orgasm Practice for Women

Copyright 2013 Betty Dodson
Smashwords Edition

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Women of all ages

Sex therapists

Sex educators

Clinical psychologists

Massage therapists

Marriage counselors

Medical students

College and university sexuality classes

Womens organizations

Womens studies courses

Womens health clinics

Professional Sex Coaches

All Interested Persons

The purpose of this handbook is to help womenof all ages learn how to enjoy sex more thoroughly. Dr. Dodsonsmethod of hands-on sex coaching has enabled countless women todevelop basic pleasure skills that have enhanced their experienceof orgasm. Now with this straight-forward guide and DVD you canexplore sexual skills in the privacy of your bedroom. Frominexperienced girls to postmenopausal women, this easy step-by-stepprocess will show you how to develop and refine a selflovingpractice that will gradually enable you to build higher levels ofsexual excitement. You will learn to enjoy fuller orgasms moreconsistently or discover how to have your first orgasm. Justremember, each orgasm is good for your health.

Each section incorporates the following:

Guidance about the topic.

Recommended exercises.

Congratulations! You have just taken thefirst step in owning your sexuality. How many times have you beentold by a well-meaning friend, a lover or your therapist tomasturbate and learn to have an orgasm? But how do you go aboutperforming an activity that youve been taught to avoid or one thatcauses discomfort or guilt feelings? Maybe youve tried stimulatingyour genitals and nothing much happened so you quit. Perhaps youveexperienced a small response but have no idea whether or not it wasan orgasm or how to increase pleasurable sensations. Now you canclaim your sexuality and generate your own orgasmic pleasures.

While these skills will not necessarilyreplace therapy, they can speed up the process. It has beenclinically proven that ongoing experiences of orgasm improves ourover-all health and adds an important dimension to every womansself-esteem. Sexual fulfillment provides a sense of wholeness andfeelings of happiness. Be sure to include my books Sex forOne and Orgasms for Two as resource material. You canaccess more information at: www.dodsonandross.com

My method of teaching grew out of theworkshops I created for women in the seventies. The Bodysex Groupsbegan with each woman sharing how she felt about her body and herorgasm. We then took turns viewing our genitals in a free-standingmirror using both hands as I sat alongside each woman pointing outthe beautiful form of her vulva. The other women saw a range ofvulva styles that reassured them their unique forms were all valid.The second day was a group masturbation celebration that lasted twoor more hours where we saw the diversity of womens orgasms. Weended with group massage. Publicity about my Bodysex Groups shockedmany, others were titillated, but it greatly informed those of uswho took part in this bold experiment. The workshops gave metwenty-some years of unique fieldwork which became the basis for myPhD degree in sexology.

Today I work with individual women, aworkshop for one. Similar to a personal trainer, I observe, andrefine each clients masturbation skills. I also encourage clientsto go beyond their current boundaries of tolerating pleasurablesensations. Now you can be your own Sex Teacher and learn theseskills at home with this Handbook and DVD. Any man who isinterested in improving his own orgasms and sexual skills canchange the pronouns she and her to his and him and join in.Just remember the first rule of pleasure is not to be so goaloriented that you forget to enjoy yourself.

Take control of your sexual pleasure bybecoming responsible for creating your own orgasms throughself-stimulation. First, lets get rid of some of the oldmoralistic garbage. Touching yourself is not a sin otherwise theCreator would have made your arms shorter. As an adult, you nolonger need to look to your partner to provide all of your orgasms.Its nice when it happens but dont hold your breath waiting forthe next orgasm from partnersex to magically appear. Its never toosoon or too late to take charge of your own sexual pleasures.

I deserve sexual pleasure.

I can have as many orgasms as I want.

I am responsible for knowing how to create myorgasms.

I release my shame and other peoplesjudgments about masturbation

I make a commitment to practice these sexualskills.

Read the sexual Bill of Rights severaltimes.

Dare yourself to say them OUT LOUD!

Say them again with more conviction.

Write a short essay based upon your sexualhistory

As you proceed, you may discover an internalargument your head says one thing and your body says another. Tomanage this conflict, tell yourself: Do it! Say it many timeswhile you release judgments. Never wait to feel physical desirebefore having sex with yourself. Its like going to the gym: itsalways difficult to get there, but once you succeed, the benefitsare worth it. Do it! Do it because it feels good! Do it becauseits fun! Do it because its healthy!

One for the Clitty

Your clitoris is the star of the show.Despite ample evidence that the whole clitoris with approximately 8thousand nerve endings is your primary sex organ, many believe thata woman should be able to orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Inspite of the documented fact that the majority of women do notexperience orgasm with vaginal stimulation only, the controversy ofvaginal vs. clitoral orgasm continues to this day. The first 1/3 ofthe vagina is surrounded by the erectile tissue of the internalclitoris. Even vaginal orgasms are the result of indirectstimulation of the clitoris which ends this controversy. Many womenprefer some form of direct clitoral stimulation during vaginalpenetration throughout masturbation and partnersex. Did I just heara big sigh of relief?

After four decades of observing womensorgasms, I have seen an endless variety of sexual responses. Theexperience of orgasm can be quite subtle with a minimum of outwardsigns and sounds. Or it can be very dramatic and vocal with amultitude of variation in between. While there is no law that saysevery woman must have an orgasm every time she has partnersex, ifshe isnt coming some of the time, sharing sex with another personwill eventually become a tiresome routine. Why does something asfundamental as sexual satisfaction continue to elude so many women?I believe the answer lies somewhere between repression of femalemasturbation and the mistaken notion that falling in loveautomatically includes a good sexlife. Sexuality is like any otherskill; it must be learned and then practiced.

If you find you are struggling with pleasureanxiety, the fear of having too much of a good thing, dont fret.We all have it. Avoiding sexual pleasure by pulling away orstopping when it begins to feel good is the result of repression.One way to practice tolerating intense sensations is to jump into acold shower making sounds. The thought is overwhelming. Theexperience is exhilarating.

Loving Your Body: As long as women arebombarded with images of the current ideal female body in ads, TV,movies and porn, most of us will suffer some degree of bodyloathing. Throughout my thirty-plus years of encouraging women tolove their bodies, I have often failed to accept my own. Its timeto support one another to love our bodies just the way they are atevery age. Begin by focusing on your health not your weight. Startexercising, eating organic fresh foods, eliminating refined sugars,drinking clean water and having regular elimination. Reduce yourstress by improving your orgasms and creating time to enjoy yoursexlife.