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Kevin Fredericks - Marriage Be Hard: 12 Conversations to Keep You Laughing, Loving, and Learning with Your Partner

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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Discover the keys to upholding your vows while staying sane in this hilariously candid guide to relationships, from the husband-and-wife team of comedian Kevin Fredericks and influencer Melissa Fredericks
Kev and Melissa are not afraid to tell the truth!Tabitha Brown, New York Times bestselling author of Feeding the Soul
Growing up, Kevin and Melissa Fredericks were taught endless rules around dating, sex, and marriage, but not a lot about what actually makes a relationship work. When they first got married, they felt alonelike every other couple had perfect chemistry while the two of them struggled. There were conversations that they didnt know they needed to have, fears that affected how they related to each other, and seasons of change that put their marriage to the test.
Part of their story reads like a Christian fairytale: high school sweethearts, married in college, never sowed any wild oats, with two sons and a thriving marriage. But theres another side of their story: the night Melissa kicked Kevin out of her car after years of communication problems, the time early in their marriage when Kevin bordered on an emotional affair, the way theyve used social media and podcasts to conduct a no-holds-barred conversation about forbidden topics like jealousy, divorce, and how to be Christian and sex positive. (Because, as Kevin writes, Your hormones dont care about your religious beliefs. Your hormones want you to subscribe to OnlyFans.)
In Marriage Be Hard, the authors provide a hilarious and fresh master class on what it takes to build and maintain a lasting relationship. Drawing on interviews with experts and nearly two decades of marriage, they argue that
Compatibility is overrated.
Communication is about way more than simply talking.
Seeing divorce as an option can actually help your marriage.
Theres such a thing as healthy jealousy.
Real marriage is not automatic. It aint no Tesla on the open road. Sometimes its a stick shift on a hill in the rain with no windshield wipers. But if you get comfortable visitingand revisitingthe topics that matter, it can transform your bond with your partner and the life youre building together.
Written for those tired of unrealistic relationship booksand for anyone wondering if theyre the only ones breaking all the rulesMarriage Be Hard is a breath of fresh air and the manual you wish existed after you said I do.

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Copyright 2022 by Kevin and Melissa Fredericks

All rights reserved.

Published in the United States by Convergent Books, an imprint of Random House, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York.

Convergent Books is a registered trademark and its C colophon is a trademark of Penguin Random House LLC.

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version, NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica Inc. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide (www.zondervan.com). The NIV and New International Version are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica Inc. Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are taken from the ESV Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version), copyright 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Fredericks, Kevin (Comedian), author. | Fredericks, Melissa, author.

Title: Marriage be hard / Kevin Fredericks and Melissa Fredericks.

Description: New York: Convergent, [2022]

Identifiers: LCCN 2022016146 (print) | LCCN 2022016147 (ebook) | ISBN 9780593240427 (hardcover) | ISBN 9780593240434 (ebook)

Subjects: LCSH: MarriageHumor.

Classification: LCC PN6231.M3 F37 2022 (print) | LCC PN6231.M3 (ebook) | DDC 306.8102/07dc23/eng/20220429

LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2022016146

LC ebook record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2022016147

Ebook ISBN9780593240434

crownpublishing.com

Book design by Edwin Vazquez, adapted for ebook

Cover design: Jessie Sayward Bright

Cover photograph: Peter Yang

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Introduction

This book is called Marriage Be Hard for two reasons. The first is that staying married takes some serious work, and everyone needs as much support as they can get. The second reason is that we didnt get that kind of support when the two of us got married eighteen years ago. We grew up churchy, surrounded by opinions about love, sex, and marriage but little concrete advice. At counseling sessions and marriage retreats, it seemed people were selling themselves and their relationships as perfect or nearly perfect while the two of us silently struggled. And social media didnt help either. Instagram can make you feel like every other couple is sailing through this marriage thing without having to put in the work.

Looking back, we see that we were completely in the dark about what it takes to see a marriage through the stuff life throws at you: financial struggles, mental health issues, dream chasing, parenting, and now quarantining. Its easy to get overwhelmed and lost; we did. Thats why our podcast, The Love Hour, was born. The idea was to create a platform to provide the wisdom, candor, and counsel we wish wed had when we were newly married.

Kevin:

Wait! Hold up for a sec. Let us take a second to explain what we mean by churchy.Churchy is the culture of the Black church. Its more than just believing in God or worshipping on Sunday morning. Its the familiar connective tissue that a lot of us experienced as children. Its Sunday school followed by three-hour church services. Its chicken dinners between services and revival on a school night. Its four-hour choir rehearsal and usher practice. Growing up churchy means knowing the all-too-familiar call and response routines:

God is good all the time.

And all the time, God is good.

Wont he do it?

Wont he will!

I went to a meeting one night and my heart wasnt right.

But something got a hold of me!

And of course, those churchy folks had plenty of so-called wisdom about sex. Here are some of the gems they imparted:

  • Sex should occur only in the missionary position.

  • Its better to marry than to burn. (The actual verse says, It is better to marry than to burn with passion. In other words, dont torture yourself by not getting married and thus not having sex. But the way it landed for us was You wanna have sex so bad? Better to get married than burn in hell for having premarital sex.)

  • Lay down and be nice. (This is a direct quote from the first lady of Melissas church. Translation: When your husband wants sex, you better give it to him.)

And of course, there was the big one: Dont have sex before marriage. If you grew up Christian, you probably heard this yourself. But no one ever told us how not to have sex. And people need to know, because sex is everywhere. You know how much sex was on Game of Thrones? A lot. Whats worse is that your hormones dont care about your religious beliefs or your commitment to your spouse. Your hormones want you to subscribe to OnlyFans. We dont want that for you.

Melissa:

Of course, you could have gone to a Black church your whole life and had an entirely different experience. Thats totally fine. This is our experience and the experience of the vast majority of our family and friends. Okay. Back to what we were saying

Churchy people like to talk about everything: the pastors last service, the praise team, even marriage. But theres a whole world of things you will never hear Christians talking about. Most of all: s-e-x. Thats how it was for me. No one discussed sex unless they were telling you all the bad stuff that would happen if you dared enter a sexual relationship before marriage. So I did what they told me to do: I waited until marriage; I went to counseling; I went to marriage enrichment workshops; I attended all the womens Bible studies. But I still felt terrified and unprepared.

In church, in Christian homes, no one shares what theyre struggling with. It is common to hear Look where the Lord has brought me from. Its not so common to hear Look what the Lord is doing for me right now as I am struggling. Kev and I have struggled. Our marriage has gone through challenging seasons. I have felt devastatingly alone even when Kevin was right in the next roomand now, eighteen years into our marriage, were working harder on our relationship than ever before. We pay close attention, we set aside time to talk, we go to therapy, and we deal with issues in our relationship as they arise.

Thats my primary reason for this book. On the podcast, weve tackled a wide range of topics, lots of which circle around Christianity and sex and how to reconcile a life that includes both. In one episode, we took a cardinal rule of Christianityabstinenceand broke it down. We gave our listeners specific advice about how not to have sex before marriage. People went crazy. It was as if no one had ever gotten this kind of straight-up advice before.

My initial intention was to serve as a teacher, but more often I ended up being a student. For example, I used to think that sex was a binary thing in a relationship: Men always wanted it and women could do without it. But when we interviewed Dr. Laurie Watson, a relationship counselor and podcast host, I learned that there is such a thing as a higher-desire woman and a lower-desire man. While I was sitting in my chair learning all of this, I said Wow out loud into my microphone. I was blown away, and it turned out I wasnt alone. When the episode aired, I received countless emails and DMs from women who thanked me for having a conversation about higher-desire women. They had felt so lonely, thinking there was something wrong with them for wanting more sex than their husbands did. They worried that their husbands werent attracted to them. Getting feedback like this reminded me daily of the good we were doing on our podcast.

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