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We live in a world of confusion and deception. The Truth about Lies in the Workplace will make us all successful detectives and fact checkers in our work lives. This book gave me insights into finding the truth and safeguarding my reputation.

Lee Hornick, President, Business Communications Worldwide, and Program Director, The Conference Board

The Truth about Lies in the Workplace is more than about spotting liars at work. Its about recognizing our own roles in fostering workplace deception, understanding how our own biases affect the way we interpret and relate to lies of others, and finding ways to minimize the destructive impact of lies and hidden biases. Carol Kinsey Goman brings these concepts together in ways easy to understand. Our challenge is to use this understanding to do the hard work required to create open, honest, and productive workplaces.

Marci Rubin, Executive Director, California Minority Counsel Program

Carol Kinsey Goman exposes the mechanics of deception in this powerful new handbook for workplace health and productivity. Add a live keynote or seminar with Carol, and a new era of leadership and exemplary workplace culture is within your grasp.

Karen Tucker, CEO, Churchill Club

What a fabulous topic for todays leaders. As we move toward heterarchical organizational design, theres never been a more important time to deal with deception in the workplace.

Watts Wacker, futurist and bestselling coauthor of The 500 Year Delta

In todays hyperconnected world, transparency and trust in the workplace are critical. Carol Kinsey Goman clearly understands the power of honest, collaborative leadership. And thats no lie.

Linda Kaplan Thaler, Chairman, and Robin Koval, CEO, Publicis Kaplan Thaler

Carol Kinsey Goman offers a thoughtful, often counterintuitive, and actionable analysis of lying in the workplace and in life. She is an exceptionally good business writer. Her work is practical and useful. I highly recommend Gomans The Truth about Lies in the Workplace to anyone who manages people.

Timothy Askew, CEO, Corporate Rain International

In this groundbreaking work, Carol Kinsey Goman, PhD, boldly enters a topic that has been taboo for far too long and reveals the tools and tactics necessary to spot the liar in our midst. We attempt to hire warriors only to realize too late that we have hired a cunning liar. Now there is no excuse! The Truth about Lies in the Workplace is a game changer and a long-overdue weapon in the tool kit of every HR professional.

Brad Szollose, award-winning author of Liquid Leadership

People lie for different reasons. It can be driven by fear, greed, or even an organizational culture that encourages it. No matter what the reason, lying destroys employee morale and ultimately the bottom line. The Truth about Lies in the Workplace gives you the tools to cut through to the truth and helps you determine what to do when you spot lies.

Jon Peters, President, The Institute for Management Studies, and CEO, AthenaOnline

Gomans great book is far more than a primer on how to recalibrate your BS detector. It will completely reframe what you know about lying while providing powerful perspectives and practices on how to nurture trust in the workplace. I promise youll be surprised and enlightened.

Chip R. Bell, coauthor of Wired and Dangerous

The Truth about Lies in the Workplace

Other books by Carol Kinsey Goman

This Isnt the Company I Joined:

How to Lead in an Organization Turned Upside Down

The Nonverbal Advantage:

Secrets and Science of Body Language at Work

The Silent Language of Leaders:

How Body Language Can Helpor HurtHow You Lead

How to Spot Liars and
What to Do about Them

Carol Kinsey Goman

The Truth about Lies in the Workplace

Copyright 2013 by Carol Kinsey Goman

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Paperback print edition ISBN 978-1-60994-837-5

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Cover design by Karen Marquardt. Cover image by Focus Stock Fotografico/Getty Images. Interior illustrations by James P. Welch. Interior design and composition by Gary Palmatier, Ideas to Images. Elizabeth von Radics, copyeditor; Mike Mollett, proofreader; Alexandra Nickerson, indexer.

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FOR THE PAST TWO YEARS I HAVE BEEN A CONTRIBUTOR TO Forbes.com . I write articles about body languageits impact on a leaders effectiveness in managing change, engaging employees, leading collaboration, negotiating, and communicating with a multicultural workforce. My more popular entries usually receive 10,000 to 20,000 hits.