THE
EVERYTHING
ORGASM
BOOK
The all-you-need guide to the most
satisfying sex you'll ever have
Amy Cooper, PhD
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THE EVERYTHING ORGASM BOOK
Dear Reader,
What a gift for me to be able to share this information with you! I feel blessed to have this opportunity to write so much about a subject I feel so strongly about. I hope to make some difference in the lives of my readers who are searching for more information on a topic so rarely talked about at length in any real or informative way.
The path I have followed as a clinical sexologist has taken me to many interesting places and presented many new challenges. I have embraced this one fully with excitement and gusto, thinking of the lives I could touch and the sexualities I could help liberate and expand into whole new territories of discovery and ultimately pleasure.
For me, the orgasmic experience is one of total release and surrender, and it has a life of its own. It too yearns for growth and expansion. It wants to find new heights and greater depths. This book is intended to support that growth and expansion so that your orgasmic experience can keep improving. May you find yourself in ever-increasing orgasmic bliss!
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Acknowledgments
I would like to thank my beloved family, friends, lovers, and community who have encouraged and supported me through this entire book writing process. A huge thank you to my amazing partner, Tim Hartnett, for all of the faith, support, and guidance you have offered me throughout the years, not to mention the endless hours of editing you have put into this book. A special thank you to my dear friend, Andrew Davis, for your encouragement and all of your help with the orgasm survey; and to my beloved friends, Monica Woelfel and Rebecca McCubbin, for help with editing and finishing touches. Thank you to my dear friend, Carmen Alvarez, whose support and love for me holds me up and means more to me than she may really know. Thank you to Katrina Schroeder at Adams Media for finding me and for your steady encouragement and support. And tremendous thanks to all of the other pioneers and scholars in the field of sexuality, past and present, whose courage and insight shed much needed light onto a topic that has been kept in the dark for too long.
Top 10 Keys to Improving Your Experience of Orgasm
Rid yourself of any sexual shame or inhibitions.
Work to improve your overall health and fitness.
Practice relaxation and deep breathing.
Maintain strong but relaxed pelvic floor muscles.
Self-pleasure regularly.
Become more aware of all of your senses.
Explore all of your body's potential erogenous zones.
Practice building more sexual arousal and holding more sexual charge.
Be open to exploring a variety of sexual behaviors.
Improve your communication skills in regard to sex.
Introduction
The purpose of this book is to shed some light onto the taboo subject of sex. It was written with the intent to open minds and educate readers about arousal and orgasms. It offers to help alleviate the many fears and stigmas associated with sex. The ultimate goal is to improve the experience of sex for those who are ready. The following chapters will open your eyes to many of the false beliefs pertaining to sex and orgasm that have been a source of painful confusion to many people. It will educate you about what orgasms are and are not, how they come to be, how to make them happen, and how to make them better. It will also provide you with a greater vocabulary for talking about your experiences. The more you understand about sex and the orgasmic experience, the less you will fear it, and the more likely you will enjoy your own sexuality and grant others the freedom to enjoy theirs.
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