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Why Women Have Sex

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Understanding Sexual Motivations
from Adventure to Revenge

(and Everything in Between)

CINDY M. MESTON, PH.D.
AND DAVID M. BUSS, PH.D.

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To all of the women in our study
who bravely shared
their sexual experiences with us

When our scientific article Why Humans Have Sex was published in the August 2007 issue of Archives of Sexual Behavior, it generated an avalanche of interest. What that media coverage revealed, however, was just the tip of the iceberg. In that original study, we identified 237 distinct sexual motivations that covered an astonishing variety of psychological nuance. These motives ranged from the mundane (I was bored) to the spiritual (I wanted to get closer to God), from altruistic (I wanted my man to feel good about himself) to vengeful (I wanted to punish my husband for cheating on me). Some women have sex to feel powerful, others to debase themselves. Some want to impress their friends; others want to harm their enemies (I wanted to break up a rivals relationship by having sex with her boyfriend). Some express romantic love (I wanted to become one with another person); others express disturbing hate (I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease). But none of these reasons conveyed the why that hid behind each motive.

Through statistical procedures, we clustered the motivations into natural groupings. We then set out to explore womens sex lives in richer detail in a new study designed specifically for this book. And we integrated our research with all the latest scientific findingsfrom our labs and from the labs of other scientists throughout the worldto present what we believe is one of the richest and deepest understandings of womens sexuality yet achieved.

Why Women Have Sex brings these insights to life with detailed descriptions of womens actual sexual encounters; the motives that impel women to have sex; and the theory behind why each of those motives exists in womens sexual psychology. Although human sexuality has been the primary focus of our scientific research for many years, this project proved to be more illuminating about womens sexuality than we ever expected.

How did we end up collaborating on this extraordinary project? As it happens, we have offices right next door to each other in the psychology department at the University of Texas at Austin, where we are both professors. Given our shared professional interests, weve had many conversations about human sexuality. The topic of conversation turned one day to sexual motivation, and we started discussing a simple question: Why do people have sex?

As coauthors, we combine uniquely complementary domains of expertise. One of us, Cindy M. Meston, is a clinical psychologist and one of the worlds leading experts on the psychophysiology of womens sexuality. The other, David M. Buss, is an evolutionary psychologist and one of the worlds scientific experts on strategies of human mating. Our collaboration allowed us to develop a deeper understanding of womens sexuality than either of us could have achieved working alone.