Douglas Gary M. - The gentlemens club

The

Gentlemens Club

Gary M. Douglas

With Contributions by Dr. Dain Heer

The Gentlemens Club

Copyright 2014 Gary M. Douglas

Print ISBN: 978-1-939261-99-1

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There were three men in the original Gentlemens Club class who were married. Not long after the classes were complete, I received phone calls from the women who were married to these guys. Each one of them said, Thank you so much for doing these classes. Ive got back the man that I fell in love with.

Contents

Foreword

: Stepping Up to Something Different

: Creating Sex and Relationship from an Awareness of What Is

: You Are the Valuable Product

: Become the King of Possibilities

: The Phenomenal Sex, Copulation, and Relationship You Could Be Choosing

: What Do You Really Desire?

: Being Good in Bed

: What Is a Gentleman?

: What Do You Actually Want in a Relationship?

: The Aggressive Presence of Sexualness

: Choosing Commitment

: Decoding Womens Subtext

Foreword

The Gentlemens Club is based on a series of twelve teleclasses I facilitated with a group of awesome and courageous men. My intention with The Gentlemens Club classes was to create a males-only environment where participants could speak freely about being a man in this reality. There is a lot of energy in these conversations. Female readers may flinch at some of our mens club language, but I am hoping theyll come away from the book with a deeper appreciation for the men in their lives and a greater recognition of what it takes to create a relationship from a totally different reality.

In the discussions that follow, there may be some words, concepts, and tools you have never encountered before. There may also be some common words like be, human, or receiving that we use in ways that seem unfamiliar. We have tried to define them all in a glossary at the end of the book.

You will also find the clearing statement we use in Access Consciousness. Its short-speak that addresses the energies that are creating the limitations and contractions in your life. When you first read it, it may twist your head around a little bit. Thats our intention. Its designed to get your mind out of the picture so you can get to the energy of a situation.

With the clearing statement, were addressing the energy of the limitations and barriers that keep us from moving forward and expanding into all of the spaces that we would like to go.

The Access Consciousness Clearing Statement is Right and Wrong, Good and Bad, POD and POC, All 9, Shorts, Boys and Beyonds. There is a brief explanation of what the words mean at the end of the book.

You can choose to use the clearing statement or not; I dont have a point of view about that, but I do want to invite you to try it and see what happens.

The Gentlemens Club

Stepping Up to Something
Different

Do you want to function from trying to change things
so they look different?

Or do you want to do something different that will work for you?

Gary:

Welcome to The Gentlemens Club. Lets start with a question.

Trusting Yourself as a Ma n /Trusting Other Men

Class Participant:

Im starting a mens empowerment group, but the take-up by men is very slow. Do you have any suggestions for me?

Gary:

Dont call it mens empowerment. Men supposedly have all the power. In truth, they are totally disempoweredbut they dont know that. If you call it empowerment, nobodys going to come because they dont even know they need or want empowerment. Call it Making Your Life with Women Easier.

Dain:

Men want their life with women to be easier more than they want to be empowered and more than they want to be connected with other men. Most of the things most men do are about trying to get a woman or get laid. For most men, the idea of meeting together with other men is a place of too much potency. It scares them off.

A few years ago, we did an Access Consciousness Level Two and Three class in Santa Barbara. Some of the Access Consciousness ladies went out that night and they saw two guys get in a fight. The ladies said, You know what? It was obvious that what those guys really wanted was to have sex with each other, but they couldnt have that in their worlds, so they got into a fight instead. The fight was their way of expressing it.

When you talk to men about getting men together as men, it brings up all the stuff theyre not supposed to be, not supposed to do, and especially not supposed to be and do together.

Its been very interesting to hear the feedback from the ladies on The Salon des Femmes calls. After two calls, they were saying things like, I thought listening to a bunch of women and not having any men to play with or flirt with was going to suck, but now I feel like Ive got all these sisters, and its amazing how much more of me I have and how much more connected I feel with women and myself.

I realized, in hearing that feedback, that we as men have the same thing. We create a separation from each other rather than coming together. If we could change that, we could truly change the word. And wed also have better sex, wed be the potency of us, and wed have a lot more fun.

Gary:

Ive got a process:

What stupidity are you using to create the separation of men and women, women and women, and men and men are you choosing? Everything that is times a godzillion, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right and Wrong, Good and Bad, POD and POC, All Nine, Shorts, Boys, and Beyonds.

Class Participant:

In that process, you asked, are you choosing? I tend to say, that you are choosing. I realize you dont say that. Can you tell me why?

Gary:

That you are choosing justifies your reason for choosing. Its a fixed point of view. It is saying, I am choosing this because ____. You would prefer to believe you are choosing for a reason rather than just choosing . I am trying to get you to see that there is no reason for what you chooseyou just choose. Thats why I ask, Are you choosing?

Class Participant:

Thank you.

Creating Partnership with Men

Class Participant:

Can you talk about the separation I create with other men?

Gary:

The one thing youre not supposed to do is have sexual energy with other men. Thats like a big no-no. So you do whatever you have to do in order to not have sexual energy with other men. Yet just about everything in sexual energy is about receiving. Without sexual energy, you have no receiving. So when we cut ourselves off from receiving sexual energy with other men, we also cut off our receiving from women, from relationship, and from sex. We cut ourselves off from receiving with money and business and everything else.

If you can have men with men, then you have a place where you can create a partnership, which can create money, or you can create a partnership, which creates fun or all kinds of things. For example, Dain and I spend the majority of our time together. We are willing to be there as men for our friends. I encourage Dain to go out and have sex with different women, I encourage him to do whatever he wants, but he is my friend and he has my back. If you create a separation of men from men, you cant ever assume that a man will have your back.