Toxic People Survival Guide
How to Deal with Difficult, Negative, or Manipulative People, Handle Narcissists and Disarm Sociopaths
Chase Hill
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Contents
Your Free Say No Checklist
Dont let the people pleasing trap you again...
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This checklist includes:
8 steps to start saying no.
12 must-dos to stop feeling guilty.
9 healthy ways to say no.
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Introduction
I never wanted to use the word toxic for some of the people in my life. It sounded too harsh, even cruel. I pushed through my teenage years into adulthood and found myself making excuses for the behavior of others: They were going through a rough time, or they had suffered in the past. But it wasnt their fault and I just needed to be more understanding and helpful.
Does this sound familiar? Before you know it, you have lost who you really are. You have changed in order to make the lives of others better but in the process, you have lost a massive part of yourself. Even to the point where you look in the mirror and cant identify with the reflection.
You may have woken up a few times and convinced yourself that today was going to be different. You wouldnt have people getting angry at you for no reason, ignoring your needs, or manipulating you. It probably didnt take long for these people to drain you of your positivity and you have now reached a stage where you have accepted that this is the way life is going to be. Perhaps you are punishing yourself for mistakes you have made in the past, and you now feel that this is the life you deserve.
I commend those who have tried to stand up to the toxic people in their lives. It takes courage. Like me, you may have learned that your efforts were fruitless as toxic people can turn everything around and make themselves the victim in every situation. They can get angry, even abusive, or they might burst into tears, making you feel like the toxic person. One way or another, they will continue to make your life hell, just like this amazing quote.
When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.
Jill Blakeway
The sad fact is that there are an awful lot of toxic people in the world. They are in your workplace, your supermarket, online, and even in your family. It seems we cant escape them, despite retreating from the world as much as we can. The only thing that we can do is learn the right way to handle them to regain control so that you can live your life the way you should, the way you want to, and the way that makes you happy.
To do this, we have to start at the very beginning. By looking at ourselves and the paths we took to get to where we are today. Once we have peeled back all the layers of pain, we will look at the different ways that toxic people present themselves. We will take it step by step, improving ourselves and our mental intelligence before mastering the necessary skills to deal with the toxic people in our lives. By the end of the book, we will see them in a completely different light.
You will have the techniques to cope with toxicity in various relationships and situations and it will be time to learn how to enjoy a life with stronger relationships, goals, and a healthier mind and body.
It took me a long time to recognize that I had far too many toxic people in my life. I was not blessed with loving parents who taught me what healthy relationships looked like.
I learned from a young age that toxic relationships were the norm and so it was logical that all of my relationships were toxic. While taking knock after knock from girlfriends, my other relationships also suffered. At work, I became a pushover. I said yes to everyone in the hope that at least at work, I would have an easy time. But of course, the toxic people at work quickly took advantage of me, and so the cycle continued.
A breaking point isnt necessarily a bad thing. Mine was not taking care of myself physically: I drank too much, I didnt exercise, and I put on weight. I became depressed, and when my relationship ended, I couldnt take any more. I knew I needed a change.
The following year was a rollercoaster like no other. I studied, I read, I took two steps forward and three steps back, I studied more. Taking on board the guidance from professionals around the world, it soon became two steps forward and only one step back. Everything began to fall into place. Life got easier and then it got better.
Going from rock bottom to happy was the best thing I have did, and it changed every aspect of my life. It gave me the confidence to want to help other people. Which is where we are today.
I hope to share with you all of the strategies for dealing with toxic people that I have used so that you can experience the same amazing change that I did. I dont think its fair that anyone should have to put up with toxic people or settle for relationships that are not equal and loving. And I think that in a world that has so much negativity, we all need some help to see the good and get back on the right path.
Each step will be presented in an easy-to-follow manner. But, thats not to say the process will be easy, or you wouldnt need to read this book. That being said, we will take a closer look at the bigger challenges and what we can do to overcome any setbacks along the way.