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It started Spring of 2001. I was21-years-old and spent my free time on the computer reading messageboards or playing games. I had no skill with women, and the ones Iknew either used me for my brain to tutor them or as an emotionaltampon to feel better about the guys who didnt take their shit. Iremember thinking how stupid these other guys were to make suchpretty, nice girls upset. Dont they realize these girls willprobably stop talking to them? My friends were unsuccessful withwomen too, so we all reinforced our lack of skill during all-nightgames of Risk or poker. I wanted to get out of this cycle but felt Ihad little control to make a change.

I observed other guys and concluded that success with women was a skill you were born with. Then therewas one girl I started to like in my organic chemistry class. She wasPersian, same age as me, with long, curly hair and olive skin. Wewould study together in groups and I could swear she was giving meextra attention. I analyzed the situation with my nice guy friendsand we all concluded that she did like me as more than a friend.After a couple weeks of hesitation, I finally asked her out on acasual date to the movies. She said she couldnt because she wasvery busy. Weeks later Id see her around campus holding hands withanother guy. Instead of listening to lame love songs like I usuallydid, for the first time I got angry. A lifetime of frustration andnot getting what I wanted became focused on this one girl. I wasbitter that I, a nice guy, was getting passed over for guys who Ithought were losers. So I started to ignore her. If I did end uptalking to her, I would cut our conversation short. When she wouldask me to study Id lie and say I was studying alone, only for herto find my study group up late at night in the library. I startedfeeling good for treating her poorly. I hated her and everything shestood for, which was my failure with women. But then somethinginteresting happened: she started making a strong effort to gain myattention and favor. It was like the harder I pulled away, the closershe would come to me. This was the first time I noticed that changingmy behavior can affect how girls react to me.

Soon it would become clear thatinteracting with women wasnt very different from the games Idplay with my nice guy friends, where changing tactics and strategiesyield different results. At about the same time, I clicked a randomlink on a business forum and stumbled onto something called TonysLay Guide. It was the best accident of my life. This guide had tipson how to approach women, how to talk to them, how to kiss them, andhow to have sex with them. I immediately printed the entire guide incase the site went offline. It reinforced to me the idea that you canlearn how to get better, that you arent doomed to a life ofinfrequent sex just because you werent born a natural. I studiedthe guide for two months before I actually did anything. It was May2001 when I approached a girl for the first time in the line of aclub. I talked to her for half an hour and got her number, to thesurprise of me and my friends. It was probably beginners luck, butthis first success sold me on the idea that studying the game was aworthy cause. Thats usually how it starts for most guys gettinginto game: a random discovery followed by a first success or initialhigh when they do something theyve never done before.

What is it that you want right now?Maybe you want to lose your virginity, sleep with a certain number ofgirls, find true love, or get a threesome. Or maybe you have goalsthat are more difficult to measure, like building confidence,becoming more outgoing, or becoming a better speaker. Whatever yougoal is, its best to express it in a statement that will act asyour guide and motivational force. Think of it as a corporationsmission statement, that no matter what happens and what local creekis being polluted, you can look at it and remember whats reallyimportant.

A lot of people set a goal, tryhalf-heartedly to work on it for a month or two, realize it isdifficult to accomplish, and then switch goals or quit altogether.But its a good goal if you arent sure you can do it or notitsa bad one if you are 100% sure you can. It should be a goal where youneed to seek outside knowledge or acquire new skills. If its nothard, like most things in life, its not worth doing. There are twoparts to every goal you set out to conquer: the journey to the goaland the accomplishment of the goal itself. The journey is where youlearn, innovate, attempt, and put yourself through tough situationsfor the first time. This is where real growth takes place. (Sometimesaccomplishing the goal gives you less satisfaction and pleasure thanthe little successes that preceded it.) And if you dont quitereach your goal, thats okay too. The journey makes the concept offailure a gray area because you will be putting yourself throughchanges that leave you with more knowledge on how to succeed thanwhen you first started. You can "fail" all your life but stillhave accomplished much more than those who didnt try. There havebeen volumes written on goal-setting that make it more complicatedthan it needs to be. Keep the process easy but effective bystructuring your goal in this format: "I am going to ___________."Now write that on a small piece of paper or a note card. Put it inyou wallet, next to your computer monitor, on your bathroom wall, orany place where you will see it at least once a week. Visualize thegoal when you see your words to ready your mind for the work ahead.

Some productivity experts recommend youattach a deadline to your goal. For example: "I am going to sleepwith a mother and daughter team within six months." I dontadvise doing this because the game is so unpredictable and quirkythat time goals can be discouraging during the inevitable coldstreak. As you gain skill, there will be periods where you sleep withmultiple girls in a short amount of time, followed by nothing forseveral months. A strong desire to accomplish your goal thatmotivates you to act is enough.

Before you dive in and read this book,I have to warn you that the journey is difficult and oftendisappointing. Is it worth it? Yes, without a doubt. The payoff foryou will be better quality women and more power and confidence to getthem. But it will not come without work on your part.

You will need to interact with a verylarge number of women in different situations and environments. Itsnot enough to just talk to the women you normally come into contactwith at work or schoollike a salesman you need to make cold callsto get leads, in the form of approaches. You will go to the bars andclubs and bookstores to meet women. You will talk to them everywhere,always practicing and experimenting. You will follow-through withthem, call them on the phone, spend money on dates, and try to bangthem. You will maintain your stable like a sheep herder maintains hisflock. You will put in your energy, your life-blood, into a game thatmay leave you mentally exhausted. You will deal with rejections,flakes, and temper tantrums that are negative and discouraging. Youwill spend time studying the game and taking notes, breaking downyour encounters with women. And you will spend time creating materialon your own. A large component in becoming successful with women istime. You will not turn into an player overnight. The best analogy Ican make to describe the game is body building. Within a short amountof time training you will see quick gains and experience fastconfidence boosts, followed by peaks and valleys where you lose orgain muscle mass depending on how motivated or healthy you are. Thereis no end to body building, but there is a time when you look at themirror and say, "Im happy with what I see."

Within two months of serious entry intothe game, you will accomplish many things you havent done before.Maybe you will do your first approach, finger a girl on the dancefloor, or get a one night stand. If you are a complete beginner,within one year you will see your early game strengthen only for yourmid-game to mess things up. Within the second year your early andmid-game will be much improved, but now your end-game will be beggingfor improvement. Its not until after year two, with constantpractice, where you will be proficient with all stages of game. Atthis point, other guys will notice your skill and you will begin toteach and advise a new generation of males who want to enter thegame. Eventually you will reach end game, a game of no game. By nowit may be hard for you to teach the minute details you once agonizedover because you have internalized the best technique. You no longernotice the hundreds of small things you do to attract women. Keep inmind there are many ways to skin a cat. Often you will hear gameadvice that seems to be contradictory, such as to call the same nightversus call in four days, to tell her you like her versus always beindirect, or to pay for dates versus never pay for dates. Its notthat any of these statements are necessarily right or wrongwhatmatters is what type of guy they apply to. For every man there is aninfinite range of game he could playbut there is a small rangethat serves him best. This book presents an easily adaptable gamethat works well for most men, based on sound rules that drive humanbehavior and effective escalation steps that take you from one stageto the next. But ultimately it will be up to you to add to this game,injecting your own flavor to make it have the most impact for you.There is a point of diminishing return where learning new informationwithout acting on it does very little to further your skill. If yougive a basement boy one-thousand books on seduction, he will be nobetter in one year because he spent all that time reading instead ofdoing. Its better to give him one resource and push him out on thefield to get experience. You can read the complete works of Casanovabut it still wont put you at 1% of his game unless you get out andput his methods into practice. A book like this can only push youonto the field with enough know-how that allows you to master thegame on your own.