Table of Contents
For everyone in the pursuit of positive companionship
and all of the happiness it can bring.
Introduction
If you picked up this book, you may feel that you do not attract the kind of women you want. You could be a guy who is attractive, has smarts and a great sense of humor. Maybe your friends even think that you are kind of cool. So what seems to be the problem?
The easiest target to blame is the women. It is easy to jump to the conclusion that if nothing is wrong with you, there clearly must be something wrong with them. Furthermore, women can be unpredictable. They say they want one thing and then act as though they want something else. It is easy to understand why it is difficult to determine when one is truly interested in you. Knowing this, you may just deal with the ones who seem less challenging or only take your shot on an attractive one on the off chance that she could be feeling charitable that evening.
You need to stop thinking this way. To meet the type of women you want, you have to begin believing that you are in control.
The market is toughmen and women look for the crme of the crop for their dating prospects. You must gear yourself up for the challenge and market yourself in the best light possible. You have to realize that you have all of the tools you need to make this happen. You may need a different outlook to help you see what might not be so obvious to you. In some cases, you might need to learn how to adapt to situations differently. In others, you may just need to fine-tune your style of approach. Either way, you can learn to remove the block that is keeping you from obtaining the women that you want.
This book will show you:
How to tap into your confidence and approach any woman in any situation.
How to not let certain dating situations shake you upjust because a girl says no does not mean that another will not say yes.
How to determine when a woman is interested in you and wants you to approach her. And how to decipher the mixed messages or smoke signals she gives you.
How to mold a passing glance into a lasting interaction and future date.
How to deal with sticky pre-date and first date dilemmas.
After you have read The Pocket Idiots Guide to Getting Girls, you will be able to approach women and gain more dating opportunities. You also will have a handy tool book to refer to, which will help you know what to say to women and keep you meeting and interacting with the type of women you would like to date.
Extras
Look for these handy sidebars throughout the book as they will guide you through some of the challenges of interacting with your female prospects.
Date Tip
Easy-to-follow tips that will help you interact with your date target, set up your dates, and keep them going.
Say What?
Sample conversations between you and your potential date, or you and others to help you craftily handle various dating scenarios.
Step Lightly
Things to look out for to keep you out of trouble when dealing with your potential date.
Acknowledgments
Thank you to my male validation team, Jose Luis Ruiz, Anthony Lai, and P. McGavock, for tirelessly allowing me to test my ideas, tips, and suggestions. Thank you to Dr. Joy and Scuzscon Walker, important members of my sister circle who keep me moving forward. Thanks to my man, for his patience and continued love and support. A big thank-you to all my fans and supporters who keep believing in me. Thank you to the great team at Alpha Books who made this effort possible. Most of all, thank you to my mother, who taught me that the world has no limits.
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Chapter 1
Laying the Foundation to Meet Women
In This ChapterHow to Achieve the Dating Wins
Understanding What Women Want
Learning the Come-On Signals
How Not to Miss the Cues She Gives You
As a single man, you probably have a goal: to meet as many single women as possible. Unfortunately, you are not meeting as many women as you would like. The big question of the day is why not?
To meet more women, it is essential to determine how you currently approach this task. Next, it is helpful to know what women look for and how you can fit the criteria. Once you determine this, you can then learn how to recognize the signs of when women are interested in meeting you or getting to know you. When these opportunities arise, you can fully take advantage of meeting the women you want to meet.
In this chapter, you learn how to go from no dates to more dating options. You learn what women want and begin to see how to make yourself more appealing to get more of their attention. Most importantly, you learn when a woman is interested in you and how not to miss your opportunity to get the dates.
The Man Who Gets the Girl
When you think about the guys who always get the girl, a variety of things may come to mind. Lets discuss some of them here.
The Stereotypes
You might picture the guy who gets all the girls as one of the following stereotypes:
The buffed up body-builder who always has a girl on his arm
The jet-setting millionaire
The drop-dead handsome guy women drool over when he flashes a smile
The hip social guy who knows how to work the crowd
The sensitive, artsy guy with the soul of a poet
The bad boy commando type
The media portray a lot of these images as if they were reality. However, women understand the difference between fact and fiction, and you should, too.
Just as movie stars are paid to look good, there are regular men who break their banks to achieve what the media portray. Now more than ever, men work out, diet more, and are concerned with their body image. Some even resort to plastic surgery to enhance everything from their face to their chest muscles.
These men do what women have done for years: try to become what they think is socially acceptable. Men who do this have lost the sense of what it means to be an individual and dont appreciate the power of uniqueness. The misconception is that a man has to look almost perfect or fit a certain profile to get women. It is just that: a misconception. There are quite a few women who would rather date you than a man who is trying to live up to an image.
