Tony D - I Hope it’s Sunny Out - A Guide to Meeting Women in the Day Time

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Samantha Part 1

I spotted her crossing the street, walking slowly so she could soak up the sunshine. Her legs were fantastic, highlighted by her short black skirt that ended just as those thighs began. She had long, wavy, auburn hair that ran down her back like a waterfall.

I followed her, sort of like a predator, but with the best of intentions. When she stopped to admire herself in a store window, I came up with an opener and approached from the side, so she could see me in her peripheral vision.

Hello, I said.

She turned. Hello.

You look like youre lost.

Oh, she laughed. Im not lost, I just got off work.

Nice day to be done work. Where do you work?

I work at the spaghetti shack, over there. She pointed down the street.

Oh, youre a server, so you must be a people person.

Well, she thought, not really. I guess so.

If youre a server, youre probably a party girl.

A party girl!? She acted shocked. I suppose I like to have fun sometimes.

I needed to figure out her logistics, so I could prepare for a number close and allude to a future date.

Do you live in Vancouver?

Yeah, I just moved here last week, she said.

Oh, so youre bored and lonely?

Nowell, sometimes. Haha. Do you live here too?

This was good. She was asking me questions, investing herself in the interaction. It was time to escalate.

Ive lived here for a long time, I said. Its a good city. So what do you do at night? Do you go out often?

Well, I do after work sometimes. What do you do?

Me? Im a dolphin trainer.

Wow thats so cool!

Im lying.

Oh, haha.

What are you doing in Vancouver? I moved a few steps to the left and beckoned her to follow me. She followed. This would anchor her in the interaction, and build compliance.

Do you have a purpose? I asked.

She looked up, at her brain. No, I dont think I do yet.

There must be something.

Well, I like to party. Is that a purpose?

Its more a hobby. Thats ok. Youll figure it out. What are you doing next weekgot a night off?

Yeah, she said. I have Tuesday free.

We should grab a beer.

She thought for a second. Ok, sure. Whats your name?

Tony. Yours?

Samantha.

I handed her my phone number and let her type it in. I gave her a two cheek kiss, European style, and said goodbye.

It was almost a perfect approach. An indirect opener, using a random subject that caught her attention, accusing her of being a tourist. There was light teasing by calling her a party girl. I elicited her values. I found out her logistics, projected a future meetup, and collected her contact. Then, we ended with kino, physical game, in the form of cheek kissing.

Ten minutes later, I texted her one word, Tony.

I usually only text my name, and then I wait. If she doesnt reply, I wait 24 hours and try one more time by making a simple statement, like, Today is great. And then I wait. I choose to be less gamey, instead of wasting my time on girls that arent interested, and never will be. Though theyll love my validating text messages until the novelty wears off, staying just out of reach.

Game will help you close more deals, but its high investmentwith an emotional toll. I prefer to screen for girls that are already committed, and require less persuasion. Thats because I have a busy life, and have better things to focus my energy on, like Far Cry 3, my blog, and other girls.

She replied ten minutes later with, Nice to meet you.

Id save the next message for one day later. Hopefully she would answer.

Day Game

When I was going through my approach like a maniac stage, I mostly stuck to night game: Bars, clubs and parties. My first year in Montreal, where I went to learn seduction, I went out seven nights a week to practice approaching women. I was obsessed. It took me a year, but I developed a modicum of skill. I conquered my approach anxiety and started dating some beautiful girls. Unfortunately, many of the women I met were party girls. Their greatest hobbies were partying, drugs, drinking and dancing. Not exactly girlfriend material.

It wasnt until I started teaching pickup for a living that I got into daygame. Id been practicing going direct, with openers like, Hi. I just thought you looked great today. Im Tony. The effect of going direct was encouraging. Women werent always dismissive of this approach. So when it came time to try it out in daygame, it was the obvious route.

On my first daygame coaching session, I spotted a cute blond walking down the street. This was the perfect opportunity for a demonstration. I walked past her, turned 45 degrees, placed my hand on her shoulder and said, Hi. I just saw you and thought you looked cute. My names Tony.

I wouldnt have been surprised if she ran away screaming, but she didnt. She hooked. Even when a girl walks away, ignoring my approach, Im not discouraged. After all, Im a great guy, and she didnt give me a chance to show her, so I cant take it personally.

The success of the first few daygame attempts encouraged me to explore it further. Years later, Ive dated loads of women I met during the day, and now Im able to teach you what Ive learned.

Styles of Daygame

Direct vs. Indirect

In cold approach pickup, there are only three types of opener:

Direct, indirect and non-verbal.

Ill explain.

Direct : A direct opener is a line that gets straight to the point. Hi, I thought you looked great and wanted to meet you. Or, Your ass is like a giant peach. I want to bite it.

In daygame, the direct approach is very powerful. Its abrupt, masculine, and to the point.

Indirect: This opener slips under the radar. Its meant to stop her, and catch her interest long enough for you to spit your game. It also allows you to screen her for chemistry and attraction before committing to flirtation. Example: You spot a girl reading a book about Bali in the travel section of Barnes and Noble. Ive always wanted to see Bali. Are you a pro surfer, or just learning?

The Many Forms of Indirect Opener

Opinion opener: This method was most popular several years ago, when Neil Strausss book, The Game, hit the mainstream press. A classic pua routine, a memorized pickup line from the book was, Can I get a female opinion on something? The opener would usually transition into a memorized story that was designed to captivate or amuse the girl.

Unfortunately, it turned creatively stunted men into socially stunted androids.

Pickup is more art than science. Artists need to reinvent themselves, or their work suffers. You need to be constantly challenged, eternally pushing your edge. Its the same for the seducer. You are creating art, social art. Only by exploring the unknown will you emerge like Leo Dicaprio with a fist full of shark teeth.

The opinion opener works well if delivered properly. If you use it, do so for fun. Because you really dont give a shit about peoples opinions, do you? What do you really want? You want to bang hot women. Be real. Be all about that. All the answers come from experience. Nothing wrong with guidance, but follow your own path.

A classic opinion opener of mine, from A Thousand Tiny Failures, my first novel, is, Would you rather fight 100 midgets or one T-Rex? It has never failed to engage or captivate. Use it wisely, young Jedi.

Situational: Situational openers involve situations. This covers a very broad spectrum. It could be the weather, or a noise, like an ambulance. She could be in an art gallery, and staring at a painting. She could be watching a street performer. She could be buying new shoes, or shopping for groceries. She could be wearing a great outfit, or have a great vibe about herthat you just cant help commenting on.