Neal Cooper - Art of Speed Reading Body Language: The Last Dark Psychology Stress-Free Guide Everybody Needs to Analyze People Effectively through Human Behavior Psychology, Regardless What They Are Saying

At the core of all communication, there is a truth that we all know amongst ourselves. If you have a best friend that smells bad, of course, everybody kind of knows that the truth is she feels terrible. However, one person might tell her that she stinks and she needs to take more showers. Another person might try to say it more delicately, by asking them if they need any help with their hygiene, or they might mention how they are concerned that they aren't taking good enough care of themselves. Then there might be another friend who doesn't say anything at all. Instead, she puts together an elaborate gift package where she gives her soaps, lotions, perfumes, and other things that smell good. All three of these situations are communication. What we have to remember more importantly about language is that it is not just words that leave your mouth. It is everything from the top of your head to the tip of your tongue. Most individuals who believe that they have excellent communication skills are only talking about the words that they share. We have to consider all other aspects of our language and how it might be affecting people to truly understand what excellent communication is and what it might look like. Throughout this book, we are going to take you through every facet of language and communication that you will need to understand to have success.

We don't just communicate with the people that we like; we often communicate with people that we aren't so fond of as well. The better that you can learn all aspects of communication, the easier your life will be. Even if you are somebody who doesn't have a broad vocabulary, has trouble coming up with unique or creative words, or also as a person that stumbles or stutters, you can still have adequate and healthy communication.

It's all about tone, body language, what you're wearing, what you look like, physical objects, symbols, and other things that can all play into how we communicate with one another. Language is not just linguistics. That's what we need to understand. Your body can tell you so much more than anything else. Think of a simple phrase such as I'm fine.

These are two simple words stuck together that we say all the time. Anybody that asks us how we're doing, we always simply tell them, "I'm fine," "I'm good," or "I'm okay." These are simple phrases, but they can mean so many different things depending on every other factor. Imagine that somebody is sick, blowing their nose and coughing constantly. If they say "I'm fine," that's a clear indicator that they're not okay. If somebody's just lost a loved one, and they seem to be smiling a little bit, maybe with a positive and happier energy, and they say "I'm fine," then we know that that is about how they might be coping with the situation.

They're not exceptional, but you can still be content and a little bit more okay now than when they first found out about the death as they soon start to deal with the grieving process. Somebody else might say "I'm fine," with a delighted and cheery tone, letting you know that they a re beautiful. They really just mean precisely what they're saying. Then there are others who frequently use sarcasm. Perhaps they just slipped and fell on the sidewalk in the middle of a substantial icy block. They might put their thumbs up and say "I'm fine," with a sarcastic tone even though they clearly aren't.

While words are essential in communication, you have to remember how body language will play in. We can have full-on conversations with people without muttering more than just a couple of words based on body language alone. How many times have you been out to lunch or dinner with three or four people, and then there's one person that happens to say something embarrassing or silly? You might shoot a look at the other people around you, and everybody knows that what they said was awkward, but nobody is going to call them out for that. There are so many factors that will affect body language and how you communicate with other people. We are going to take you through all of these throughout this book. By the end of this reading, you're going to feel extremely comfortable picking up and understanding what somebody else's body language is trying to tell you (Cherry, 2019).