Adoption For Dummies
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Library of Congress Control Number: 2003105677
ISBN: 0-7645-5488-3
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About the Authors
Tracy Barr has been a part of the Dummies phenomenon for almost a decade. In that time, she has served as editor, editorial manager, writer, and consultant to the folks who write and edit For Dummies books. Most recently, she helped write World War II For Dummies with Keith D. Dickson, Latin For Dummies with Clifford Hull and Steven Perkins, and Religion For Dummies with Rabbi Marc Gellman and Monsignor Thomas Hartman. Her most challenging and rewarding role, however, is a personal one. She built her family through adoption and is the mother of four rambunctiously wonderful children. Her personal experience with adoption did not begin with her own children, however, but with her family of origin, which itself was built through adoption. As one of six children in an interracial family and as an adoptive mother, she is well aware of the issues that adoptees and their parents face.
Katrina Carlisle, BSW, LSW, is currently the executive director of Coleman Adoption Services, Inc., in Indianapolis, Indiana. Her duties include providing direct services to birthparents prior to placement and post-placement, conducting home studies and post-placement supervision visits for adoptive parents, providing search and reunion services for adult adoptees and birthparents, and leading transracial adoption seminars and other types of community education. She has three years of experience as a social worker in adoption and child welfare agencies. Two of her four children were adopted.
Dedication
From Katrina: In loving memory of my son, Bryce Ryan Carlisle October 16, 1979November 23, 2000 Always remembered, forever loved
From Tracy: To my husband, Larry, who has given my life happiness, and to my children Adam, Sarah, Mary, and Alex who have given it meaning.
Acknowledgments
From Katrina: I would like to thank the following people: My coauthor, Tracy, for asking me to do this project and then for having the patience to guide me through it. My husband, John, for his love and support in everything I do. My children, Derrick and Kara, for teaching me about adoption and allowing me to share their stories. My son Reid for understanding that his stories are not about adoption and, therefore, not in the book. My grandchildren for sharing their energy with me and my daughters-in-law for their encouragement. My mom and dad for their enthusiasm for this book and for telling everyone they know about it. My personal cheerleaders, Kenan and Mary. All my co-workers at Coleman Adoption Services, Inc., for believing in me and to all the wonderful birthmothers, adoptive parents, and adoptees who have taught me everything I know.
From Tracy: I would like to thank the following people: My coauthor, Katrina, for trusting me when I said that, together, she and I could actually write this book. My husband, Larry, for his love, support, and too many other things to list here. My children, for interrupting me regularly enough to remind me exactly why I took on the task of writing this book. And the people in the family I grew up in: my parents, Lanny and Mary Carmichael; and my siblings, Kelly, Sandy, Billy, David, and Wendy, just because.
From both authors: Several people helped create this book: Natasha Graf, Norm Crampton, Alissa Schwipps, and Tina Sims, the Wiley acquisitions and editing team that pulled everything together; Melitta Payne, of Bethany Christian Services, who graciously provided information on international adoptions; Kathy Gallop, of Lutheran Social Services, who took time from her busy schedule to read the manuscript and offer always helpful suggestions; and to all the people who shared their own adoption stories with us: Laura and Brian Allen, Sherry and Bill Frazer, Amy Young-Gray, Jon and Jennifer Kirkman, Charlotte Ottinger, Christine and Maurice Rembert, Leon and Tonna Thomas, Ilene Watson, and Carl and Vicki Witmer.
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