More Praise for The Dream Sleeper
This is the sleep book parents have been hoping to find! Sleep is one of the most important issues families face, and now youll know just what to doand feel good about it. The Dream Sleeper: A Three-Part Plan for Getting Your Baby to Love Sleep offers effective, comforting solutions to the question, How can I help my baby (and my family) to get good sleep?
Alan Greene, MD, FAAP author, Raising Baby Green and Feeding Baby Green
No need for stacks of books on the subject with Kira and Conner on your team! The Dream Sleeper offers every parent the knowledge, reassurance, and confidence needed for you and your new baby to navigate the challenging terrain of sleep.
Dr. Ingrid Schweiger, psychotherapist and author, Self-Esteem for a Lifetime
Written in a supportive and engaging style, this book is brimming with sound advice and practical pointers. I would recommend this book to new parents as well as to those who are already bleary, teary, or weary eyed!
Andrew Adesman, MD, developmental pediatrician; author, BabyFacts: The Truth About Your Childs Health from Newborn Through Preschool
Our moms absolutely love Dream Teams sleep advice. Kira and Conner are caring, down-to-earth, and their approach works. Our own kids are a testament to that.
Risa Goldberg and Leslie Venokur, founders, Big City Moms
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Herman, Conner, date.
The dream sleeper : a three-part plan for getting your baby to love sleep / Conner Herman and Kira Ryan and the expert advisors of Dream Team Baby.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-1-118-01842-2 (pbk.); ISBN 978-1-118-18144-7 (ebk); ISBN 978-1-118-18145-4 (ebk); ISBN 978-1-118-18146-1 (ebk)
1. InfantsSleep. 2. Parent and infant. 3. InfantsDevelopment. I. Ryan, Kira, date. II. Dream Team Baby (Firm). III. Title.
BF720.S53H47 2012
649'.122dc23
2011044982
To John, Emilia, Carter, and Charlotte. Im so lucky to have each of you in my life. Thank you for all that you give me and teach me every day. Your smiles and hugs were the sustenance that helped us get this book into the world. Without all of you, so much would not be possibleor fun. I love you with all of my heart.Kira Ryan
To my husband, Brad; our children, Wyatt, McCoy, and Everett; my father, Richard Wyatt, who basically moved into our home so we could finish this book; my mother, Marcia Wyatt, who let my father move in with us; and my in-laws, Sally and Steve Herman, who are always there when I need them. You are the most patient and selfless family I could ever ask for. Thank you for your understanding and belief in me. Without your confidence and support, this book, and our business, would not exist. I love all of you.Conner Herman
FOREWORD
We were seated at a table in the back of a nondescript Italian restaurant on the Upper West Side of New York City, talking about sleep. The invitation had come through Kira Ryan, an intelligent, gentle, and good-humored mother of one of my patients whom I had come to know over that past year. At the close of her daughters checkup one afternoon, Kira had asked if I would be interested in helping her and a friend create a sleep consulting business. Perhaps it was the abundance of sleep questions in my practice that day, perhaps it was the nightly 2:00 A.M. waking with my eleven-month-old son (who had previously slept through the night), or perhaps it was Kiras thoughtful excitement that inspired me to accept the offer. Whatever the reason, I found myself eating dinner that night with two women who were very excited about sleep.
Kiras friend and business partner, Conner Herman, is a warm, dynamic woman. She possesses an unexpected combination of southern graciousness and military-like determination. Kira and Conner described to me how they had met on the streets of New York, instantly connected, and shared their individual struggles with their childrens sleep. Conner confessed suffering months of guilt and exhaustion while fruitlessly wading though advice books, Web sites, and the well-meaning suggestions of friends. She told me that she had finally enlisted the help of a sleep consultant, and her family was literally totally transformed by sleepand I believed her. I believed her partly because Conner radiates trustworthiness and partly because I witness families changed by sleep every day in my pediatric practice.
When Kira subsequently found herself struggling with her daughters sleep, Conner (in the way only an empathetic best friend can) guided her through the process of helping her daughter learn to sleep. Kiras daughter began sleeping, and her family was transformed as well. Over the next several months, Conner and Kira started helping their friends solve relatively simple sleep issues with great success. They noted both the commonness of sleep problems as well as the unique way they played out in each family. They observed that when given specific knowledge and great empathy, most families had the ability to solve their childs sleep issues, and as they helped more and more families, they came to appreciate the large number of families who struggled with their childrens sleep yet didnt know where to go for support and help. It was these observations that led them to the idea of helping families through a business of sleep consultation. I thought their idea was brilliant. They were in search of expertise to deepen their understanding of sleep, and I was all too happy to lend my medical knowledge and perspective.