Copyright 2019 by Jerry L. Wyckoff, PhD and Barbara C. Unell
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Names: Wyckoff, Jerry, 1935- author. | Unell, Barbara C., 1951- author.
Title: Discipline with love and limits : practical solutions to over 100 common childhood behavior problems / Barbara C. Unell and Jerry Wyckoff.
Description: Revised edition. | New York, NY : Da Capo Press, [2019] | Includes bibliographical references and index. | Jerry Wyckoff is the first named author on the earlier edition.
Identifiers: LCCN 2019014515| ISBN 9780738285696 (pbk. : alk. paper) | ISBN9780738285702 (ebook : alk. paper)
Subjects: LCSH: Discipline of children. | Child rearing.
As the mother of six, I have found this book an invaluable beacon along the challenging road of parenting. It has been the go-to resource to inform and validate my parenting decisions, while granting me the fortitude to stand strong when I needed it most! Thank you!
Melissa Bernstein, Co-Founder and Chief Creative Officer, Melissa & Doug
I love the easy-to-use format that parents can turn to again and again in the moment to help children develop necessary skills for success. The tools in this beloved book change everyday struggles into teachable moments.
Wendy Webb, Mother, Grandmother and National Trainer, Parents as Teachers
As a clueless first-time mom, its so hard to balance my desire to give my child everything she wants with the need to raise a resilient, independent kid. This book shows the way!
Jen Saxton, Founder & CEO of Tot Squad
I believe that this book helps parents manage common, everyday behavioral issues efficiently and effectively. I confidently give this book to families, and they are so grateful for the support.
Stephen J. Lauer, PhD, MD, Associate Professor and Associate Chair, Pediatrics, The University of Kansas School of Medicine
When I read this books advice for the different behaviors, I felt like, Eureka! There IS a manual on how to parent! I think every new parent should get a copy along with her newborn!
Mariana Ramrez, LMSW, Director, Juntos, Center for the Advancing Latino Health
This completely updated book is the answer youve been looking for to raise a resilient, caring, problem-solving child. It is packed with the latest research in a very readable format followed by tips that can be referenced for years to come.
Laura Kaiser, Past Board Chair Communities in Schools of Mid-America Inc.
The discipline framework in this book really helps me talk with families about attachment, positive discipline, and the daily challenges of healthy parenting!
Kathryn Ellerbeck, MD, MPH, FAAP, Associate Professor of Pediatrics; Developmental Pediatrician, Developmental and Behavioral Sciences, The University of Kansas School of Medicine
Even with ideal role models and a healthcare background, parenting has been my most difficult undertaking. Each child is challenging in unique ways. This book has been a healthy, reinforcing influence on my parenting practice, facilitating my guidance in ways that support my children to flourish.
Kelli Kramer-Jackman, PhD, APRN, FNP, BC, RN-BC
Parenting can be tough work! This book adds positive, constructive tools to any parents toolbox.
Christopher J. Mehus, PhD, LMFT, Research Faculty, Institute for Translational Research in Childrens Mental Health, University of Minnesota
I loved Discipline with Love and Limits when it first came out. This revised edition builds on its foundation of supporting all kinds of families with kindness and respect, which is at the heart of the thinking and writing that created this vital parent companion.
Mark Weiss, Director of Education, Operation Respect
A healthy, safe, and enduring attachment is a childs lifeline. The wisdom and science provided in this book guides parents and caregivers in the practice of calm, curious, empathic, and loving responses to any child in their care.
Dennis Meier, PhD, Marriage and Family Therapist
We know that toxic stress and Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) have lifetime dangerous health consequences. So how do we help prevent or reverse their harmful effects? This book does just that. Its every parent and caregivers essential supportive, protective, discipline handbook.
Robin Shanberg Winner, Executive Director, Synergy Services, Inc.
This expanded edition gives us tools in these very challenging times to help develop greater resilience in parents and children, and empower them to affirm the goodness and kindness that is within them to help guide us to a more respectful, peaceful, time.
Peter Yarrow of Peter, Paul and Mary; President Emeritus and Co-founder, Operation Respect
In a world where instant gratification is the norm and information on anything and everything is flooding our minds, it is great to have this resource in our toolbox to effectively parent children.
Teresa Lovelady, MBA, MSW, President & CEO, HealthCore Clinic, Inc
This book is as valuable as having a wise, caring family member by your side as you walk the path of parenting and caring for children.
Laura Schmidt, Founder/Chief Positive Person, Notes to Self
Our heritage and ideals, our codes and standardsthe things we live by and teach our childrenare preserved or diminished by how freely we exchange ideas and feelings.
Walt Disney
When our children were little, we often heard said, Time just flies by. Your kids will be grown in a blink of an eye. Treasure the time you have together! We didand still do.
We dedicate this book to our precious families: Robert, Millie, Amy, Justin, Leah, Noah, Allison, Armon, Christopher, Sasha, Alexander, Julian, Hieronymus, and Samira.
And to you the reader and your children and grandchildren.
Dear Reader,
What if you knew of prescriptions that you could give your children that would reduce their lifetime risk of mental and physical health problems, including obesity; depression; anxiety; suicide; substance abuse; attention and impulse control; sexual, physical, and psychological abuse; heart disease; diabetes; lung cancer; and more?