Chris Bale - Seduction: One Mans Journey In The Land Of Women: Real Stories Of Failure, Experimentation & Success. Overcoming Social Anxiety & Fear. Flirting w Confidence

MY JOURNEY

This book is dedicated to documenting very old blog posts from a few years back, when I first began my Journey into becoming a better man, and an equipped man for dealing with women and seduction. I was unhappy and enough was enough.

There are random tales of seduction, getting my bearings, failing miserably, and really trying every different mindset and way of being that I thought would fulfil me. You will see me go through different exercises, using "direct" as a technique (face palm), and general goings on. This is not in chronological order. More of a Random collection.

Be aware that the below is not my current way of being or doing. But it IS how I got here, through going down every route. You will see how some of my ways of relating are toxic, unhealthy and completely detached from reality.

I do not encourage guys to fall so deeply into separate identities as I did, but I do encourage you to push the boundaries of what you ASSUME to be right or wrong for you. The concept of YOU, is a very fluid concept and one which needs to be explored.

I laugh at some of the stories here, and I am proud of little ol me for showing up, even when I was utterly clueless. I think that is what I had on my side. I was prepared to risk it all. I was prepared to crash and burn. This edge is what so many of the men I coach today are missing.

Now, I teach guys, and guide them to where I have eventually arrived, in a far quicker manner. So take everything below with a grain of salt. But it does go to show, that really, anything will work at least once! It's the vessel, not the paint job!

You can see hints of where I finally evolved to, and the processes which took me there.

Random Postings. Random thoughts. Random struggles. Random failures = Consistent success.

Enjoy.

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GRASPING SEXUAL EXPRESSION

This was the first interaction, where I threw over thinking(for the most part) to the wind, and focused on projecting clear, unapologetic sexual Intent. I learned lots from this simple interaction.

In the last week, I have only approached 2 women, both in the same night. Mainly as I was inside working most of the week, and I was out at a friend's gig Friday night. I approached the sexiest chick there direct. She had a boyfriend but loved it, I didnt do the best job either. Although I did deal with her cock block friend in a dominant and calm manner, which the chick I was hitting in clearly was impressed by.

The second girl, we were in a different bar, nearing the end of the night. I came back from the toilet, and saw all my friends leering at a blonde bohemian godly figure perched at the bar. Without hesitation, I confidently strolled over, focused only on the soles of my feet as they planted on the ground, whilst projecting a heavy dose of sexual intent.

Me: Hello

Her: ehhi

Me (silence, making hard eye contact)

Her: who are you (the pressure made her open me) Me: Chris

Her: ok, and what do you want. Me: what do you think I want Her: ha-ha I'm not quite sure Me: your gorgeous

Her: ha-ha thanks,

Me: (silence, just staring)

Her: I have a boyfriend you know Me: what else do you have?

Her: your ability to make everything sound filthy is impressive. Me: you look like an art student?

Her: oh really? Well bla bla bla(for a few minutes)

Fast forward: at this point which was about 5 mins later I kept taking and holding her hand. She would leave me hold it stroking with fingers under the bar while she started stroking back. She then would pull it away. I take it again a minute or so later.

At this point we were talking incredibly slowly and seductively about absolute

bullshit. Such as, sandcastles, favourite colours and I think at one point granite rock. It became enjoyable to bring up the most ridiculous of topics just so we could bask in the sexual tension. I was basically saying nothing most of the time, stroking her with intense sex eyes. This was all smack bang in the middle of a busy bar.

Eventually I could see her getting really jittery and twitchy, closing her eyes a little longer than was usual at times. I took this as a sign she was wet, so I moved in to whisper some irrelevant shit in her ear, brushed her neck with my lips, turned her chin and boom.

We made out for about 30 seconds REALLY slowly. I knew for anything to happen I would have to get her somewhere more private. After the kiss she started to get a little bit more uncomfortable every second. The icing on the turd pie that was the situationher boyfriend calls her phone as Im telling her this will be our little secret. She then has a mini meltdown and panics, says she has to go.

End of!

Lots of mistakes made, but lots of progress too.

What I learned: Discreetness is key!

Also I have finally grasped the concept of it does NOT matter what the fuck you say, and challenging any answer she gives by moulding into a sexual connotation is pure gold!

Oh news: I have purchased recording equipment so I can now record my interactions and put them up. Saves a lot of writing and will help me learn much quicker.

FINDING MY BEARINGS, LESSON, + SEX FAIL

I begin to get into the swing of things

I went out last night in attempt to turn this week's progress around. Fuckin smashed it!

I hit a club gig in the city to listen to some good music with a buddy of similar musical taste, and out of nowhere, I realised, there were lots of women hereHOT women!

Went to the bar, beside me, 2 very hot chicks, one brunette, one blonde, sisters. Opened the brunette immediately telling her she was cute. I then introduced myself to her sister and we all got talking. They were really eager. From out of town, and only here for the one night. They intended on fucking some guy for sure. They were both REALLY talkative and engaging. As it was early in the night, I didn't want to stick to these girls, so I got brunettes number, and left them. She kept telling me I'm only here for the one nightYes, this was not the last time in the night I walked away from sex. FAIL

We left the club, and went to a late bar which was FULL of hotties. I said fuck it and started literally machine gun approaching every hot chick I saw. Opened direct, along the lines of hey, I know this is random, but I saw you, your fucking hot/cute/stunning. In general, it was always received with a shocked/embarrassed/ appreciative smile or giggle. I would ask their name and immediately take their hand to start some type of physical touch. As always, I kept it low energy with solid eye contact. I feel once I connect with a chick with eye contact, the intensity pulls them into the interaction with you, it's like they don't even have a choice, and they are forced to adapt to my vibe, rather than coming in like a clown.

Now, mainly it was all rejections in terms of having boyfriends or not being interested. A few were definitely interested, but I fucked up by not knowing what to say next, and giving her no option to sadly walk away.

A funny moment that let me know how fucking cool taking action is, was a smoking hot leather bound girl I approached early in the night, who had dismissed me, but I didn't leave till I got 2 kisses on each cheek and kissed her cheeks back, walked straight up to me, pulled me to the side, and started to make out with me without a word being said. This is confusing to me, but fuck, that bitch is direct! After kissing a bit, I walked away (WTF), back to my friend

was standing there on his own. She looked over with a where are you going expression, and then she walked off. I.AM.AN.IDIOT. It was the end of the nightshe wanted to fuck. Lesson learnedGO OUT ALONE!!

I always opened strong, but I am beginning to see a sticking point for me, conversation.