Christopher Lowden - How I Cured Premature Ejaculation: And How You Can Too

Copyright 2015 by Christopher Lowden

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Contents

Preface

This book is an honest account of how I started suffering from premature ejaculation and how I eventually cured it. I developed the problem when I was 18 years old and for almost 3 years I kept thinking it would go away but it didnt. When I was 21 I started seriously trying to do something about it. By the time I was 22 I had managed to treat it effectively. At the time of writing I'm 26 years old and my problems with premature ejaculation are well and truly behind me.

Why did I write this book?

After the years of stress and suffering that premature ejaculation caused me, I feel I owe it to those of you still struggling to tell my story in the hope that you will be able to get over your PE too. I felt compelled to write this book because it's exactly what I wish had existed while I was trying to fix my PE. What really made me despair was the feeling of absence of advice or resources created by recovered sufferers of PE. None of the articles, downloadable PDFs, videos or anything seemed to be by previous sufferers of PE. It felt like no one had ever found a cure. They all seemed to repeat all the same tried and failed techniques and methods advocated everywhere else. Doctors felt too detached from the problem and showed no empathy or sympathy. More than anything I wanted a mentor.

I spent many, many hours scouring forums, googling for reviews of exotic sounding herbal remedies and treatment programs. I tried a few them too. I saw doctors and psychotherapists, I tried anti-depressants, creams, exercises; It was overwhelming. Each failed product, pamphlet or youtube video left me feeling despair and helplessness. I couldn't bring myself to ask for help or advice from friends for fear of being made fun of. I'm sure plenty of you reading this can relate. The sheer volume of things to try was mind boggling and it was hard to decide what to try and what not to, for the sake of not emptying the bank account.

Unfortunately, due to the nature of the problem, many of the marketed treatments and programs completely exploit that it's an embarrassing and desperate situation. I'm sure sufferers of PE are quite often willing to shovel out a lot of cash in the hope that this or that cure will be the one they've been waiting for, as I did, only to find it made little to no difference.

More than anything, I desperately wanted someone out there to sincerely acknowledge that they had once suffered from it, but had managed to cure it; that there was a solution. That was it. I wanted that person to tell me what they had gone through to achieve it, what they had tried and what had and hadn't worked. I couldn't find that person. At least not without getting to the bottom of their web page and seeing an exorbitantly priced book/dvd/treatment program I had to buy to learn their 'secret'. Scam alert!!!

Skip ahead to five years later and I can now be that person! Not the scammer, you fool, the person who has recovered and is willing to share their story. After the year so I spent making myself the human guinea pig of premature ejaculation treatments I can now offer the one thing I wish I had found at the start.

I'll begin by telling you how my problem started. Putting the source of my PE into context may help you form an understanding of how your own problem started and how it may be similar or different to my own. This may help inform you as to what approaches I outline in this book are most suitable to you. Understanding the root of the problem may be instrumental to your recovery.

How is this book better than other self-help books?

I hate self-help books and generally avoid them. Sure, they seem helpful and full of good stuff while Im reading them, but then I feel lost all over again once Ive finished. Theyre often marketed very well, and seemingly loaded with useful information. But they generally leave me feeling inundated with too many options and dont carve out a manageable, chronological, step-by-step guide as to how to go about dealing with my problems. Maybe Im expecting too much. Its been a long time since I read a self-help book as Ive generally given up on them. I often wished I could have asked the author yeah, sure, but how did you do it? How long did it take you?

With this book I aim to offer more of a companion-like experience. Im not a doctor. Im you. I had the problem youre looking to fix, I fixed it, and Im telling you exactly what I did to achieve that. Theres no mystery. Just the matter of going out there and trying the same thing. This book is a self-help / autobiography combination.

This is the book I wish had existed when I was suffering from premature ejaculation.

How it began

When I was 16 I entered my first relationship with a girl at school. After having been together for a couple of weeks we found an opportunity to have sex at my house when my parents went away for a weekend. I remember waiting for that weekend to come and how excruciating it was, the excitement and anticipation were so intense. The day finally came and it was a really great experience. There were none of the first-time horrors you hear about; just a lot of fun.

We were together for close to 2 years and I never had any performance anxieties or problems at all. If anything I sometimes struggled to climax if I was wearing a condom (we sometimes didn't bother and used the pull-out method. I don't recommend this to any young readers as it's not a reliable way to avoid pregnancy!).

At some point in our second year of being together she began talking again to an old friend of hers whom we'll call Chris. Chris had left the country before I joined the school. She told me they had merely reconnected as friends and were just enjoying catching up. He lived overseas at the time and I perceived him as no threat at all. I did feel a bit jealous though. Their text messaging and letter exchanges started to get more frequent and flirtatious (yes, they exchanged letters and yes, I stole and read them). I started getting suspicious, which made her defensive and aloof. Her attitude towards me and our relationship noticeably started to change. We started having frequent fights and she suggested breaking up several times, only to change her mind the next day. She would say she was just freaking out about school finishing and going to university. We were 18 years old.

This stage really started to take a toll on me. I was young and nave enough to not realise I should have just ended it for my own sake and that I was being treated badly. Instead, I continued to beg to stay together through all of our fights and I continuously forgave her for crossing the line with Chris.

The real blow came when I found out Chris had visited the country a few times and stayed with her. They had agreed to be together after she was finished ending our relationship, which she couldn't bring herself to do. She had also cheated on me several times by this stage, which had also crushed me pretty heavily. Why did you stay with her you idiot!? I don't really know.. I was young, inexperienced and thought I loved her.

During this messy, final stage of us being together is when my problem with premature ejaculation all began. We were still having sex, usually after a fight, and I gradually started losing my control. It's clear to me now that all the torment that her disloyalty and deceit was causing me was completely gutting me of my confidence and filling me with self doubt. It was having a strong effect on my self esteem. It got worse quickly, to the point where I wasn't lasting more than a few seconds. And this was with a girl I'd been regularly sleeping with for 2 years!