Benjamin Stone - Control Premature Ejaculation: Tips and Strategies to Control Premature Ejaculation

Control

Premature Ejaculation

Tips and Strategies to Control

Premature Ejaculation

By

Benjamin Stone

copyright 2013 by Benjamin Stone

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Thanks for downloading this book, Control Premature Ejaculation

First, I would like to congratulate you for doing this. Premature or early ejaculation is something that 30-40% of adult men experience but is also something that is kind of embarrassing to admit. It takes real courage to accept this problem, but now that you do, youre more than ready to take steps to do something about it. And that is what this book is for.

On the other hand, if youre a sexual partner of someone who has problems making it last in bed, and are reading this to help your partner, youre equally commendable. However, I recommend you make all intentions of aid and support clear to your partner in a secure space without judgment and pressure. Youll both enjoy the results in the end.

This book is divided into organized chapters for your ease of reading. It has vital information about early ejaculation, and healthy and productive tips, techniques, and practices to keep it from happening. I hope youll find this book helpful and enjoyable.

Premature or early ejaculation happens when orgasm comes early in sexual intercourse, sooner than one or his partner hopes. It comes as an uncontrolled orgasm with little sexual stimulation before of few moments, right after penile penetration. It may also occur without sexual intercourse, simply with masturbation.

An estimated 30-40% of men experience premature ejaculation, and many feel embarrassed to talk openly about it. However, if a man experiences this infrequently, chances are, it isnt so much of a problem and may only happen in few particular occasions such as when he is tired, or his last sexual activity has been quite long ago. Most men actually experience early ejaculation at some point in their life.

It is important to note the differences among the cases of premature ejaculation. Some conditions are classified as lifelong /primaryoccurs almost all of the time since first sexual experienceor acquired/secondaryoccurs sometime after a considerable amount of sexual experiences without any dysfunction. Reassuringly, most men who experience early ejaculation are most likely experiencing the secondary type, which is the less persistent condition.

For this book, we would pertain to premature ejaculation (may consistently be termed as PE) of the common kind.

One of the biggest effects of PE is unsatisfactory sexual intercourse, for both the man and his partner, and the sexual frustrations may further contribute to the problem. On the bright side, PE is a common and treatable condition. Dealing and treating PE may not only help in controlling the timing of ejaculation but also in the general improvement of sex for parties involved.

Reasons why PE varies from person to person and may be based on their individual circumstances. Most cases of PE do not even manifest obvious causes. However, if you find yourself frequently experiencing PE, you might find it helpful to check if you are also experiencing the following possible causes:

• Inexperience. Sexual ignorance does not actually cause PE, but it could explain why there isnt total control over the timing of orgasm. Learning how to control ejaculation comes with experience and age. It will usually get better in time.

• Change in a sexual partner. Unintentionally or not, sexual partners impose a level of expectation on men, whether they say it out loud or the man cooks it up in his head. Nevertheless, its there. In usual circumstances, particularly in exclusive sexual relationships, the pressure of the imposed expectation eventually lessens with constant intercourse with the same partner, establishing comfort, familiarity, and self-esteem. Changing partners may bring forth a new feeling of pressure, or intimidation, discomfort, and fear, which may cause PE.

• Psychological Factors . Mental state affects performance, particularly in sexual activities. Some of the causes may include performance-related anxiety, fear of failure, disappointment, and rejection, pressure and stress (even on other rather unrelated matters), relationship and personal issues, and many others.

• Malconditioning . Unhealthy or too strict upbringing and teaching of matters about sex may restrict the young males exploration of his sexual capabilities. Furthermore, sexual trauma (such as getting caught masturbating) and learning the wrong practices (such as masturbating quickly to avoid getting caught) may condition the wrong responses to sexual stimulation.
• Medical causes. Although these causes account for very little of PE cases, medical conditions ought to be seriously dealt with in order to address the PE issue. Medical causes may include disorders, damage of the nervous system, physical injury/ trauma, medication side effects, substance abuse, and/or effects post-surgery.

Before you self-diagnose and convince yourself that you have PE, it is important you assess your performance properly to avoid unnecessary negative feelings. It is also recommended to get your partners opinion and feelings about it, as it might turn out that you are worrying too much about your performance. Here are some signs that PE is a thing of concern:

• You frequently fail to recognize when you are about to ejaculate.
• You always or almost always orgasm within one to two minutes of penetration or masturbation.
• You are unable to control or delay ejaculation on most of your sexual intercourse or masturbation.
• You find yourself and/or your partner dissatisfied with most of your sexual intercourse.
• The conditions above are persistent.

One of the things we normally take for granted is the amount of stress we experience daily. And a fact we usually dont know about stress is that it does not only comprise of the things we worry or get upset about. Stress may also be a result of the ups and downs of our everyday lives that somehow manages to contribute to our mental, emotional, and physical wear and tear.

Stress also happens to be one of the contributing factors for premature ejaculation. Because the human body is designed to deal with and handle everyday stressors, it compromises other rather less important bodily functions to cope up with stress.

When in a stressful situation, the brain chemistry changes with the release of the stress hormones (cortisol, norepinephrine) that send signals to our nervous and endocrine systems. In response, the body increases heart rate for more blood circulation, stimulates the body for blood sugar and adrenalin for energy, and diverts blood from other areas (such as the genitals) to the limbs for strength.

In addition, the sympathetic nerves, which are responsible for the ejaculation urges, are stimulated whenever one is stressed. This increases sensitivity to pain and stimulation. When a man is highly stressed, and the sympathetic nerves have been stimulated even before a sexual activity, it is highly likely he will ejaculate too soon.

Moreover, stress also affects the moods, attitudes, behaviors, and the emotional and sensual availability of a man which directly contribute to his ability to perform an intimate and satisfactory sexual activity.