Barbara De Angelis - Ask Barbara: the 100 Most Asked Questions About Love, Sex, and Relationships

The 100
Most-Asked Question
About Love, Sex,
and Relationships

Dear Reader,

Everywhere I go, and I mean everywhere, people ask me questions about their love life. I can be eating dinner in a restaurant, standing in line for a movie, sitting on an airplane, or walking down the streetit doesnt matterand someone will approach me with a question theyre desperate to get answered. Ive talked to men and women about the most intimate details of their relationships in the strangest of places, from the dressing room of a department store, to the galley of a jumbo jetliner crossing the Atlantic in the middle of the night, to a hiking trail in the California mountains, to the restroom of a museum in Paris.

What do people ask me? ANYTHING!!! Ive had a salesperson ask me if I thought she should stay with her boyfriend even though he was sleeping with his ex-wife while I was buying underwear! Ive had a Marine officer roll down his car window and ask me to explain why his girlfriend was mad that he went to a friends bachelor party while his vehicle drove alongside mine at fifty miles an hour! Ive had a security guard at an airport ask my advice on how he could give his wife an orgasm while he X-rayed my carry-on bags! Then there was the time a cab driver was intent on discovering the secrets of getting women to be attracted to him and (as I discovered later) drove me miles out of my way in order to prolong the ride!

However unusual the circumstances or delicate the questions, most of the time Im happy to offer my answers to the people who approach me (that is, unless Im in the middle of chewing a mouthful of food, or trying to have an intimate night out with my husband!!). The reason is simple: I have great respect for anyone who has the honesty and courage to search for the truth about love, sex, and relationships. I believe that most of us need to ask ourselves and the people we love more questions, questions that will help us live with more integrity, love with more success, and move through our days and nights with more peace.

After almost twenty years of teaching about personal and spiritual development, it dawned on me that there were certain questions I kept hearing over and over again, at my seminars, through letters, on call-in radio and television programs. They are the kind of questions that anyone who has ever been in an intimate relationship needs the answers to. They are the questions youve asked yourself when youre lying in bed late at night, the questions your friends call and ask you when theyre having a hard time, the questions whose answers you wish youd had before your first date.

I wrote this book to be like a love encyclopedia, offering you information in various categories to help you with whatever youre going through at a particular time in your life. You can read the book from beginning to end, or just turn to a section that specifically applies to your issues right now. And whenever youre having an argument with your mate, or when youre wondering how to handle a particular situation in your love life, or when a friend in a romantic crisis calls you up asking for advice, look through the list of questions, turn to that page, and youll find the answer.