Barbara De Angelis - Real Moments for Lovers: The Enlightened Guide for Discovering Total Passion and True Intimacy

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Part Three

Part One

DISCOVERING THE SPIRIT OF LOVE

T his book is for lovers. It is for lovers who have already found their beloved, and are traveling the path of relationship together. It is for lovers who no longer feel like lovers, and want to rediscover their passionate connection again. And it is for lovers who are alone, waiting to live as the lovers they are meant to be until they meet their hearts true companion.

When you have a lover in your life, you are richly blessed. You have been given the gift of another person who has chosen to walk beside you. He or she will share your days and your nights, your bed and your burdens. He will see secret parts of you that no one else sees. He will touch places on your body that no one else touches. He will seek you out where you have been hiding and create a safe haven for you within his arms.

Your lover offers you an abundance of miracles every day. He has the power to delight you with his smile, his voice, the scent of his neck, the way he moves. He has the power to banish your loneliness. He has the power to turn the ordinary into the sublime. He is your doorway to Heaven here on Earth.

What does it mean to be a lover? It is more than just being married to someone or making love to him or her. Millions of people are married, millions of people have sex, but few are real lovers.

T o be a real lover you must
commit to and participate in a
perpetual dance
of intimacy with your partner.

You are a lover when you appreciate the gift that your partner is, and celebrate that gift every day.

You are a lover when you remember that your partner does not belong to youhe or she is on loan from the universe, and if you do not take good care of him, you will lose himhe will leave you emotionally, and maybe even physically.

You are a lover when you realize that nothing that happens between you will be insignificant, that everything you say in the relationship has the potential to cause your beloved joy or sorrow, and everything you do will either strengthen your connection or weaken it.

You are a lover when you understand all this, and thus wake up each morning filled with gratitude that you have another day in which to love and enjoy your partner.

W hen you and your mate forget that your relationship is a gift, when you dont remember to cherish one another, thats when you cease being lovers.

I think theres nothing worse than being in a relationship but no longer feeling like lovers. One day, you look at your partner and realize, with a sinking feeling, that I love him, but Im not in love anymore. The sacred bridge between your hearts has disappeared, and in its place, you are left with a gnawing emptiness. You may still share a bed, a home, even a family, but you dont share that ecstatic bond that true lovers share. You have become roommates.

Falling out of love and losing that magnetic attraction you once had does not happen overnight. It is simply the inevitable result that occurs when one or both of you take the gift of your partner for granted, when you stop thinking and behaving like lovers.