Palmer - Moving beyond betrayal: the 5-step boundary solution for partners of sex addicts

Special Praise for Moving Beyond Betrayal

The sexual betrayal partners of sex addicts experience is extremely difficult to overcome. Its easy to get stuck in the victim position, resentment, and reactivity. This splendid work by Vicki Tidwell Palmer provides a step-by-step process that will help partners of sex addicts move out of the trauma and into a more profound sense of intimacy with their partners. A wonderful read!

Pia Mellody

Senior Clinical Advisor for The Meadows and author of Facing Codependence, Facing Love Addiction, and The Intimacy Factor

Betrayal can put you in a tailspin and distort effective decision-making; while this is a normal process, having a personal as well as professional guide for recovery can ease the pain and hasten recovery. Moving Beyond Betrayal can serve as a caring companion through this difficult time, and facilitate a more satisfying outcome than you may imagine.

Pat Love, EdD, LMFT, CSAT

Co-author of Youre Tearing Us Apart: Twenty Ways We Wreck Our Relationships and Strategies to Fix Them

Finally. The book to help partners of sex addicts reclaim the most powerful part of their life after suffering from intimate betrayal. Following Tidwell Palmers compassionate, no-nonsense guidance will ensure the discovery of a vital, healthy sense of self.

Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT, CST

Founder and Clinical Director, Center for Healthy Sex, and co-author of Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence

Vicki Tidwell Palmer has filled a void in partner literature, and provided an extremely helpful resource for those who discover they are in a relationship with a sex addict. This clear guide on the purpose of boundaries and how to craft and set them will equip and empower partners of sex addicts to use boundaries wisely and well.

Marsha Means, MA

Author of the Journey to Healing and Joy: A Workbook for Partners of Sexual Addicts, and co-author of Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal

In the early days of sex addiction treatment betrayed partners were largely ignored or even blamed and labeled as enablers. Not infrequently, a partners painful trauma experience was either minimized or overlooked. Well, no more. Vicki Tidwell Palmer explains in a straightforward, useful way both why and how betrayed partners can set meaningful and empowering boundarieslimits that can aid not only their own healing, but also that of the addict and their relationship. A must read for anyone who has been negatively affected by a loved ones sexually addictive behavior.

Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S

Founder of the Sexual Recovery Institute (now Relativity at Elements), and author of Sex Addiction 101, Cruise Control, and Always Turned On

A survival manual for partners of sex addicts, with step-by-step instructions on coping with betrayal, trauma, and how to set boundaries. Vickis 5-Step format teaches partners to set boundaries that are empowering, and promote self-care and self-love. This book will be essential reading for recovering partners. I highly recommend it.

Stefanie Carnes, PhD, LMFT

Author of Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts and Facing Addiction: Starting Recovery from Alcohol and Drugs

Vicki Tidwell Palmer guides the reader through a practical and thorough journey to healing. Encouraging partners to move from an exclusive focus on the trauma of infidelity to the possibility of forgiveness, Moving Beyond Betrayal is a welcome and much-needed contribution to the self-help literature for the rapidly growing ranks of partners of sex addicts.

Kenneth M. Adams, PhD, CSAT-S

Psychologist and author of Silently Seduced and When Hes Married to Mom

Moving Beyond Betrayal eloquently offers partners a necessary distinction between powerlessness and finding the power to act. A much-needed ingredient for reclaiming the lost self post-betrayal. Vickis words guide a wounded heart back to respite and healing.

Kelly McDaniel, LPC, NCC, CSAT

Author of Making Advances: A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Female Sex and Love Addicts and Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships

An important resource for wounded partners who are trying to find their way out of the maze of trauma caused by their partners sex addiction. Vicki Tidwell Palmer has made an important contribution to the body of recovery literature.

Milton S. Magness, D.Min.

Author of Stop Sex Addiction and Real Hope, True Freedom

A tremendous new resource. Tidwell Palmers clear voice combined with well-placed, true-to-life examples leads readers toward a realistic vision of regained footing and an action plan that honors ones reality. We cannot wait to share this book with the spouses and partners we work with. Thank you Vicki!

Drs. Bill and Ginger Bercaw, CSATs, CSTs

Authors of The Couples Guide to Intimacy and From the Living Room to the Bedroom

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2016 by Vicki Tidwell Palmer

All rights reserved. Published 2016.

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Palmer, Vicki Tidwell, author.

Title: Moving beyond betrayal : the 5-step boundary solution for partners of sex addicts / Vicki Tidwell Palmer.

Description: Las Vegas, NV : Central Recovery Press, 2016. | Description based on print version record and CIP data provided by publisher; resource not viewed.

Identifiers: LCCN 2016002067 (print) |LCCN 2016000455 (ebook) | ISBN 9781942094159 (ebook)

Subjects: LCSH: Sex addiction. | Sex addicts--Rehabilitation. | Adjustment (Psychology) | BISAC: PSYCHOLOGY / Interpersonal Relations. | FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Marriage. | PSYCHOLOGY / Psychopathology / Addiction.

Classification: LCC RC560.S43 (print) | LCC RC560.S43 P35 2016 (ebook) | DDC 616.85/833--dc23

LC record available at http://lccn.loc.gov/2016002067

Photo of Vicki Tidwell Palmer by Rupa Kapoor. Used with permission.