Morgan Johnson - Rebuilding Trust: Guided Therapy Techniques and Activities to Restore Love, Trust, and Intimacy in Your Relationship

Acknowledgments

I want to thank all of the clients who have trusted me to walk alongside you. You taught me more about trust and forgiveness than any training ever could, and this project would have been impossible without all our experiences together. Id also love to acknowledge and appreciate the endless support and uplifting I received from my incredible community of family, friends, therapist, colleagues, editors, and mentors. It will never be lost on me how privileged I am to be where I am, connected with the wonderful humans I am, with the opportunity to serve in this way.

Finally, I want to thank the experts and authors whose invaluable research, knowledge, and teachings have been critical to my own training and work as a relationship counselor and trust-recovery specialist. This book would not have been possible without the incredible work of Jean Baker Miller, Harriet Lerner, Sue Johnson, Esther Perel, bell hooks, John and Julie Gottman, Caryl Rusbult, Shirley Glass, Richard Schwartz, Stephen Porges, Dan Siegel, Deb Dana, Kimberl Crenshaw, Emily and Amelia Nagoski, Stan Tatkin, Diane Poole Heller, Babette Rothschild, Layla Saad, and Pema Chdrn. Youll hear their voices and wisdom mentioned often, and I reference their work throughout this book.

About the Author

Morgan Johnson, MA is a licensed professional counselor (LPC), trust-recovery specialist, speaker, and author living in Austin, Texas. She received a BA in psychology from Wake Forest University and completed an MA in counseling at St. Edwards University. She experiences a sense of purpose through helping people connect with themselves and others in her practice as well as through her writing. When she isnt working, Morgan can be found outside enjoying the Texas sunshine with Leo the dog or tucked away with a book and Bruce the cat. You can connect with Morgan on social media @ConnectWithMorganJohnson.

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