Bowe Packer - Cheating Spouse: Discover The Practical Steps On How To Catch A Cheating Spouse

Cheating Spouse

Discover The Practical Steps On How To Catch A Cheating Spouse

Bowe Packer

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This publication is intended to provide helpful and informative material. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any health problem or condition, nor is intended to replace the advice of a physician.

Please understand that this guide is intended to help you stay focused and uncover facts and is not the end all be all.

There is much to learn about the ins and outs of a cheating spouse. You will run into things the author did not, that is just the natural process of life. However, the author has made every effort to provide you with sound information at a good price.

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Kindle Edition 2013

Manufactured in the United States of America

Dedication

I dedicate this book to all those people out there who remind us of the things we have forgotten about ourselves.

And this holds especially true of my beautiful and amazing wife, Alma. She is the one woman who has the most amazing talent to let me grow and love the things about myself that I have not fully accepted.

I cherish the love she has for me when I may not know how to love myself.

May we all have this kind of beautiful soul in our life.

Sent from LOVE,

Sunshine In My Soul

Part I: Uncovering What Is The Truth

If youre in a relationship then you know there are many different things that can go wrong. Couples fight all the time over just about anything and everything. They also could have bigger problems such as infidelity. As far as the larger problems in life go, infidelity is one of the most common for married couples to face.

Its actually part of the problem with todays world that infidelity is occurring with increasing frequency. Because email, instant messaging, social networking and texting are becoming so commonplace it is faster and easier for married men and women to locate, begin and carry on illicit relationships with a third party. Luckily for you however, its also far easier to determine if cheating is truly occurring with the advent of these forms of technology as well.

Anyone reading this book likely believes that their spouse may be cheating on them. It could be just about anything that makes you think suspiciously of that other person. Perhaps you notice that your spouse is no longer helping with the chores as much as they used to. Maybe theyre not coming home as early after work or maybe they seem to be spending a lot of money without a reason or explanation.

Most likely youve noticed the changes for quite some time but youve been hoping that it wasnt true and youve been pushing the ideas and thoughts away as long as possible. Well this book is definitely going to help you to determine the truth of the matter.

Chapter 1- Following Your Gut Instinct and Rationalization

Now when you think that your partner is cheating you want to remember that you may be right but you may just as well be wrong. The chance is only 50/50 either way and theres no in between. Your partner is either cheating or theyre not and those are the only options. In this chapter youre going to need to look at what you know and what youve found in order to really uncover what your suspicions are.

If you have an instinct that your partner is cheating there is a pretty good chance that they are. Your intuition is typically good and will generally help you to see whats coming and whats been happening behind your back. Of course you dont want to react and jump on your partner for your intuition. You want to make sure that youre right before you say anything because you dont want to hurt them with false accusations.

When you start noticing changes in your partner you want to take a closer look. Think about the changes that your partner has made and try to determine if there are any other reasons for them besides cheating. Its possible that your spouse or partner is experiencing stress or tension or that they are feeling depressed. Any type of change in their life from a promotion to losing a job or losing a loved one can cause them to feel inadequate or more important and therefore cause changes in their life.

When you have weighed out all the possible reasons for your partners behavioral changes other than cheating and none are present its time to look at other reasons. Look at your relationship with your partner and think about how it has changed over the past few weeks, months or years. Have there been changes between the two of you that could cause them to act differently? Is it possible that they are simply reacting to something that is happening in your relationship and not outside it?

Make sure that you arent blaming anyone when you do all this reflection. Make sure you dont blame yourself or your spouse for the changes to either one of you. Blaming someone is not going to help anyone. It will not fix any problems in your relationship and it will not make anyone feel better. Instead, what you need to do is think about other ways to fix your relationship. You may be able to talk about the problems or you may find that your relationship just cant be fixed.

All of these things are considered to be rationalization. You rationalize things to help get rid of the worry about them. When you rationalize the changes your partner is making it can be a good thing because you are starting to listen to reason. On the other hand if you start to ignore obvious signs that something is going wrong then the rationalization begins to become a problem. Dont rationalize away problems that may be happening in your family.

The opposite side of rationalization is self-doubt. When you start to think that absolutely everything your partner does or every change that is made in their life indicates cheating then you are falling into self-doubt. Your partner may start to insinuate to you that its your fault they are acting the way they do. They may start to explain away feelings of doubt on your part as something wrong with you.

As far as most people have found there are very few who tend to admit to cheating. Only about 7% admit to the cheating and they only typically do this after their partner has found evidence and presented it to them. Even after the evidence is given some still decide to refute the charges.

One big misconception about cheating is that its all about sex. Not all affairs are actually about sex at all. In fact, a lot of cheating has to do with actual affection and faith. When those feelings happen it actually causes even more trouble than if the relationship were just about sex. This is because partners feel less threatened if their partner does not have actual feelings for the other person they are cheating with.

Chapter 2- Become The Detective

When you love someone you dont want to spend your time spying on them. You want to be able to trust that person and you definitely want to believe they love you. Because of these things you want to believe that they are doing everything they do to promote those things. If you are starting to have ideas that your partner is cheating then you need to look for the evidence.