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Dedicated to my parents, who taught me manners. And to
Kostyn, to whom I will pass down those lessons.

Introduction

Congratulations, youre engaged! Youre about to embark on one of the most exciting and harrowing journeysplanning your wedding. Its a joyous time filled with cake tastings and gown fittings. But it also can be a time of disagreements and hurt feelings if you dont follow proper etiquette rules!

This book is designed to give you a leg up on todays wedding-etiquette guidelines. Regardless of how formal or traditional your nuptials will be, you must be aware of some tried-and-true rules to ensure that your guests all feel welcome and comfortable.

I let you know whats appropriateand whats not!every step of the way, from wording the invitations to registering for gifts. When things have changed over time, I point out what used to be considered proper so you have a benchmark to go by. And I describe how couples of different backgrounds and circumstances handled various etiquette obstacles while planning their own nuptials.

You can have the wedding of your dreams that pleases not just you and your mate but everyone in attendance. It just takes some careful consideration and, at times, a tough decision or compromise. But dont fret: all that extra effort adds up to one wonderful wedding.

Extras

Throughout the book, these sidebars contain extra nuggets of etiquette information:

Wedded Bliss

Use these tips when planning your wedding to ensure proper etiquette.

Bridal Blunder

These warning sidebars help you avoid common planning mistakes.

History of Love

These tidbits give you background on matrimony traditions.

Acknowledgments

Id like to thank the brides and grooms who shared their wedding woes and etiquette missteps with me, and to the etiquette experts out there who are taxed with keeping us all in line.

Researching for this book brought back memories of planning my own wedding, and all the stress, joy, and confusion that went with it. Thanks to my mother, sisters Lisa and Kielynn-Marie, and my bridesmaids Sheila and Kim for gently guiding me in the right direction more than a few times, supporting my decisions, and rejoicing in my good fortune every step of the way.

I couldnt have done this project without my agent, Kim Lionetti at BookEnds, and the hard-working staff at Alpha Books, including Executive Editor Randy Ladenheim-Gil and Senior Development Editor Christy Wagner.

Finally and most important, thanks to God for blessings large and small. And to the two men in my life: my husband, Christopher, whose support and generosity amaze me every day, and my son, Kostyn, the light of my life. I wrote this book, in more ways than one, for you.

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Chapter 1

First Comes Money, Then Comes Marriage

In This Chapter

Who pays for what?

Setting a budget

Creating a guest list

Youre engaged! Congratulations! But before you start making any plans, you must figure out how much youve got to spend on this special occasion.

In this chapter, I outline who traditionally pays for what and share the best ways to go about finding out who, if anyone, plans to help you finance your wedding. I also help you create a guest list that works for your budget.

Wedding Finance 101

Traditionally, the brides parents footed the bill for the wedding and reception, or at least the majority of the wedding expenses. Today, although many parents still finance their childrens weddings, theyre not obligated to so.

Bridal Blunder

Dont obligate yourself to invite someone who otherwise might not have made the cut. When speaking to potential guests, answer something noncommittal, like Im so touched you want to come! Im not sure yet how small or large the wedding will be, so Ill have to let you know.

Dont take for granted that either set of parents can foot the bill for whatever lavish affair youre envisioning. Its essential to have frank discussions with everyone involved early on in the planning stages so everyone is clear about who is paying for what.

Traditionally, Who Pays for What?

When considering expenses, its helpful to see the customary guidelines for paying wedding costs.

Paid for by the bride:

Grooms ring

Gift for the groom

Gifts for attendants

Blood test for marriage license

Lodging for brides out-of-town attendants

Accommodations for clergy, if necessary

Paid for by the brides family:

Bridal consultant/wedding planner

Invitations and announcements

Church and reception flowers

Brides bouquet

Bridesmaids bouquets

Music for ceremony, including organist fee

Transportation of bridal party to ceremony site and reception

Church fee

Reception dinner

Music at reception

Paid for by the groom:

Brides ring

Gift for the bride

Gifts for attendants

Marriage license

Mothers corsages and boutonnieres for men in wedding party

Lodging for out-of-town best man and ushers

Clergyman fee

Honeymoon expenses

Paid for by the grooms family:

Traveling expenses and lodging, if necessary

Reception beverages

Reception hors doeuvres

Gift for couple

Rehearsal dinner

Paid for by the bridesmaids:

Dress and accessories

Transportation to and from the wedding

Gift for couple

Bridal shower

Paid for by the ushers:

Transportation to and from the wedding

Wedding attire rental

Gift for couple

Bachelor party

Paid for by the out-of-town guests:

Transportation and accommodations

Gift for couple

For years, it was standard procedure for wedding expenses to be divvied up in this manner. But these days, no hard-and-fast rules govern who should pay for what. Plenty of exceptions apply, based on the financial means of the bride, groom, their parents, and the attendants. And many couples today can pay for their own weddings. Also, attendants often pay for their own accommodations.

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